Betrayed

My husband cheated on me

Friday, June 3, 2016 9:46 AM by Peaches Rating: +2|-4

i've been with my husband for 11 years...married for 4 with two kids. We both work for the same company and we're really well known with the company. My husband is in management and a few weeks ago discovered text messages from a certain number on different dates. I wasn't able to see what he texted since his phone was locked and he refused to unlock it after asking him to see the texts. He basically said it was nothing, just texting only. I wasn't satisfied with that answer and kept digging and digging. He knows me well enough that I would eventually find out who it was. It's an associate of his and the thought that he could jeopardize his career is sickening. I've been nothing but a loyal wife and mother. At any point in time I would do anything for him. Hungry? I would get him food. Needed something at the store? No problem. My husband ended up going on a business trip for a few days and I saw on our phone bill that he called her the day before he left and spoke with her for almost 30 mins. I even called him during that time but he didn't answer my call. I haven't caught him having sex with this girl or anything but he's definitely contacting her. I'm stuck at what I should do. Even a few weeks back, the kids and I were gone for the weekend and I feel that he met up with her while we were gone. He says no that he hasn't had sex with her, or hung out with her or sees anything going on with her. He did admit that she was attractive which I don't think she is. I don't believe what he says...I can't trust him. What am I supposed to do?

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Saturday, June 4, 2016 6:13 PM

Guest

Some people would say to stay together for the kids. I don't see how anyone could do that with a cheating spouse. Best scenario for you would be that you leave your husband, move in with family or friend, you are finacially stable with husband's money and eventually find a loving guy who is willing to marry you and be loving to your children because your children would need a stable home. You didn't say how old your children are. If they are young enough, hopefully the drastic change of home life wouldn't effect them. If they are older, it could go 2 ways - they'll hate you for breaking up the family or they'll hate your husband for the same reason. This is a very tough call on what to do. If you're stong enough and have very strong family support, I say you divorce your husband, but stay nice with him, do get spousal support, and it's very important that you talk with your children and explain to them that you and your husband are not happy with each other but you both still love them (children) and they will be able to see both you and their father. I'm saying this because my sister gone through the same thing as you and this is what she had done AND her daughter came out extremely happy. Good luck.

Sunday, June 5, 2016 1:51 PM

Guest

if you cant trust him (and I see no reason you should) then the relationship is already over. you just need to finish paperwork. you need to think about how best to handle this for your children but your relationship is already over I am sorry to hear that. he is trash and doesnt deserve to have his genes passed down. you need to make sure this doesnt set a bad example for your children because you dont want them having this done to them to them doing this to someone.

Saturday, June 11, 2016 5:45 AM

Guest

It is a hard situation to be in. You need to be completely certain he is actuall cheating before taking action. Up the pressure on him but remain factual. Do not point fingers and blame him for everything but rather listen carefully and be objective. Show him how much previous he is to you and you and family appreciate him. Be positive, mature and caring while remaining strong and ready, in case things do not go well.

Breaking up the family should be avoided by all means but remains a valid option, if necessary.

Remain true to yourself, decent but strong.

All the best.

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