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My wife cheated on me

Monday, May 16, 2016 11:38 AM by Guest Rating: +20|-7

2 weeks ago my wife decided to confess to her lies and cheating. We have been together 10 years. Married 4 with 2 kids now 4 and 1.

Over the course of our relationship, before marriage, she cheated on me. Numerous times with 10 different men. I knew a couple of them. 

A one point early on we talked about previous relationships. She told me she had one boyfriend before me. Now the number is 19. 8 of which were during our relationship. 

Right before her telling me we were at a high point in our love. Everything was great. Love, sex. 2 amazing kids, living the dream. I truly love her more than anything and that is why I picked her. 

Now this. I am crushed. 

All I do is picture her with these guys fucking them.

 I cannot believe this is happening. Still sinking in after 2 weeks.

One guy she confessed to meeting at a motel and doing crystal meth and fucking. 

One was in a car. One was her ex. The list goes on and on. 

This was all before we got married  and was years ago. She is saying she loves me will never do it again and wants me to  forgive her. 

How can I? I don't think I can ever get these images out of my head. 

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Tuesday, May 17, 2016 1:35 AM
Bay Area Rick

Once a Cheater Always a Cheating ho. Set your finances in order and hide them. Then leave her sperm-burping gutter slut behind! Unless you got no backbone. You can get custody if you can prove any of it. It is ABANDONMENT of the children to commit adultry and several times... Dont tell her, just stack your case bro. Or take it like a dweeb!

 
Tuesday, May 17, 2016 7:42 AM
Guest

Like the comment above. Get your shit together and leave it's for the best find someone trustworthy and that truly loves you.

 
Tuesday, May 17, 2016 10:37 AM
Guest

Where the fuck does everyone find these hoes

 
Tuesday, May 17, 2016 12:32 PM
Guest

You should have joined didtheycheat.com and found out a lot sooner...

 
Tuesday, May 17, 2016 12:40 PM
Guest

I think she's being very honest. I think she truly loves you and shes allowing you to make your decision on the truth. Seems like she got it out of her system by telling you. Good luck

 
Tuesday, May 17, 2016 4:10 PM
Guest

She confessed which is a good sign.  Reconcilation is possible when a wayward spouse confesses.  She could have kept you in the dark and you would have never known. You need to rebuild trust.  She must give you all passwords to her accounts.  I would install a keylogger to verify she has been faithful. I would also get individual counseling to help you heal.  Do you believe she has been faithful since you have been married.  Why did she cheat?  Why did she confess?  Many times an unfaithful spouse will confess if they believe the other betrayed spouse is about to find out.  I am curious on why she confessed. 

 
Wednesday, May 18, 2016 9:30 AM
Guest

I have the same issues. This is the second marriage for both of us. My wife admitted to sleeping with 28 guys back in the day and I did the wow thing when she talked about it. She travels quite a bit for work and it is the other 20 or so she has not admitting to fucking. I guess I am a broke toy because really if she indicated she needed something else on the side I would try to openly tolerate it but I don't think that will ever happen. So all I need to decide is where to go from here.

 
Wednesday, May 18, 2016 9:32 AM
Mr2kinky

@Most recent guest post.

 

just let her fuck whoever she wants.. She deserves to be fully sexually satisfied. 

 
Wednesday, May 18, 2016 7:05 PM
Guest

Past relationship is just that, past relationship, whether it's 1 or 19.  Has your wife cheated on you since you two married?  She confessed to you about all this sleeping around which happened before you two got married.   She said this will never happen again.  Give her the benefit of the doubt.  You chose her and she chose you to be married to, to have a children with, to start a family with.  You were happy and love her before she confessed to you, right?  Remember, all this happened before you got married, before you two tied the knot and be commited to each other.  Forget about the past.  That happened a long time ago.  

 
Wednesday, May 18, 2016 7:47 PM
Guest

Kick her to the curb.  She's still lying to you.

 
Wednesday, May 18, 2016 9:44 PM
Guest

response: she did cheat one time after we were married. but not sex, just kissing and making out with a guy. she stopped it when he took her top off apparently. still bothers me a great deal. she was supposed to be visiting her mom with our 1 year old while i was working like a dog.

this is one of the guys she cheated on me and fucked while we were living together. then there are 7 more she fucked while we were living together and i thought we were monogamous. then 2 additional she says were just kissing only, no sex. so that is 10 total guys she cheated on me with. 

the problem i have is obvious. we were so happy. traveled and took vacations 3 or 4 times a year to beautiful locations in the usa and abroad. stayed at nice hotels etc etc. such wonderful memories. now they are tainted. i look at photos and wonder which guy or guys she fucked before or after the photo.

one photo i asked her the other night about. i asked who took it, thinking it was me and she could remind me where we were. she tells me paul took it. what? 

then there are the 11 other guys she fucked before me. i know its before and really nothing to do with me. but the fact is she lied. she said it was one. it was 19. 

the 8 that she fucked during our relationship hurt the most though. some were without condoms or she can't remember. one dude she met 3 differetn times and did crystal meth with him and they fucked. i knew this guy and was suspicious at the time. he was a "friend"

then there was one of her roommates. i was also suspicious. she admitted to fucking him on several occasions too.

then when she visited her parents in her hometown. she fucked her ex. she fucked carl. she fucked oscar. all friends form before that she fucked or dated. then ther is lou from when she visited her brother. 

i can't even keep track it is so many and so crazy to me.

 

i just keep going down the list and picturing their acts. the going out, hanging out and having fun. then kissing that leads to sex. 

yes it is prior to marriage, but wtf man.......how do i forgive her for this.....doesnt' seem like time will heal this. every day i wake up with this nausea. then sad then mad.

all the while i have to smile and be super dad to my kids like nothing is going on....

she says she is sorry, she loves me. she wished she didn't do it etc etc...... but when she told me she changed everything and altered my reality and my past memories of us.

thanks for all the comments please keep them coming! 

