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Every marriage is missing something

I cheated on my husband

Friday, February 26, 2016 2:21 PM by Guest Rating: +58|-39

I cheated on my husband last night. I've been attracted to this man for months. There's something about him that I never felt with my husband, this crackling connection, and it's impossible to ignore. Now that I have done the worst, I realize that no amount of therapy or talking would ever create this chemistry that I have with this man between me and my husband. I fell in love with my husband, don't get me wrong, and he is one of the best people I have ever met. I would do anything for him. But here's the thing: life is a long time and no one can be someone's everything. Our sex life is good, our finances are good, our social life is good. But when I met this guy....there was just something ELSE. A kind of crackling electricity that I have only ever had once before, where you feel like there's a soul connection with another human. I know it comes along once in a blue moon. Maybe never again after this.

When I fell in love with my husband, we got to know each other as friends, dated, realized we wanted the same things and had the same values and that we loved each other. But this attraction to this man is like a lightening bolt. It was hard for me to accept that I can never have sex with another person for the rest of my life, but I know that our marriage is worth forgoing hot mystery cock. I made the choice, and I was living with it happily. But this isn't just sex; it's a visceral attraction that is mental and physical. This man's into me in a way that no one ever has been before. He wants to know what makes me tick - all the weird stuff. With my husband, I feel like he denies my feelings quite often - not out of meanness, there's just this coolness to him, this space around him that everyone in his life finds hard to bridge. Messy and unpleasant feelings often go unacknowledged by my husband, but not to this man. I feel like he will find every weird thing about me interesting and he would love to hear it.

There's a word for this phenomenon: Intimacy. And I didn't realize how much I longed for contact of this kind. I am acclimated to my husband's slightly chilly personality - I get it, I don't take it personally, and I was sure I could cope with it for the long haul. I'm sure not perfect either. It's not something he does on purpose and even if he learned how to do it, he's not going to ever enjoy. No one can be another person's everything - I get a lot of emotional fulfillment from other people. I have full emotional intimacy with friends.

It's funny how getting a taste of that warmth, that longing to know everything about another person that I long for my husband to feel, it's like an opiate. I want more, more, more. I spent the whole night awake with this man, entangled, looking deeply into each other's eyes and talking. To me, it was like food for a starving man. I won't have the opportunity to see my lover again for a long time, and we aren't planning to meet up or anything - but I think something that I didn't even know was missing has been given to me and I have some soul searching to do about wether I can do without for the rest of my future.

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Friday, February 26, 2016 11:23 PM
Angel

😂😂😂😂  wow women are dumb. Look sweety the bolt of electricity  is something  new and exciting. No real connection. He will say oh yeah I felt that too. Bull shit. You fucked up your marriage. He will find out. Just because you and your husband  got comfortable. You didn't take the time to talk to your husband that you needed more. Instead you went after lust. No real love. He gazed deep into your  eyes alright. The whole time  thinking SHE FELL FOR THIS? Yes cupcake you can live your whole life with just one dick. Of course it's exciting it's new feeling new man. And yes he wanted you badly. But also the girl who walked by him earlier. Hahahaha your conscious is going to kill you little  by little. But don't worry your husband  probably  had the same with another girl. Two dumb fucks who could talk. Sorry not being mean to you just real.  You fucked up bad. It will hit you and you will say oh no!😁😂😂😂

 
Saturday, February 27, 2016 12:03 AM
Guest

You speeled "whether" wrong. overall, you have a way with words justifying your actions. I don't know if I agree that one person can't be someone's everything, but itf that's waht you believe wouldn't that also hold true for your lover. is having only intimacy enough for you? Would you leave your lover if you found someone else who gave you an "electrical" feeling? would it not have been better to talk to your husband first before cheating? you jump to the conclusion that you can't get this feeling with your husband even with counseling without attmeoting it. There were other options you could have sought. there's nothing wrong with being attracted to other people, but you shouldn't act on it if you're married. it's cruel and unfair to your husband. isn't marraige sacred? i don't have contempt for you. I don't know your situtaion. i guess we have different ideas on marriage.

 
Saturday, February 27, 2016 12:55 AM
Guest

Your selfish you only think of yourself you could've talked to your husband about it before you cheated 

 
Saturday, February 27, 2016 6:46 AM
God of Satire

Please ignore these comments... You are not wrong... It's your husband's fault... Your husband's a loser when it's so easy to steal his wife... Send me your portfolio I'll forward it to a director friend of mine from adult video industry... Trust me you belong to AV industry not some household... You'll get to choose between the variety of cocks black, brown, red, yellow and white... You can live the rest of your life in a bathtub full of cum... and have your bank account full of money... Babe you're a born pornstar...

