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My wife cheated on me

Tuesday, September 13, 2016 9:12 PM by Boston Rating: +18|-3

I have a question that I would like a real unbiased opinion from normal  everyday people.My wife recently admitted to an emotional affair with her boss of 25 years.she said it started when she was 19 and just staerted working at this company.A little background,my wife Sara has always been beautiful she had just finished competing in the teen u.s.a. pageant.Tall,skinny,long legs.green eyes,ect.Her boss 28 years old,married,overweight,his wife just had a child,and average looking,was immediatly attracted to her.I'll call him Paul.This was her first full time corporate job and she was very nieve,trusting,and impressionable.At the very beggining paul would show times of anger by throwing something across the kitchen,ripping the phone off the wall after a sick call ect.This frightened her but he was always nice and attentive to her.Within a couple of months of her working there paul told her she had to attend an after hours wine tasting event that was part of her job(they are both chefs)During the event she noticed paul was being overly nice and flirting with her.At the end as they were leaving a cowrker who was with them said she had to use the bathroom,this is when paul leaned in.got real close and was going to kiss her.(we were just dating at the time)but was interupted when the coworker came out of the bathroom.She has admited that she is attracted to men of power,who seem to have the perfect life,(good job, house,wife,kids.ect..)and listened,complimented her,also was responsible for her raises,awards,and promotions.She said absoluetly nothing ever happened after this they never even talked about it.But since then,she has admitted,telling him intimate,personal details about me and our relationship,every argument and all of my faults(most exagerated)confiding in him,trusting him,looking up to him and having a crush on him.They went to dozens of after hour corporate events,team building, and parties,also employee only christmas parties.within a year or two she was going with him alone,waering mini skirts,high heals,and lace thigh high stockings.(she said on one occasion in his car she pulled up her skirt to show him the lace and he felt her thigh.Also they joined the company gym and she would wear tight cotton yoga shorts.for a time they would rollerblade and she said she would skate ahead of him so he could see her perfect legs and ass.At events he would parade her around like she was his girlfriend,mistriss,date,whatever.I found the shorts doing laundry one day and flipped out!she said she wouldn't wear them @ the gym,but bought another pair.That went on for about 10 years.Also she never wore lace thigh highs for me,even on our honeymoon!She told me ther was flirting back and forth for her entire career(25 years)She even brought to work a very skimpy bathing suit and modeled it for him.they had regular weekly closed door meetings,performance goals,reviews,career planning,and discussions.They also cateered dozens of off site events together.I used to wonder why she always put blond highlights in her hair(she is a brunette)now I know she did it for 25 years becuse paul demanded it.Keep in mind all this was kept a secret from me,Paul(fucking scumbag)even acted like he was my friend,but always seemed a little distant.Sara has lied continuosly about everything.This took a year of conceling to come out.Some other notes,she had a o.n.s.in college got an s.t.d. and gave it to me lied about it until recently,also flirted with many men.outright lied about why she was going into work early(said she was checking e-mails,but didn't have a computer with her at all).there is much more.she says they never ever had sex and loves only me,but i find it hard to believe .What do you think??One more thing,she passed a lie-detecter test!!the whole thing is fucked up!

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Comments

Friday, September 16, 2016 12:16 PM
Guest

Yeah, she's a serial cheater and those two have had sex. If she's lied and has given you an std, then she's willing to sleep with other men. I couldn't read the whole thing,  it was too crazy and sad. Dude, move on you married a whore. It happens and lie detectors aren't admissible in court but you know better.

Get a divorce, find someone else. This woman doesn't love you.

 

 

 
Friday, September 16, 2016 1:53 PM
boston

Thanks,that helps and I appreciate your honesty.

 
Friday, September 16, 2016 4:48 PM
Guest

If I had a hot sexy wife I WOULD just ACCEPT that SOMETIMES thing might just come up !!

 

 

 
Friday, September 16, 2016 4:49 PM
boston

I can see people are reading this.please don't be afraid to leave a comment,even if it is short.I would appreciate it.

 
Friday, September 16, 2016 8:30 PM
TheBestAdvice

You've wasted a lot of your life here. It's time t cut your losses. If you continue in the relationship, she will continue to cheat. You should never trust her and because of that you should leave the relationship. She is very skillful to pull this off for so long. 