 
Thursday, May 19, 2016 5:28 AM
Lanah102

If you stay then it must be you on crystal meth

 
Friday, May 20, 2016 3:49 PM
Guest

I highly suggest you start having your fun. It's basically an open relationship now. When ever other women give you the opportunity take it. There's nothingshe can do stop you now. It's probably best if she feels what you feel. Don't lay down like a dog. Man up. You are a father and that's what you need to stick to. As far as being a husband she has just taken that away from you because now your marriage is a lie. None of it is real. Those trips weren't real cuz she may have been there with you physically but mentally where was she. I think it's time for you to open your world and see what's out there. Meet other women, go to the bar. Start hanging out and make her stay home with the kids. After you have done all that see how you feel. I think you should at least separate. Being around her may not be helping you

 
Friday, May 20, 2016 4:08 PM
Gantz

She didn't respect you enough to stay true to you (even if it was before you married) on the other hand she did do this before you tied the knot but that just means she valued her sense of "marriage morality" rather than staying straight and true for you because she loved and respected you. Ask yourself this: if she didn't love you enough enough to stay loyal before marriage then why would she after? Again even if she has actually been loyal after marriage, that just means "god" (probably, if you're both religious) or society (it's views on a married man or woman cheating) are what set her straight. Not her love for you. I am sorry my friend but even having kids didn't stop her from dumping them off somewhere safe (One would hope at least, god/nature/goodness forbid she took the child with her to her boy toy) and taking another man's penis inside herself and shamelessly giving in to carnal pleasure all the while having you and most importantly a child with you. I'm sorry to say this but she isn't worth the trouble. Nothing stopped (certainly not morality) her then and nothing can stop her now but "marriage" according to her. How do you know for certain if she hasn't cheated on you while married?

 
Friday, May 20, 2016 4:20 PM
Gantz

To add to that. She may only be partially telling the the truth to hide her guilt. It is up to you tho, ultimately.  Do you love her enough to forgive her? It's good to listen to other's opinions but don't get completely taken in by any of them (including my own) can you live a life with her knowing she put her lust above you and your child? Sadly more than once to boot. Honestly that's what saddens me most for you and your kid. She betrayed you and even when with her kid, she was looking for a good fuck. Doesn't matter if all she did was "make out" if that's even true. But if you can honestly forgive her, make her spill the whole truth and go to counciling to figure out what fucked up bullshit made he betray her family like this (doesn't matter that it was before marriage) good luck, friend. You'll need it. And a little tip but don't take your anger out on her by fucking other women. If you must then do so after you divorce her. I'm not religious in the least but god or not; marriage is a bond of trust and just because she fucked that up doesn't mean you should too (you'd be slightly vindicated to do so but don't) Be a hu(MAN) of honor unlike your wife and set an example for your kids so that you can live a life you can be proud of.

 
Friday, May 20, 2016 4:23 PM
Guest

My 1st post to you started with this: "Past relationship is just that, past relationship, whether it's 1 or 19." at Wed, May 18, 7:05pm.

Here is my 2nd post.  I can understand how you feel.  I'd feel the same way.  If she was really sorry and love you, then she would have to agree to some ground rules you'll have to set for her.  She cannot visit anyone with you or your kids.  If she has to go shopping, she has to take BOTH kids with her and they be by her side at all times, no dropping kids off at relatives, friends, daycare, etc.   She cannot go out with friends without you.  If you don't want to go out, then she has to stay home.   She always has to answer her cell phone at the 1st few rings, non of this "I missed your call".   She has to agree to have a cell phone tracker installed on her phone.  She must give you total access to her cell phone to check for messages, text, pics, etc.  Or other rules you can think of.  You tell her that she cannot be trusted to be alone.  If she really love you and is sorry for cheating, then she would agree with the rules you've set for her.  

If she do not agree then you have these options.  Stay married and just deal with it.  Or stay married until both of your kids are 18 then divorce her.  Or have an open relationship where you can sleep with other ladies.  Or set your finances and call a lawyer to divorce her now.   She has to make her decision, then you have to make your decision based on hers.   Good luck, you have some tough decisions to make and a tough rode ahead.

 
Friday, May 20, 2016 4:25 PM
Guest

2nd post fix - She cannot visit anyone WITHOUT you, not with you or your kids.

 
Friday, May 20, 2016 4:29 PM
Guest

Please tell what you think and what you plan to do.

 
Wednesday, May 25, 2016 7:48 AM
Guest

Honestly. She has been faithfull to you since she took a vow to do so. IF..IF this all happened BEFORE you got married then I dont think its an issue worth ending the marragie over. She came to you about things she did BEFORE she was yours and yours alone. It sucks and had you known then you probably would left, but you two have a life and childerne together. THe vows you both spoke still remain intact.

 

Personally, Id forgive her and move on. Keep in mind the term "once a cheater always cheater" is pretty valid, but your WIFE has never cheated on you...your past GIRLFREIND did. Also, watch her like a hawk for a long time. This new found remorse may be due to something happening recently and shes just prepping you for bigger issues.

 
Saturday, May 28, 2016 6:59 PM
Guest

I also would like to know on what you're thinking and plan to do.

 
Thursday, July 21, 2016 5:30 PM
Guest

I think sex becomes an addiction for some women as it does for men.  It doesn't excuse it, but can be like drugs and alcohol.  I also tend this to be a curiousity for women that haven't experienced many men in their lives.  There will be a time they want to experiment.  I hope you work it out and see things more than personal against you, and more of her needs, and if you can adapt and understand her.  Good luck.

 

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