Well its been 5 years since it happened and still im suffering anytime im alone.  5 years ago my wife of 6 years at time told me she was taking my brothers friend back home after I gave the guy a place to say for a week when he had been kicke out on the street, 3 days later cops are at the house with her parents and im told i need to stay back while she gets her stuff.  It took nearlly a month to find out what was going on, or even see my son.  She had sex with the guy in the park bathroom while our son was playing. I also found out at this time the guy disapeared from town at the same time she did, Guess where he was 70 miles away in same town as wife.  She filed for divorce and i was forced to get a lawyer. Over the next month or so her family bashed me on facebook for being an abussive husband the divorce papers listed the same thing. I went to a local detective friend of mine for advise on what i could do the way she was making me look was hurting my chances of getting custady of my son he told me i was screwed on that end but to look into the guy's legal past and I found he was arrested several times for Meth use.  I broght this up to my Lawyer and was told i needed to inform my wife but legally I would stand no chance at getting custady of my son without proving the guy was doing it around my son now.  When i informed her of this she blew it off at first, but within a week she called to see if i wanted to spend time with my son.  While with my son she starts texting me, and it turns to sexting me after the boy went to bed.  She shows up to get my son as planned and talked me into a day trip to the local water park together. That night her mom calls and I hear her mom tell her "I told you that if you go back to him not to come home" she hangs up and explains that her mom basically kicked her out and she had no where to go.  Long story short within 3 months we called off the divorce and have been great every since.  We have now been together 11 years and i still find myself doing stuipd stuff when im bored like looking up the other guy's facebook to see how bad his life has turned out (and its bad :) ) but I also find myself watching porn that seems fimilar to the event that set everything in motion (public bbw cheating) it dont even hit me till im half way though a video that this is what she done.  I dont know why after 5 years i still cant drop this and let my self be happy now that everything is great. We dont fight, for once i get along with her familly, we now have 3 kids, hell she is devoted to me more then any man could hope for. I dont know what to do anymore but maybe just getting it out there will help