Don't worry move on. She is 51 years old, she is a hag. Do you really think a 24 year old is going to take care of her plzz.... she'll come back begging and when she does refuse her. Get a divorce show the evidence act before she does. And don't worry you still time to find someone new and worthy of you.

I feel your pain dude.  Disregarded after so many years of marriage without an explaination is going to play hell with your well-being.  Your wife has checked out.  You are your highest priorithy now.  Stay focused on the positive.  Don't shut yourself away and obsess over this.  Start divorce proceedings, get yourself back into the game of life, and have some fun.  A word of warning though:  at some point young man is going to tire of your wife and dump her.  And she's going to start trying to reconnect with you.  DO NOT allow yourself to be her fallback.  She made a choice and she acted on it.  You weren't a priority to her, so don't let her tell you that you owe her anything.  28 years of love, trust, and respect are gone.  In a situation like this it's best to leave the past buried and move on.

Same unfortunate events happened to me man. No explanation nothing once the truth was known. That dream state of mind you described brought chills to me, I relate very much so. If I were to muster up any form of concrete advice, it would be to try your damn hardest to never even attempt to re-contact her again. To get your closure from the actions you have seen her do already now instead of trying to get more answers to your quetions and perhaps even make her want you back. It will only make you look more like a stalker and she will label you as a psycho harassing ex husband when it is in fact not the case and her actions made you want to do such things. I went to the point of trying to kill myself drunk and driving into a wall. Lost my liscence, and placed my career in jeporady for someone who didn't even care for me anymore. Who did't care for me a long time before I even knew. And the pain of knowing you were taken for such a fool for so long hurts even more. 

Try and change for the better. You will change because of this wether you like it or not. Change for the better not for the worst. 

Best of luck

So this young guy is sporting graphic videos and nasty pics of your wife and him having raunchy sex? And she knows this? This young guy is basically using your wife sexually.  When he's done all his perverted tricks on her and had his older lady fetish fix resolved he will move on back to some younger more sexy and more fit and attractive lady (if he isn't already creeping now). When he's done using her as a cum dump, he'll move on, she'll beg him and he'll put her out, and yes...she'll come scratching at your door step.  Advice:  leave her standing at the doormat.  Don't let her back.  To do so means you approve of her behavior and she will never respect you because if the tables were turned and you were ducking down some young chick she loose her mind and make you out to be the bad guy and play victim to the hilt.  Take the house and everything.  That's how women are .... Hypocrital when it comes to cheating.  Divorce and start dating again.  You will find someone that will treat you better.  

The question I have is did you give your wife attention? Did you treat her well?  Did you do things with her and show her any interest? Did you become boring and checked out?  People cheat for many reasons.  Most women cheat when they feel they are no longer a priority or that you've lost interest in them and as being a couple doing things like early in your marriage.  Being active and DATING your wife.  If you were not doing this then that mY be the reason.  Believe me I'm not saying cheating is the answer or that it is right.  Just saying that there is a cause for every affect.  

Another week has passed and I am getting past the initial hurt. I  agree with you all about divorce and she actually beat me to it. She asked me if I would do it online and offered me a very generous split on our assets. I am ready to move on, especially  after hearing more details of her infedelity. My daughter flew into town to help me deal with this situation, and she spent time with her mom. She told our daughter that she is madly in love with this young man, and that he loves her.She told her that the relationship has been going on for almost a year. That coincides with her breast augmentation surgery 14 months ago and that she is two months pregnant with his child. I've been fixed for years... and that it wasn't so much she fell out of love with me, but that she fell in love with him . It's over, the divorce is happening and as difficult as it is I'm putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward.  

Generous as it is now, doesn't mean it will be in divorce court.

Get divorced ASAP! Most states aassign the husband as the father of the kid, irrelevant if you can have kids. You do not want to be paying child support until that can be changed!!

I'd cash out your bank account and go to Vegas and "lose" it there. She has been spending your money on her bf for a year.

My wife who was 44 cheated on me with a guy in his 20s. She was fine when we got a divorce, I moved out and the guy moved in. I was 53 at the time. So I went back to the gym and lost a ton of weight and put on some muscle. Then I met a women a year older than my wife but who looked stunning because she has done sports all her life.  Now I'm remarried and the young guy left my ex who now crys and says she still loves me.

Damn, you actually really got fucked over. I feel for ya.

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers man.