Bitch you are under-reacting<-----not a real word I know. Fuck those people. Your kids have nothing to do with this.your friend tried to hook up with your husband. Fuck him and fuck her. You don't  have to mend shit. He has to prove himself not you. If he wouldn't  have said nothing your friend  would have probably  done it again. When they come to you with that bull shit tell them fuck off and mind your business. Does the friends  husband know. He should. You need to tell him. Update.

  Tell the person who told you that you were over reacting that you tried  to sleep with their significant  other. Be very serious  and see how they will react. You didn't  react enough. Your friends husband  would have known by now if it was me.

Hello Guest,

From all the comments above, posted... it looks like you've got some good, some crazy, and maybe, some bad (not really), bad advice, but I don't think your reaction was ,"un-normal"  I'm being serious, the way you reacted, is not in anyway, by all means, "overreacting".... and clearly wasn't un-normal, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!  Now I'm going to give you my opinion.  Ok....

Now if this was a close friend of yours, "you", must had talked about your husband to her (your friend), maybe sexually (your sex life), maybe about problems you guys are having in your marriage.  Why?  It's because, if she was a close friend (like you stated), you must have said something to her.  Something, to at least make her (your friend), make her strike some kind of interest towards your husband.  Why?  That's what close girlfriends, or friends do, at times when they're having or going through problems, they confined to one-another, to close friends, before family members.  Why this kind of opinion, because if they confined to family members first, people (we), tend to feel ,"ashamed" or ,"embarrassed".... plus they (we), don't want family members to be upset with our ,"spouses," am - I - right? So, that's why I said  you must have said something to her, because that's what close friends do, but that tends to backfire (whether it's a man or woman), at times, in the end.  Everyone's right (from above posts), a close friend wouldn't do this, otherwise.  The reason "I" have this kind of opinion, is because, you stated, that ,"she", initiated first contact with your husband...   correct?  I could be wrong?  

I don't think they felt guilty, i think it would of ended up happening as plan, but also.  I think something must of went ,"wrong," and it was smart that your husband came to you first.  Why? I think, because if your close friend came and told you first, the outcome would have been ,"different," in my opinion.  

I'm going to give you some ,"good - advice," and you better listen! Why? It's because, it's happened to me!  Whenever your getting suspicious of something (that - gut - feeling), whether it's your husband, your kids, anything in life, "period!"  By all means.....  don't ignore it....  go - with - it!  That's some kind of alarm (a gift), that's been given to us, by ,"God", and never ignore it! Even if you don't have actual proof!  Never ignore that feeling, but there are ways of dealing with that feeling. This - in - time, you will learn how to deal with that feeling, when it does happen again, but you need to learn how to deal with it the right way, where it ,"benefits", you.... ok?  In my situation (in the past), I handle that feeling the wrong way (horrible way), and it ended up costing my ,"marriage", to end.  I'm still broken hearted from it.  Now...I know how to deal with that feeling, if it ever occurs to me again.  I'm so grateful for that lesson that was given to me, but in the end....  I - was - right!  She was cheating on me after all, but like I said, I still handled it, the wrong way, the - wrong - way - big time!

You have, "every..... every", right to be upset with both of them, but I think you hang out with her to much, in my opinion.  That doesn't mean you have to always confined to her, and share information, especially ,"private", information.  I'm giving you my opinion, if.... if, that really did happened, but I could be wrong.

I think, you should talk to her, and tell her to confess to her husband. That you're giving her this ,"opportunity", to - come - clean, to her husband, about this whole ordeal, that would have took place, or else.  Let her know, that if she doesn't, that you're going to let your ,"husband", tell him (his close  friend, her man), tell him otherwise.  Now.... sit back, with some popcorn, a good ass mixed drink.... and then.....  watch -  a -  good - show - begin.... a good - movie....  reaction from her begin to take place, haha....  but going back to this subject, for real, let's see what her reaction is or looks like.  lol

Agan, i'm sorry this happened, but take this as a ,"good lesson", for you to learn from, and remember to not....  to - not - ever - ever...  ignore that gut feeling we all tend to get.  You ,"will", always have that little betrayed feeling, and that's normal to have.   It's going to take a lot of trust between both of them.  Believe it or not, they have to, or must earn that ,"trust", back from you.  That's not going to be an easy thing to do, and make sure, you let them, "both", know that!  Now for those advising, on both of you on seeing a marriage counselor, that's ,"irrelevant", right now, because we (all of us), don't know anything about your marriage, or what problems you may have.... only both of you do, am I right?

I wish you ,"good luck", and for the sake of your family, as well.

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Letting the other spouses knows be prepare, how they might take it. My married neighbor took advantage of me. i told his wife.  she call me a liar.  7weeks later, i recieved a call from the police wanting to (talk) to me. 2 question later i was arrested for aggravant hasasment which later was dismissed. U c 2 months early i sent him a letter, he was hopeing he will use the letter to press charges on me, but it back fire. It force him to tell his wife and the police he's been cheating throughout the marriage...do i regret telling his wife...NO....NOt for me. I wanting to hurt him as much as he hurt me... Beside i wanted to put him and everyman like him in his place...second he didnt think i would tell his wife, me being from a different culture....but i show him....his wife is still with him, knowing his cheating ways...she doesnt know about a woman name Cecilia which the husband been support for the past 9 years.....The wife know everything but it difference between knowing and acceptin... SSpoken to other neighbors, which i realize it a common knowlegde he cheats for years...the wife is denied...until one day it will hit her...but then again she been with him for 23 years but married for 17 years..Love is blind....