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Emotional affair?

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Wednesday, August 24, 2016 1:43 AM by Snapchatcheat Rating: +13|-6

I've been with my partner for 7yrs and engaged for 4yrs.  While I'm not trying to justify all this, my partner and I aren't as intimate as we used to be.  Around 8 years ago before I met my partner, I met a guy online and we really clicked. We used to talk for hours and hours but because of the distance nothing ever happened. We live in different countries. Anyway, we fell out of touch and I was happy with my fiancé. About 5months ago the first guy found me on social media and found my email address again and we started chatting again. It was like we never lost touch, same bond and connection was there and we started talking again for hours. We've messaged each other everyday since he found me again. We were flirting a lot as well. About a month ago things got intense and we were honest with each other about wanting each other and being really sexually attractive to each other. We started having sexual convos and sent each other naughty pics. We chat all day sometimes and I miss him when I'm not chatting to him. It's gotten to the point that he gets me so horny I can't function. The last time I had sex with my fiancé I was thinking about this other guy. It didn't help that the sex with my fiancé was really bad.. Which made me want the other guy more. I don't know what to do or how to stop. I know I don't want to lose touch with this other guy again. The connection is huge for me, we talk about anything and everything. If we were in the same country I think there's no doubt in my mind that I'd be with him.  I need some help with what to do.. I'm at a loss. 

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Comments

Wednesday, August 24, 2016 5:05 AM
MrAnonymus

You realis this is cheating right not really sure why you are even with this "fiancé" 4 year engagement? 

If your not married by now why bother it's obvious that your missing something from that relationship so move on. Been there with the abroad situation mine drifted apart but was fun got video striptease was awesome but not really fair if there is a third wheel? 

Honestly you should evaluate your 8 year relationship and whether or not there it should really take anymore of your time. We live once wasting time due to bad habits is the number one regret of the elderly!

 
Wednesday, August 24, 2016 7:15 AM
Guest

You should leave your current relationship since it's based on lies and deceit. Once you leave it, pursue the other guy, but be aware that it would probably not work out even if you were in the other country. 

You should ask yourself if you would want to be in a relationship with someone who have was doing to you what you are doing to your guy. If the answer is no then it means that you are lacking in integrity and that you should spend your time on improving the person you are instead of pursuing any relationship with anyone. 

 
Wednesday, August 24, 2016 2:10 PM
Julian

Leave you current  boyfriend. Why put both of you through   this.

 
Wednesday, August 24, 2016 10:25 PM
Guest

My advice is to drop the guy, come out to your fiance, and confide in him instead of people online. Either tht or leave your fiance and move to the other guy's country, playing both of them will just hurt all three of you. as the previous guest commented, I think you should really think about what you have done, and how you would feel if your fiance did the same to you. If he was flirting with another woman, sending her naughty pictures and receiving naughty pictures back. If he thought about other women while fucking you. How would you feel about that? would the excuse that the intimacy isn't there anymore change anything? honestly I think you should fix your current relationship, it seems like your boy toy is just you wanting passion, to which I would say 'find it with your fiance' you say it is lacking intimacy? so make it more intimate. open up to him, try to get him to open up to you. Be honest with him, and if the sex is that bad, give him some fucking pointers. Sex can get better if you tell your significant other how you like it.

 
Thursday, August 25, 2016 3:10 AM
Guest

The fact that you refer to your lover, fiance as your "partner" sound creepy and gay. The fact that you are obsessed with a fantasy, not a person is also creepy and foolish. You have some serious problems. The best thing you can do is be honest about the cyber cheating with your "partner" and let them decide what they want to do. Your fiance should dump you and move on. You are not a good fiance, you will make a terrible wife and a worse mother. You are a selfish fool. There is no hope for you. 

 
Thursday, August 25, 2016 5:42 AM
Guest

:-P

 
Thursday, August 25, 2016 5:51 AM
ALF

The major reason why you and your "partner" aren't as intimate as you used to be is that you're too busy chatting up an online fling.  You can't build intimacy in a relationship if you're not into it.  From what I've read here, the best thing you can do is break off your engagement and go your separate ways.  You will never commit to your "partner",  you'll just hang out until something better comes along.  He doesn't need that.

 
Thursday, August 25, 2016 5:27 PM
Randy Snacker

Ya gotta love these judgemental comments from anonymous guests. They obviously know you so well ūüėí

Anyway, I agree with MrAnonymous (irony abounds), sounds like you and your fiance need to either sort through your intimacy issues, or look at where your relationship is going. You say if you and the internet guy were in the same country, you're sure you would be together. If that's the case, obviously you're not fully invested in your current relationship and should probably not be together. Wasting time on a relationship that isn't what you really want is only going to end up leaving you and your fiance with pain and regret.

Just my 2 cents

 
Saturday, August 27, 2016 8:04 AM
Guest

If u know that u gonna hurt ur fiance u better call the wedding off drop playing with people emotions4

 
Sunday, August 28, 2016 4:04 PM
Chef

Where are you from..?

 

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