 
Saturday, February 27, 2016 6:56 AM
Guest

Cock was missing slut

 
Saturday, February 27, 2016 7:14 AM
God of Satire

Well just wanted to add... Trust me the lover guy of yours uses you as a cum bucket... You're just a hole to him where he can ejaculate. Ask him if he's willing to give you any status in his life. Like a girlfriend etc., or are you just a adventure to him. The minute he finds a tighter hole he'll prefer tighter hole over your loose one. Your husband. I pity him. You are the greatest mistake of his life. You see in India they have a theory of reincarnation. i.e. one organism is reborn as another organism after death. It is said some humans are  reborn as humans they have human character of past life left on their new life. I think you have just been born as a human and still have the animal instincts of your previous life left in you. It's not your fault. Your husband will finds someone wonderful very soon. You'll be free to enjoy your animal instincts. That's Karma - it bites you in the ass.

 
Saturday, February 27, 2016 1:25 PM
Guest

Your husband seems unable to fuck you good enough so you went for another mans cock. Had you been fucked properly you wouldn't seek cock from other men. Nevertheless, you are still a fucking whore. 

 
Saturday, February 27, 2016 6:37 PM
You right

All coments are made by gays and lesbians. Cheating is healthy, when partneres are unuseful.

 
Saturday, February 27, 2016 7:59 PM
Lucasred

So, you Love your husband - you just don't respect him?

If you did respect him, you would have At Least told him Before you broke your marriage vows.

 
Sunday, February 28, 2016 3:36 AM
George

Wow what a story.  This electricity you define is what men who are basically predators learn and use to get into another's pants.  How did you meet this guy? Were you searching the net?  You have been married a while and sometimes in a relationship you become complacent....too comfortable and un observant.  How would you feel if your husband had done to you what you've done to him?  You for the most part blame him for your panties falling off and your legs opening up for a stranger.  You are not a whore or cum bucket but you've made the biggest mistake of your life. This guy used you. Men are expert manipulators when there is a prize at stake.  It was new and exciting to you, intimate as you put it.  Sex is a big part of a relationship, so is trust and understanding.  It seems that communication has broke down and you are as much at fault for that as he is.  I'd suggest that you go to a therapist by yourself and get counseling.  You need it.  Your husband does not have to know about this affair if you plan on stopping it now.  Get you head together, think about channeling positive energy into your marriage and make it electrifying.  Stop looking for "one man to be your everything" because with this idea no man could ever fulfill this profile and you'll be looking for the rest of your life. Work on the man who chose you over everyone else, the man who asked for your hand and heart. I wish you well. 

Geo

 
Sunday, February 28, 2016 3:50 AM
asiangirl

Its just a lust not love. You just blind and you will regret it soon.

 
Monday, February 29, 2016 2:47 AM
Guest

Wow people are so judgemental. I am not married, but I am going through a similar situation. Those who have never felt the electrifying connection only wish they could. Like you, I am open minded and hopeful. Although things with your lover can be going completely swell, sometimes fate intervenes your comfortable norm. It is your life, so no one else can justify to you what is right or wrong. You made a decision, owned it, and discovered something new. Thanknyou for sharing this story. Unlike the others, I felt comfort reading your work. Life is so damn short ad of you are not willing to make it a bit complicated or thrilling every once and a while then you will only know what you know and nothing more. 

 
Monday, February 29, 2016 5:17 AM
Fuck Off

Its plain and simple do whatever the fuck you want in life BUT dont hurt other people in the process. For ALL you unhappy fucks leave your spouse before you catch something fucken scum, trailer trash cum guzzling, aids, ass bitches. And for your sic mother fuckers that think this is alright and you get off on this shit then shove a fucken cock up yours ass and enjoy it. Remember you cant save a fucken SLUT.

 
Monday, February 29, 2016 1:16 PM
Guest

The electricity you feel is just lust....not something electric. It's normal for you to experience a lust for someone else in your life. Your choice is to ignore it and weigh the consequences of your actions. You made a mistake. So what, everyone makes mistakes, but from your story I would conclude that you will need to end things with your husband. Because if you reach out to an Internet source for help you will never truly be honest with him. Just other people which you have showed by sleeping with another man. 

 
Wednesday, March 2, 2016 12:26 AM
Guest

You are slipping in trouble by your own mistakes and stupid thoughts.  If everything is ok I mean you have good house monthly income social life and your husband lives you though not the way you r require so what else you need?  Remember if you love to eat anything too much and have it on daily basis you will definitely need a change.  Same in life we need a change always but not on the cost of relationships. The intensity of love may melt down by the time but loyalty increases with the passage of time. That makes us different as human being from other living creatures. For you your husband should be everything for you.  You should expiore love within him. The friend is playing with you and if you experience the fevour between you and this guy will also vanish someday. Will you go to find other love then?  YOU ARE NOT A WHORE.

