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Falling apart

My husband cheated on me

Tuesday, August 30, 2016 11:54 AM by Guest Rating: +17|-4

iv been married to my husband for 7 years but have been together 11 years. We have 3 amazing children together.

I found out he cheated on me the first time when I was pregnant with our first child, it completely devastated me. We decided to try to work things out and he promised he would stop all contact. 22 months later I gave birth to our 2nd child and found out not long after that he was still in contact with this other women as well as other women on chat sites and again I forgave him.... 

4 weeks ago I gave birth to our 3rd child and 1 week ago I found out he was cheating again.....

He says he still loves me and wants to be with only me but how can I believe him after everything. I saw the messages he was sending her and the lies he was telling her about me. The worst part for me is when he would meet up with her he took our children with him. Although I know he now has no contact with her, her children attend the same school as mine and are very close friends, as of Monday I'm gonna be seeing her all the time.

I feel completely lost......

 

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Comments

Wednesday, August 31, 2016 3:46 AM
Guest

once a cheater always a cheater you need to get out of this situation and find someone who values you and your kids. 

 
Wednesday, August 31, 2016 7:20 AM
Guest

Divorce him, his mindset is that if he cheats on you, you'll forgive him and thats were it went wrong. You should've divorced him along time ago.

 
Wednesday, August 31, 2016 7:43 AM
MrAnonymus

Wow this must be such a dilemma for you. You obviously love your family deeply. But in a marriage like you have with a serial chatted you have a few options 

1) therapy for you both to address the issue your partner has

2) strengthening your communication 

3) simply walking away which in a fact is never really simple 3 kids single mother is hard work 

The problem here is that it will only work if both of you balance out the effort required to move beyond this point

all the best

 

 
Wednesday, August 31, 2016 5:16 PM
Guest

It will never get better. Decide if this is what you want for the rest of your life. Some people stay married for the kids. It's usually not really for the kids, it's just a lie that people tell themselves to make staying in a miserable situation easier. IF you have the resources to leave then do so. If not, figure out a long term plan to get out one day. A secret bank account would be a good start. He must never find out about it. 

 
Wednesday, August 31, 2016 10:36 PM
Guest

So you found out that he cheated when you were pregnant with your first kid. Solution: have another kid with him. Then you found out he is cheating again after your second kid. Solution: have another kid with him. Now you just had your third kid and he was cheating again. Solution: Well, how did the first two solutions work for you? Isn't Einstein's definition of insanity doing the same exact thing over and over, expecting a different result. Divorce him and make him pay child support for the next 18 years. Or....have another kid with him. Which ever you think would be better for your kids to be seeing. Do you want them growing up thinking it's ok to be cheated on?

 
Sunday, September 4, 2016 4:17 AM
Carlos

You clearly love him, but I don't think he loves you. It's bad enough that he's cheating during your relationship the entire time, but he's making sure that he humiliates you by cheating with a woman that you will have to deal with publicly. Not only that, but those kids will be humiliated when they find out what's going on. Your husband seems to be a real creep, so I recommend you leave him and move away with those kids. Trust me, he'll make sure that you never move on with your life if you stay in the same town. Sure, he will have girlfriends and baby mamas and side pieces, but there's no way that he would allow you to have a relationship with another man while you're the mother of his children. He's a selfish wcumbag, you're better off far away from him.

 

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