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Cheating on my fiance

I cheated on my boyfriend

Tuesday, September 6, 2016 10:12 AM by Guest Rating: +16|-11

The day before yesterday, I cheated on my fiance. Again. I have cheated on him before, a couple years ago, and he'd forgiven me because he's weak and I'm the only person he's ever loved. I was his first. 

I have a very high sex drive, whereas his is almost non-existent. 

Two months ago, I asked him to marry me. Because I love him to death and I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

The day before yesterday, I gave in to my desires, and my manager's sexual advances. And I'm probably going to do it again.

Talking has never helped. We've always had problems with sex. I am nearly always left unsatisfied and frustrated, unable to sleep. He can get me off, and he does it very well. The problem is the frequency. At best, we'd have sex once a week, and that's only after he gets sick of my pestering. One time, I didn't make any advances towards him at all, and we didn't have sex for 3 weeks. He never said a word about it until I brought it up and he finally gave in. 

He thinks it is shallow of me to hold sex to such a high importance. He doesn't understand why I need it so much. He thinks its superficial. He doesnt have the instinctual urges that I have. He doesn't want an open relationship. He doesn't want to take a break. He doesn't want to comprimise in any way, and that's not his fault, I'm not blaming him, he can't control his sex drive...I've tried everything. Pushing him, backing off, toys, aphrodisiacs, talking to him, ignoring him, having sex on a schedule, having sex completely spontaneously, I've tried dressing up and dressing down, cooking for him, massaging him, lights on lights off it doesn't matter what I do, I can't get him in the mood. We've even written down our problems to talk about it. We cannot come to a comprimise that satisfies us both. If he had it his way, we'd have sex once every two months. If it were my way, it'd be more like 2-3 times a week, maybe more, probably not more than 5. At this point, we have not had sex in almost two months. 

I am trapped in a relationship with a man that I have an intense, undying love for, who cannot satisfy my needs. I love him to death and I never want him to feel hurt by me again. I have no romantic feelings for this other man, but I can't deny my attraction to him. I will probably sleep with him again.

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Wednesday, September 7, 2016 2:51 PM
ALF

I think you say you are hopelessly in love with your fiance because he is everything you are not; honorable, loyal, faithful, and decent.  These qualities don't rub of by being in close proximity to them girlie.  Getting married would be the biggest mistake you could make, and the WORST thing you could do to him.  End your relationship and go your separate ways.  Don't try contacting him again.  He'll find someone he should truly be with someday.

 
Wednesday, September 7, 2016 7:24 PM
Guest

I can understand your situation.  My wife has told me she could go 6 months without sex.  I could every other night if I had my way.  So our compromise is unless she is on her period or she is absolutely in no way in the mood because of a bad day or something is terribly wrong, it's up to me to make the advance.  Unless she tells me not tonight before we go to bed, it's a fair game night.  So it's probably twice a week.  If he can't keep you satisfied then you need to find someone who can.  Otherwise, you'll be left feeling undesired/undesirable and that can start to hurt.  The only other option is he needs to buck up and satisfy you.  Otherwise, he's neglecting your needs.  You don't neglect someone you love/cherish.

 
Thursday, September 8, 2016 1:03 AM
MrAnonymus

so what does your fiancé do? Is he happy with his life as this could be affecting his sex drive maybe try going out with the fiancé getting drunk and a hotel in a next city. Does he have a porn addiction that you don't know about. Maybe the guy is stressed over something else this can impede the sex drive too. Maybe it's your approach try oral only sessions, go for a late movie end your date with car sex, go for late drive and find a spot car sex or on the car with the breeze on your butt! Lol constantly cheating is not going to change the situation just make it worst for you and a heartache for him WHEN he finds out 

updates dude

 
Thursday, September 8, 2016 2:43 AM
Sandy

Dont get married. I've been in a sexless marriage for 3 years now. It really sucks! If your not even married yet and you're not satisfied it going to get worst. Have you thought about what could come out your affair? Would if you get a STD or pregnant? That would hurt your fiancé more than just leaving him. If you do stay buy yourself some nice toys and learn how to get yourself off. It's better than cheating.  

 
Thursday, September 8, 2016 8:53 AM
Guest

you don't know what love is, love requires sacrifice and honor, these are qualtieis your self centered self do not possess.

 
Thursday, September 8, 2016 2:59 PM
Guest

women these days ...

