Monday, February 15, 2016 10:10 PM by Guest
my wife cheated on me... according to her it is happened on 2010 when I was in backhome with our kids... they had a sexual relationship but no serious relationship (according to her)... it's so very painful on my part... i talked to the involved guy through phone he'said that my wife took advantage of him to having a sex and my wife admitted that later on.. (i almost going crazy)... and now everytime we have sex my desire and pleasure turns to nightmare because my mind suddenly out of focus because it's featured that my wife having sex with his guy... it's so hard for me to have a climax because of that... i think it's trauma on my mind... what can I do?
I'll share with you my feelings after my wife cheated on me. She told me about the affair a few years later out of guilt. She was distort and very sorry about what happen. I was devastated at the time but I was so much in love with her that I forgave her. At the time we were marred for 10 years and had 2 youngs children under 5. That was 25 years ago. Since then my relationship with my wife has never be the same. Yes we are still together and I still love her but I did something that I believe saved my marriage. For 10 years after the affair there was always that memory of her cheating with another man that you can't let go. All sorts of questions go through your mind. You will experience all sorts of emotional feelings. When we have sex I always think about the other guy. As hard as I try I can't shake it Out of my head. Sometimes its turns me on, other times it turns me off but it never felt good afterwards. I couldn't do it any more so I decided to tell her about my feelings. I knew it would hurt her a lot but I got to a point where I couldn't live my life like that anymore. She was very upset but I felt so much better afterwards. I told her how much she hurt me, about all my feelings, what I was going through since the affair. I told her everything. Then I asked her what she thought. She was going through the same thing everyday. There wasn't a day that went by where she didn't feel guilty about the affair. As it turns out it was the best thing that ever happened. We are closer today than we were before the affair. I won't lie and say I don't think about the betrayal because it never really goes away but I feel better now that she knows what I was going through. My recommendation is don't wait 10 years like I did, tell her how you feel about the affair and what goes through your mind everyday and every time you have sex. It could go the other way and she will leave you out of shame but it's better than living the way you feel now for the rest of your life. Hope this helps.
My wife cheated on me too. I was so frustrated and I didin´t know what to do. One of my colleagues was a real masher and he set me up with a hooker. First time it was quite weird. I coudln´t get erection at first, the sex was quick and horrible and I had to pay. I was so angry at my decision. But when I hot home, I saw my wife, I felt different. For the first time from the affair a I felt equal. I didn´t told her and I won´t.
So, she cheated on me in the summer, she told me the week after. I felt really bad. I cheated on her with a hooker in november for the first time. In january second time with another hooker. And I feel great. Hope this will help you. (Sorry for the english, I am from Europe)
Whenever I was pissed at my x girlfriends I would always, without notice, cram it straight in her pooper just to teach a lesson. BE A MAN! Take command. Dont;t let this woman control you. Assfuck her then throw her to the curb. She cheated on you and destroyed you. Do the same to her. The most evil you could do woudl be to screw one of her friends. Don;t listen to civility -- revenge is much sweeter than just walking away. Get to it!@