 
Friday, September 16, 2016 9:41 PM
ALF

Time to cut your losses Boston.  Your wife has put you through the wringer for 25 years, and will continue to do so if you stay with her.  She has no feelings for you at all, you're just a convenience to her.  Tell her you're leaving and go enjoy the rest of your life.

 
Friday, September 16, 2016 10:25 PM
boston

thanks guys

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 11:40 AM
Guest

Dude, if you need to ask an online forum on whether it believes your wife is cheating, you're clearly looking for reasons to stay in the relationship. You have two options, both of which will eventually require therapy:


1. Leave her, and learn to deal with the fact that this woman cheated on you for 25 years;

2. Stay and remain a cuckold.

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 11:44 AM
Guest

She has definitely had sex with her boss absolutely no doubt!! Do you have great, UnBELIEVABLE, sex at least once a day? If you don't, she's being a dirty girl with someone else! If You are happy, don't change it, get involved with it, but if she is lying and deceiving you, it's over! Give her EXACTLY what she gives you! Have an affair yourself!!

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 12:12 PM
Guest

Emotional  affair are just as bad  as physical  one leave and pick up your balls.

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 3:44 PM
amy

I FEEL FOR YOU.AS FAR AS HAVING SEX?HELLO??PAUL WAS JUST ONE OF MANY!SHE HAS STOLEN SO MUCH HAPPINESS THAT SHE PROMISED YOU THOUGH MARRIAGE.SHE IS A SICK INDIVIDUAL AND NEEDS HELP.RUN TO A LAWYER!!!!!

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 5:20 PM
Guest

Here's what you do:  put your hands around her neck and dial 1(900) CHOKE-THAT-HOE

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 6:38 PM
boston

I think all you are right.(except the guy who said to accept it)Because this started when I was so young,I guess I didn't know how a relationship,or the feeling of honestly being loved felt like.Even thought looking back now,I should have relized something was wrong.I was so trusting and it happened so gradually I never believed it.And to the accept it guy,Yeah she is really hot and you probably would but I think everyone deserves better.

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 6:38 PM
boston

I think all you are right.(except the guy who said to accept it)Because this started when I was so young,I guess I didn't know how a relationship,or the feeling of honestly being loved felt like.Even thought looking back now,I should have relized something was wrong.I was so trusting and it happened so gradually I never believed it.And to the accept it guy,Yeah she is really hot and you probably would but I think everyone deserves better.

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 7:24 PM
dan

have you shown her the door yet

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 8:10 PM
Guest

I have been cheated on before. Twice, in fact. By the same person. I am generally a fairly level headed person and I have spent years pondering how things went down that drain. I had a similar situation where we both had a common boss and she slept with said common boss. Let me put it plain and simple, your wife cheated on you. Likely time and again. She will try to convince you to stay and more than likely succeed. You seem to still love her, how hard could it be for her to succeed?

But it's over man. Move on. You're wasting your life the more time you spend with her. Irrepairable damage has been done and there is nothing to undo it.

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 10:34 PM
boston

not yet Dan.Last comment well said.Ido love her and yes she knows how to make me stay.I have even wondered what it would be like for a threesome.I thought if it has been going on so long whats the difference and maybe find some benefits for myself.I mentioned this to my wife one night,and she satd Paul wouldn't do it,he thinks your gonna kill him.Kind of an overreaction for the story she told me.There wpuld have to be some rules,but I would never be sure.Judging by my great intuision over the last 25 years.

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 10:36 PM
boston

wow I should have proof read that.

 
Saturday, September 17, 2016 10:53 PM
boston

I forget to mention how I found out.I was out of work with a broken foot.I had time to do nice things for her(not that I didn"t have time before ,but busy w/work)getting along great.I called her on her lunch break and  at the end of the conversation I said "love you"well i was waiting for  "love you too"even after repeating it.She said she felt uncomfortable saying it around the staff.Which I knew wasn't true for so many reasons.Anyway after pressing,she said paul walked in the room and you know he is not a big fan of yours and I didn't want him disappointed in me.(I figue at that time he was probably on top of her-or vise versa.Since then this story and more has cone out in an extreamly painful trickle truth fashion.

 
Sunday, September 18, 2016 1:08 AM
lily

It's seems your wife loves you too.  She did stay with you for 25 years while sleeping with her boss... She cuckold you all that time and you seem to love it or accepting it.  So why destroy everything you have? She love the sex not the guy.  If you'll search further you probobly find she had sex with some more guys.

