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After 10 years

My wife cheated on me

Thursday, June 9, 2016 7:28 AM by Diud Rating: +11|-10

one Sunday morning( March 13th) I discovered on her phone some messages with his colleague from work like "I miss you".... And so on. That is when hell opened to me.

we were together for almost 10 years and since 2010 married. We have a beautiful 5 yrs daughter that amazes me everyday how smart and good and kind she is. Now she is my only sense in life!

I loved my wife and never cheated on her, even never felt attracted to other women as she was everything I needed. She was perfect for me- or that is what I felt of her.

 

i told her I forgive her! 

She wants to divorce now! I accepted this. Only for our daughter as she loves her mom too much! I feel that I cannot fight for this relationship only by myself. She never fighted! She said she cannot!

Now she told me she felt I was not loving her for more than 1 year and she tried to told me... Like 3 discussions that ended in 1 minute and statted with "You do not feel attracted of me? ". I always said no, I love and like you soo much but I had my problems at work and had to put the things on the right track and she knows all about them.

 

I wrote in more details on my blog where also I put updates daily..

i do not know how my life will be! I do not know whether I would be able to love a woman again abd trust her and be as goof as I could be. It is so fucked up everything! How will my child see me? She will stay with her mom as I cannot separate her from her mum. She is too young at 5....

hoe will I be able to move on? At 35 with a kid, what is my status? What other woman will think about me? That I have issues since I am divorced...

fuck it! Fuck her and fuck all women that always want more then they have! I was a good husband! People around always said we are a peferct couple! Perfect couple my ass...

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Comments

Thursday, June 9, 2016 6:21 PM
Guest

You must separate your anger at your wifes actions from your anger towards yourself. When a person finds themself in your situation they tend to blame themselves to some degree. Don't. You didn't cause her to cheat on her FAMILY! That was pure foolish selfishness. Your only error was marrying her in the first place. Forgive yourself. We all only get one chance at life and most of us screw up by marrying a loser! People get divorced at a rate of 50% and of those that stay married probably only 25% at most have decent marriages. So, the odds were 3:1 that you would lose! You can get better odds in Las Vegas! You need to move on. Choose wisely next time! Yes there will be a next time. You are a trained husband and father. You will be very desirable to many women. Just make sure you don't get used again. As far as the current wife is concerned, she is a fuck up. She is without honor and in a world of sin. She is running down the path to the Lake of Fire. Let her engineer her own destruction, just protect your daughter. 

 
Thursday, June 9, 2016 11:39 PM
Diud

Thanks for your powerful words! I am letting my wife go. But I do not know how would I be able to make sure our daughter would be ok. Because let's be honest, she will not be for a while.

i cannot understand how this all happened! I mean from the outside this could be summarized like this: wife had some needs not fulfilled by husband ( in our case she said that she needs signs and proof for love which I did not show in the last time - and this is the only area I blame myself for); wife did not communicate effectively to husband what was the situation( statements and questions like " you do not feel atracted to me" cannot be seen as communicating that you are down and you need proof). And from communication a familly ( or maybe two - including her lover familly- would be destroyed)!

It is more than ironic! It is fucking hell on Earth!

 

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Friday, June 10, 2016 12:53 PM
Guest

I can not even imagine the pain and anger you are feeling right now. You are such a great man for thinking about your daughters feeling and not just focusing on

doing what you want out of spite towards your wife. I can promise you, if you find a way to channel your anger into a source such as working out at the gym or going running (something physical) and put love back into your heart ( think about your beautiful daughter who loves you so much) and continue onto a path of success in your career and relationship with your friends, you will have NOOOOOOO PROBLEM finding a woman who would LOVE to be with a man like yourself. Being divorced and having children is not seen as a crazy thing anymore. I find that people think its crazy when relationships LAST for a long period of time. So please don't think you have been weeded out of many normal beautiful fun women because you have a daughter and a wife who chose to leave someone she might end up wishing she hadn't. Make your daughter proud of her daddy, you will get as much time with her as you make for her.

 
Friday, June 10, 2016 9:50 PM
Guest

Don't think like that, there are still good women out there, I'm 45 two kids(18 n 9) both stay with me. I have being married for 18, together almost 20. I have the same though like you, oh! shit I'm for 45 with 2 kids, what kinds of woman wanted to be with me. Well after 3 weeks, of me finding out that my wife was a whore. I met this womderful woman.she make happy and forget 80% what had just happen to my life. life going to get better,don't look at the rearview mirror. I'm just like most men on here , good husband, and father. So be strong keep you cool! by the way, I'm getting married to the new woman...

 
Saturday, June 11, 2016 8:52 AM
Diud

Wow, thanks guys for your comments and support!! My only way is to keep getting stronger and become the coolest dad my daughter deserve!

thanks again!

 
Saturday, June 11, 2016 8:14 PM
Guest

dude i hear yah... my stories here http://storyofcheating.com/story/why-does-she-want-others#post  my wife (by my own allowance) turned me into a pussy.. i didnt MAKE her be fully accountable for her actions.. but this "pussy" finally grew some claws and has told her he's not putting up with any of her s@#t anymore.... I told her the biggest lesson I have learned through reading in these walls and in other resources... while I may be responsible for some situations that allowed events, I'm NOT responsible for HER choices.. she chose to condemn,judge and convict me on issues I either never knew existed or never was informed of the weight they carried.. sorry ladies reading this but i've yet to find a woman who doesnt blame their significant other for any and all problems or sorrows they have.. if you got a beef ladies.. give yoyr guy a chance give him a clue..the old "well if you don't know i aint gonna tell you" scenario is DEATH to a marriage.. remember that.. and good luck my friend.. theres more of us around then you think

 
Saturday, June 11, 2016 8:16 PM
Guest

sorry: give YOUR guy a chance...

 
Tuesday, June 14, 2016 11:04 AM
Diud

Now she ended the relationship with this guy and her only concern is that the dick to reconstruct his familly! Like that is the only familly distroied? I told her - your energy should focus on getting your shit together and maybe try to reconstruct THIS familly, where your daughter lives?

omg! 

 
Wednesday, June 15, 2016 11:21 AM
Guest

Don't do it dude.  Keep that bitch on the curb where she belongs.

 

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