 
Friday, September 9, 2016 2:03 AM
Jacob Bangieyev

Wow your a piece of shit. When your in a relationship with someone, cheating should absolutely NEVER be the option. Be a human being and just break up with him. You don't even need to give him a reason. But what your doing now, fucking your coworker is just plain wrong. Your a dirty fucking whore. That guy your fucking, I guarantee you, has ZERO respect for you. He knows your a floozy and people like him usually are as dirty as can be. Go wash your twat with some bleach and go break up with your FIANCÉ!! If you were my girl I would straight up beat the shit out of you. Maybe you Fiance chooses not to fuck you because your a hideous troll? Ever think of that? I can put money on the fact that your probably one of those chick's whose beyond ugly. The only guy willing to give you some dick is some dirty ass co worker who probably fucks everything the walks. Your poor fiance. Your such a low lifw. You deserve to get run over by a city bus. Better yet go jump infront of a train. I would beat the fuck out of you and probably kill you if I found out u were cheating on me. The most disrespectful thing you can do to ANY body. Fucking dirty whore. *UGLY DIRTY WHORE

 
Friday, September 9, 2016 2:29 AM
Guest

DONT LISTEN TO THESE ASSHOLES ABOVE! Yes you are cheating which isnt right but your fiance is not listening to you and giving you something you need. Dont marry him it will onlu worsen and why start a marriage off like that. Im in a non satisfying sex life with my husband and for 8 yrs i was a good wife tried not to think about it and was dormant. Recently i cant help it I need sex and met men on hook up sites i feel dirty about it but the high i get while I want all the time now. Not saying im right but in retrosepct i should of seen signs and not gotten married so i could find a partner where we are equals in sex or just not be in a relationship and have fun. Hang in there! 

 
Friday, September 9, 2016 3:08 AM
Guest

To the recent poster above, get a divorce if you're unhappy with your sex life. Sure 8 years is a long time, but cheating is wrong. Your husband deserves better than you. 

 
Friday, September 9, 2016 7:13 AM
Guest

Some men are looking for sex after the commtment.  They will hold back if they really love someone until they are certain and there is a commitment.   Love is not about sex.    The lack of animal instinct before marrige is not an indication of sex after marriage. My now wife had a three year sexual relataionship with a guy before we met.  I never had sex with her until I asked her to mrry me and then only a handful of times till we were married.  After we were married we did it multiple times everyday for over a year.  Like I said, it was the commitment and the marriage that I wanted not easy sex, I could get that anywhere. 

 
Friday, September 9, 2016 12:50 PM
Guest

Wow some of y'all need to just stay single and fuck all y'all want instead of cheating. Y'all think it's okay for y'all to do it but when yo man do it it's oh he such a fuckin cheating bastard or he a no good piece of shit. And a poster above talking bout don't listen to us I go to hook up sites and this and that. Bitch that's not okay meeting random ass ppl and fucking them. But hey when you catch an STD you can't get rid of its all his fault right lol. Hope yo daughter not as Slutty as you. 

 
Friday, September 9, 2016 5:23 PM
Guest

What a load of shit. Sex is just a physical act. Your fiance should be able to give you what you need if you both made an effort. Making love is a whole other thing, sex is only a component of making love. You "love" him, because you can control and abuse him. You are a sick, and nasty person. If you truly loved him, you would never cheat on him. Do him a favor and dump him, you are a bad girlfriend, you are not wife material and you would be a disaster as a mother. Dump him, get sterilized and see a shrink. 

 
Saturday, September 10, 2016 10:41 AM
Guest

You were either drunk when you wrote this or you are crazy. Just drop that poor guy and stop screwing with him. Go and be free to fuck men, but let him go and stop breaking his heart over and over. Break it once then fuck lotta men. 

 
Saturday, September 10, 2016 3:17 PM
Guest

Leave him. You love him out of guilt. Don't put that person through pain and you're only hurting yourself. As someone who has been cgeated on, I wish my ex fiance told me on his escapades, it would have saved me from the heartache. Believe me, you will be saving yourselves the heartache and pain. What if you went ahead and got married and he found out a date killed himself? Break it off. You don't want a dark cloud hanging over your life.

 
Sunday, September 11, 2016 5:45 AM
Guest

It could be like someone else said some sort of secret porn addiction that he's not telling you about and he feels embarrassed / ashamed to talk about it. In fact I would bet a lot of money that it is that. When you want sex, he's already had an orgasm (or a few) looking at porn. Maybe try to bring up porn one day but not in an accusative manner, but rather in a sexy way (ask if he wants to watch some with you). You know, it could be something as silly as him being into something that he's embarrassed to tell you about, something he'd love to do with you but cannot bring himself to talk about. The funny thing is, usually the thing is super embarrassing for the person but for the partner it's kind of silly and a case of "why didn't you just tell me??". Personally, the best thing I did when my girlfriend and I did at the very start of our relationship was talk openly about sex and porn. I told her the kind of stuff I look at, and she showed me the stuff she likes to read (she prefers to read hentai manga sex stories). Anyway, it's all better out in the open.

 
Sunday, September 11, 2016 4:31 PM
TheBestAdvice

Bragging about fucking around is like bragging about stealing stuff. Because you are stealing. You promised your guy sexual exclusivity and now you are stealing that from him. I expect that you don't even love him. Instead you love the lifestyle he provides for you. I'm sure that years from now you'll get exactly what you deserve. In the meantime it looks like you are destined to inflict terrible pain on the people that love you. I hope that when you have a child that they grow up and meet someone exactly like you. 

 
Monday, September 12, 2016 12:30 AM
LanaH102

Don't worry about. Just let him know your screwing others. As you said he is a weak man and for that alone you can, as you are, do as you please with other men. He deserves what ever he gets and you should not feel guilty. If you did feel any guilt you would not have done it again and again with other men. 

