I've been with my partner for over 20 years. We are happy - ISH!! Started great then the rot set in. I have spoken to him, argued with him, threatened to leave......but nothing has changed! He thinks we are fine.......we are not! We do not sleep in the same bed - his choice, not mine. We no longer have sex, again, his choice not mine. We last had sex about 5 years ago and for 5 years befor..