 
Thursday, March 10, 2016 1:16 PM
Guest

I should Have mentioned that I have been asking my husband to go to therapy for years. He was raised by a single mother and had a bunch of authoritarian father figures who didn't love him. I believe he got used to not feeling too much emotion, and not expressing what he feels, because his feelings were a nuisance to his family. I want him to overcome this and open up to me, but it's been years and he is not interested in therapy or really anything that might help. I am a very expressive person, and this is what has caused the disconnect between us, and my loneliness. None of th cruel comments here are worse than what I have already said to myself, but I'm human, and I couldn't white knuckle it any longer, needing something in my marriage that I wasn't gonna get. Now that I have cheated, I can see just how wide the rift has become. I am going to move out soon. I will always love my husband, and if he ever needs me as a friend, I will be there.

 
Thursday, March 10, 2016 2:23 PM
justaperson3

pls pls pls kill yourself, you dont desere to live you a fucking whore, pls jump off a bridge.

 
Saturday, March 12, 2016 6:42 PM
Guest

Waouh. Any man behaving like this would have been insulted. It is strange people thinking men don't get hurt or abuse. You emotionally abused your husband. It is normal to have fantasies and desires. You can do that without hurting someone that has been with you for all these years. Women women women

 
Thursday, March 17, 2016 11:39 PM
Truth Speaker

The "rift" as you put it in your marriage was caused by yourself alone, don't ever forget that!

 
Saturday, March 19, 2016 6:42 AM
Guest

Please google Affair Fog.  Everything you feel is pure fantasy. When you get caught and you lose your friends and family you will quickly realize everything was fake

 
Tuesday, March 29, 2016 6:47 AM
Guest

You need to separate the two.  They don't exist together.  You can have both if you can keep them straight in your head.  That explosive feeling when screwing someone beside your husband is real and undeniable.  You want it and need it.  If you want it to last, don't let it out to your husband.  Give him everything he wants but be careful if you bring home a crotch already full of your lover.  Might be a give away...  Take your lover, let your lover take you and enjoy the feeling while you have it.  When you're done, don't be guilty, just know you've experienced a part of the human experience that stretches the limits of the feelings and sensations that were given to you to experience and enjoy. It's crazy how much there is inside of us that just wants be experienced but is always pushed aside and down due to some arcane definition of who is able to love who and who is taboo.  Then, when you're done, love your husband in ways that maybe make him feel the way you do with your lover.  You might owe that to him, besides, if he stays with you for the the long ride, you'll need to keep his cock happy and hard and maybe it'll renew his lust for you.

Good Luck.

 
Tuesday, April 5, 2016 11:54 AM
Guest

I swear people used to be better than this. 

 
Friday, May 20, 2016 6:47 AM
Guest

Cover your eyes and blindly stab at the target or ignore your own insecurities.  You found a new guy who is attracted to you ( plus every other piece of tail with a heartbeat.)  Your a fool if you think the electricity is anything more than something taboo and new plus the thrill of doing it behind your hubbies back.  Your a fool this new man will get bored with you quickly and move on.  Did you tell him you were married?  Some guys take this as a challenge and will do whatever it takes to get their dick wet.

 
Sunday, June 26, 2016 9:11 AM
Guest

Y would a married woman cheat?? If u want any happiness leave first because whoever u fuck will not respect u and views u as easy pussy..

 
Tuesday, September 13, 2016 9:15 AM
TheBestAdvice

I think you are just with your husband for the financial security. You like his money. Imagine how you would feel if you came home one day and your house was completely empty. Everything you care about was gone. You ask your husband what happened and he said he met a woman and he gave it all to her including the house.  And he told you that he promised her all his earnings from now on. He tells you he still loves you and he wants to be with you, but all of his financial resources are now going to someone else.  How likely would you be to stay in the relationship?  I'd say that you be out of there so fast you'd set a world record.

That is what you did to your husband. Your sexual exclusivity was one of his most valuable possessions. You stole it from him and gave it away to someone else. He doesn't know it's been stolen yet, but most likely he will find out. Your excuses and justifications about why you did this are worthless. If you really couldn't control your urges, you could have left him one day and had all the sex you wanted starting that night.  Do you think that you have the right to any enjoyment you want regardless of the pain you inflict?  That's what rapists think too. Just like you, they are concerned with their own pleasure and power and they don't care about the pain that they cause.

 
Tuesday, September 13, 2016 10:28 AM
Guest

Author of this  you are a Whore amd Slut

 

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