Thursday, February 4, 2016 11:48 AM by Guest
Ok Im going to start by saying I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years.. Im 25 and his 29. I have a daughter from a previous relationship and he accepted me and never judged me. His a wonderful man and a great father to my kid.. I don't know why and how it happened but I became very attracted to a co worker. I told another co worker about me having feelings for this guy and she went and told him and for some reason I was ok with it because I wanted him to know in a way. So I ended up getting his number and I texted him.. I told him my situation and we talked as friends even though he knew I liked him. I invited him out and I lied to my bf I was going out with friends but really I went to hang out with him.. I stayed out all night hanging out with him talking and I told him how I felt and after I told him he didnt say anything but just gave me a hug and I felt like I've never felt before.. He hugged me and held me tight and wouldn't let go. After that we took a break together at work.. Long story short we hung out 3 more times outside of work but just as friends. He backed off and said he didn't want any problems and drama but I can't get him out of my head.. When I see him at work I just want to walk up to him and tell him how I feel even though he knows.. Its been 2 years now and we just walk past each other like nothing ever happened but I always catch him looking at me or sometimes I see that he does things at work so he can run into me. He never said he liked me back but the way he would hold me when we would say good bye to each other says it all.. The way he looks at me.. When me and my bf have sex I catch myself thinking about him.. Im so attracted to him but I don't know if its lust or what.. When I told him how I felt he said maybe one day we'll be able to hang out.. I have love for my bf but at the sametime I want hin too... Im confused I don't know what to do. Does anyone have advice or been in the same situation before.
He's a real man for not getting involved. You are gonna lose what you have. It's hard to ever find another man who will love YOUR daughter as his own. Word of advice, if you want to fuck it up. Grow up and break it off, cause in the end you're just gonna hurt your daughter and boyfriend.
First off your side guy is very classy to have not made a move on you yet. I think he's not very attracted to you, but I can't say for sure. If you are really thinking that he could be the one I recommend that you talk with him. Tell him that you are thinking about leaving your boyfriend. Ask him to tell you honestly if he might want to date you if you leave your boyfriend. Listen carefully to his answer. See if he shows an enthusiasm for you or not. If so, leave your boyfriend and try it with him. It probably won't work out, but it might. You can be proud of yourself that you haven't cheated so far, although honestly it sounds like you would have cheated if he had shown enough interest and made the moves on you.