 
Sunday, September 18, 2016 1:11 AM
ALF

Boston,

Everyone here is telling you to leave your skank because that would be the best thing for you.  You've got not kids in the equation, so pop smoke.  Let Paul start taking care of her full time.

But, if you're going to stay, at least start stepping out on your own and have some escapades.  She opened the door on that one a long time ago, now it's time to go get yours.  And your going to find that there is so much better out there than your skank can provide.  And is isn't down with that, just tell her to fuck off, or fuck Paul.

 
Sunday, September 18, 2016 5:48 AM
Duncan

Boston,

i know there will be a whole lot of pain but it's either you accept it or take a step to move on. Both I know will be hard decision. 

I would suggest to you, take her now as a bitch fuck her as u like while finding a nice girl as a wife. Once you find a nice wife, ditch her. Tell her off, give her a taste of the same medicine. That should ease the pain a lot. 

Take care bro.

 
Sunday, September 18, 2016 10:44 AM
boston

I had to google cockold,don't really want that.Do have a 13 year old daughter with her.I guess i'm just scared of the unknown.made an appt. for some ind. counseling.It's nice to see everyone is basically on the same page.Thanks

 
Monday, September 19, 2016 4:23 AM
Guest

You can try to star a Cuckold relationship with her. You can speak with her regarding this. Try...

 
Monday, September 19, 2016 1:22 PM
The_Female_Whisperer

Boston,

 

Either you are a CUCK who secretly enjoys your wife getting fucked by other men, or there is something wrong with you.  If I was in your place, I would have kicked that bitch out to the curb, and divorce her ass.  There ain't no way I am sharing my bed with a SLUT who has no respect to the marriage vows.  It is all nothing but DISREPSECT!!!!!! 

 
Monday, September 19, 2016 3:15 PM
boston

To female whisperer,thanks for the tough love,and I know your right.I guess it is the fear of the unknown.The strangest part is she constantly tells me she only wantd to be with me and is sooo sorry.Of course the sex is mind blowing now but we all know where that is comming from.I see many narcessistic tendencies.You all are giving me much courage,Thanks!

 
Tuesday, September 20, 2016 1:54 PM
Guest

Boston the unknown is going to be so much better than what you have had.You don't know what it's like because your girl/wife has never loved or respected you or anyone else for 25 years.That's a life sentence man!Don't waste what time you have left,Your better than someone who will do what she did!

 
Tuesday, September 27, 2016 7:53 PM
Guest

any updates on situation?

 
Wednesday, September 28, 2016 5:16 AM
Guest

Divorce her she is not worth it you are just thinking about your daughter. You don't want your daughter to go through the pain you are feeling but not all marriage are worth being in. If your wife truly loved you then she would had be upfront honest with you but I personal don't like liars are cheater. I think you already caused you more pain mentally and physically for giving you STD. The only thing you could do is be honest to your daughter and explain to her why you want to leave your wife, don't let her find out by someone else. 

 
Wednesday, September 28, 2016 9:39 AM
Guest

She sounds like a Gold digger to me why else would she bet attracted to (Fat Paul).

You should get in contact with Fat Pauls wife blow the lid on that her husbands cheating it.

 
Wednesday, September 28, 2016 2:16 PM
Guest

I usualy do not give this kind of advice, both need to be taught a lesson,  so milk this boss by black mailing him to his wife if he does not pay up. and include the part where if he mention it to you "wife" he will suffer moreconcequences.

And after he pays up and you satisfied you still tip his wife about the affair.

 
Thursday, September 29, 2016 4:38 PM
boston

That is the strangest thing,she absolutly denies any sexual contact ,even though I tell her at this point I don't care about the sex it's the honesty I need.It's like some mental torture when she says I will tell you anything,I only want to be with you,I am sooo sorry,I am being honest,we have great sex,she does nice things for mr,but then either lies,minimizes,or doesn't remember anything hurtfull about the 25 year "emotional affair"

 
Thursday, September 29, 2016 4:42 PM
boston

Actually I didn't want her to know that I knew she posted a blog on this site before me,but I have told her so her blog that she posted(without telling me,not that it matters)is called "not just friends"I cheated on my husband. she used the allias cathy.

 

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