 
Monday, September 12, 2016 3:14 AM
Mr2kinky

You love him so stay, just keep having sex on the side.. Ur needs are important. 

 
Monday, September 12, 2016 9:15 PM
Bravo

Your very first paragrph gives you away. You say he forgave you because he is weak. Yet, many would think he forgave you because he's in love with you, extremely patient and understanding, and is a person who is able to forgibe and move on. Yet, when you categorize these things as 'weak', you're really saying, "I do not respect him because I can manipulate him and get away with it". And that, my dear, puts you in the category of people who are predators. You see others are acquisitions who are there to fill in your needs. You say you love him to pieces, but I doubt you can differentiate between enjoying him as a trophy husband, and respecting him as a person. You may have a personality disorder. Look into it, see if you can learn to grow some empathy if you really love you husband, and if not, pehaps set him free of this trap you placed him in, where he may actually be living his life thinking you respect him for being a great guy.

 
Tuesday, September 13, 2016 4:40 AM
Guest

all you do is think of your self? you have to think about him. if you really love him, you would make him uncormfortable with your pestering. That is no way a married couple should be like

 
Tuesday, September 13, 2016 7:50 PM
Guest

I have a perfect solution for you - your husband sounds like he wants you to cuckold him. So, why don't you try asking him if he would mind if you got a little sex on the side, with the promise that you won't bring home any diseases or babies?  My guess he'll get an enormous erection and may get mad at you, but then he'll flip you over and rage-fuck you like you've never been fucked - he'll pull your hair, call you a slut, a pig, a whore - it'll be the hottest sex you two have ever had. And I bet $10 that after a couple of days, he'll come to YOU and tell you "I decided that it's okay if you occasionally fuck someone else..." and he'll give you a bunch of rules (no kissing, no black guys, no threesomes with two guys - all of which you'll later break), and you'll be on your way. Before you know it he will be asking you to tell him ALL the details about your little trysts. Then, he'll want to take you out to a bar and watch you get picked up by another guy adn take him to your car to fuck you in the back seat, all while your husband watches. Pretty soon he'll be begging you to let a huge black guy do you raw-dog and let him knock you up.  I know how these things work and your husband has all the markings of a cuckold. Your cheating will be the thing that SAVES your marriage!

 
Wednesday, September 14, 2016 11:52 AM
Guest

You want to spend the rest of your life with your fiance, but you intend to keep cheating on him?  You're really screwed up.  I suggest you just end the engagement and go get mental help.

 
Wednesday, September 14, 2016 8:26 PM
Lucasred

You say you're "trapped". No, you are not. You Asked HIM to marry you. There is no chain holding you to him.

1 Tell him you cannot live with sex only occasionaly.

2 Tell him the kind of person you really are.

3 Tell him as you've told us that you think he is weak and that you don't respect him enough to stay faithful.

You are two different people and you should have explained this and broken up with him before being such a sleaze.

 
Wednesday, September 14, 2016 9:31 PM
Guest

His obviously either gay,  or fucking another side batch!!! 

 
Thursday, September 15, 2016 5:24 PM
Guest

You dirty piece of shit you little fucking whore you don't deserve to be in a relationship or happy you betrayed a man who loves you an thinks the world of you your scum

 
Thursday, September 15, 2016 6:01 PM
Guest

Shoot, I wouldn't mind having a woman that wants sex all the time. My sex drive is high as well!

 
Friday, September 16, 2016 1:32 AM
guest101

You are portraying yourself as a victim when really you are not.  Stop lying to yourself and to your fiance.  You want a piece of cake as well as a an apple pie.  Well let me telll you a few thing.

1. you are plain bored with the relationship with your partner, in particular the sex.  It's ovbvious you want the emotional connections and the security he provides but you want the sex and no doubt you will cheat and cheat and cheat again and again, until your vagina is a loose a a hallway.  By then your fiance would no doubt find out, people talk and your lies will no longer be able to cover your deceptive ways.  It is really worth the risk to end it all with your "trapped undying love" for a piece of dick?

2.  You write your fiance is "weak" but let me say this, he found strength to forgive you (God knows why).  However  you are the weak one in the relationship because you cheated and have learnt ways to cover your tracks.  You are emotionally immature, selfish and totally untrustworthy.  Ask yourself this question "why cheat on him?"  what is the most unfundamental reason why?  and take a good look at yourself and call the wedding off  before you catch some disease and give him STD.

3.  What about the future? your children, your family, society, your work etc do you have any inkling what the consequences to your actions will be when you are eventually found out?  and when you die do you want your gravestone to be descecrated with the word "CHEATING FUCKING WHORE?"  Do you want your children to look at you with hate because you cheated on their father? 

Frankly, you need to leave your fiance alone, stop the wedding and be a single chick looking for FWB because the love of your life is not the fiance, the love of your life is sex.  Your fiance needs to move on with his life and find a woman who will be faithful to him and respect the marriage vows.  

 
Wednesday, September 21, 2016 10:23 AM
Guest

If you really love him then you need to let him go. What you are doingis wrong. So let the man go then you are free to have sex with as many people as you want.

 

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