Monday, March 7, 2016 11:08 AM by Lost guy
I've been seeing a younger woman for about 6 months -- I am 36 and she is 23. We met on a Fetish website seeking Dom/sub relationships. We clicked so well and both very new to that type of lifestyle, we decided to become boyfriend/girlfriend and Dom/sub.
We live about 2.5 hours from each other which creates many issues. We would see each other once a week in the beginning but lately it's been more like once a month. We would talk every day, assign tasks and rules that she would complete. Phone contact was 24/7 essentially.
Rules were no entertaining attention from other men...for sure no intimacy. We discussed exploring more with 3somes...which was a bad idea. She claimed to know a guy, never hooked up with him and was not attracted to him -- seemed purely for experience. I went away last weekend and it turned out she went to him and hooked up. She admitted this to me and I lost it. I demanded she cut him off ASAP. She claimed to and showed me the text. I wanted to believe it but knew better...
She came to my house yesterday. We hung out, hooked up and had dinner. She continued to say she felt bad and didn't know how to get past it all. She claimed to love me and wanted to work things out. I was driving her back to her car post dinner and decided to ask her if she would show me her phone. She suggested this prior to meeting up. She refused and finally admitted to still texting this guy...in fact he sent her a pic of himself and his daughter...wtf? This was a huge blow to my ego. Dude is 45ish, seasonal lifeguard and uneducated with a child. I know this shouldn't matter but stating for context. She actually met this guy because he was her instructor one summer for lifeguard school or something. I gave her an ultimatum -- choose me or him. Cut him or I walk. She sat in my car with this dramatic stare and kept refusing. I asked for a necklace back that I gave her earlier in the day (no shame lol). She left a Valentines Day card in my car and that was that.
She has attempted to text me several times since the incident last night but I have not responded. Mostly small talk to see if she can get a response, nothing of substance or cutting the other guy off.
Any advice? I want to mail her back the sealed and unopened card she got me and say nothing ever again.