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My wife cheated on me

Monday, November 23, 2015 9:51 AM by Guest Rating: +26|-14

I found out yesterday that my wife has been seeing another man for at least eight months. I'm so heart broken and scared to death. I'm 46 and she is one year older than me. We have been married sixteen years and dated five years before that. I found pictures on her phone of them having intimate relationships with each other and it made me sick to my stomach. I think I cried two days and did not confront her for six days just so I could have time to cool down. The last thing I wanted was some huge fight or worse. I asked her and told her I read the texts and looked at the pictures. She immediately admitted it and said she was in love with him and started to pack her bags , of course I was devastated. She said I wasn't good in bed and he was so great, this almost killed me. She said she would be getting divorce papers done that day and would serve me soon after. I don't feel like a man anymore and can't stand to even look in the mirror. What did I do wrong and why wasn't I good enough for her. I have no idea what to do next or where to start. I spoiled her like crazy and can't understand why she doesn't love or want me anymore. Thank you for reading my pathetic story. 

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Monday, November 23, 2015 1:24 PM

I am going to be harsh and to the point..Quite being a pussy, which is probalbly the problem to start with,pick yourself up, grow some balls and get on with your life.You probably have family to emerse yourself in while you acknowledge that part of your life is over and heal.Your 47 and there are many ladies 30 years up that would give their right arm for a mature established [man] to have as a partner in life.

Monday, November 23, 2015 1:32 PM

She's damn lier, how the hell in 20 years she haven't told you that "you are not good in bed"? Wtf is that?


Monday, November 23, 2015 2:38 PM

Thanks for making me feel even worse. Just so you know I am a very strong man and I'm not a pussy. I work out everyday and could kick your ass I'm sure. I do not have any family I was an only child and my parents are both dead. I'm a millionaire but my wife was the most important thing in my life. She is a whore and that's why she cheated on me. I can't just snap my fingers and move on. She is the mother of my only child. Unfortunately she has my daughter and I have to get custody of her. The other person that posted I want to say thank you so much. One day I'll move on just not in a week. 

Tuesday, November 24, 2015 5:25 AM

Time heals all wounds man. Stay strong and let her do what she has to do. Don't put yourself in the pit and start feeling sorry for yourself. I't wont be easy and you do have to start going out and meeting some women. Your lucky enough to have money so, that will get you past the finacial headaches that will come with the divorce. All you can do is let the judge figure out the custody battle and don't make it about you and her. Either way you will be able to have some custody of your child and hopefully find a good women that will respect you enough not to cheat on you. Just one thing money doesnt buy love and I think your wife lost interest due to what she says not good in bed and im assuming you lost your connection a while back. Things will get better and she doesnt deserve you man. Good Luck

Tuesday, November 24, 2015 6:07 PM

Go out there and join a group or something. They have some at churches.Start working out alot.  Stay busy.  Unfortunately I think it's just time...

Tuesday, November 24, 2015 6:13 PM

Thank you for the comments. I'm trying as hard as I can. I'm blessed with a beautiful daughter and the money I need to make her dreams come true. I think this time I may look for a man. Lol. I'll turn gay after this! Lol thanks again for the great advice. 

Wednesday, November 25, 2015 1:41 AM

Look man, I dont care if you wan't to be gay or remain straight after what your shit wife did to you but I can tell you one thing for sure. The next male or female you decide to fall in love with, make sure they dont know about that money. Seriously, money blinds bitches. You have no idea the shit that goes on in a womans head when they see dollar signs over your head. So keep your wallet tucked nicely in your pocket and shut the fuck up about the money or else you will never be happy

Wednesday, November 25, 2015 6:23 AM

yea I know that my money had a huge effect on our marriage. She has always spent money like crazy. Yesterday I went to the bank and closed all my accounts. She is going to find out what being poor is all about. She is used to trips all over the world and buying anything she wants. The designer purses and jewelry are over. She will get child support but that's about all she's getting. Let her boy pay for the things she wants, he works at a fast food restaurant! She's gonna find out how good she had it, he may or may not be good in bed but that doesn't make her happy to long. Good luck buddy. You can have her. 

Wednesday, November 25, 2015 12:52 PM

Best of luck!  Unfortunately, this is a familiar situation for a few people close to me.  Be thankful that she didn't give you HIV or collaborate with this other dude, who must be a complete turd, and get you for your money/freedom.  Just remember that when talking with your daughter that she will always look at her mother as half of herself and that things you say out of anger could be hurtful to her and damaging to her self image... Something caused your wife to become an insecure whore looking for sex to fulfill an empty whole inside of herself.  At the end of the day your wife will wake up from this temporary fantasy and realize that she chose you at one point and all those reasons will come back to her.  You can then tell her to eat a whole gang of dicks or take her back.. Either one could lead to some positive resolution.  At the end of the day there is only one person that will not let you down... including yourself.

Wednesday, November 25, 2015 2:35 PM

Thanks for the great advice. I can also count on my daughter who's love is never ending. I can never say I regret marring her mother because out of that came my special little girl, she is amazing. She came to spend the night last night and asked me why mommy was with this " boy" and I just said sweetheart mommy and daddy may not always be together but we both love you more that anything in the world and that's all that matters. 

My ex called this afternoon and asked me for money and I simply said , go ask your new boyfriend! Lol. That was all I said. I know that someone else will love me one day. Thanks so much 

Wednesday, November 25, 2015 4:04 PM

wow ..been there same story..12 year marriage ..I just started working out bought some Viagra..and became a new man.

It was hard but life's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.

Tuesday, December 1, 2015 2:23 AM

Sad story, bud anyways what is most important for your live is your daughter, so now , make sure you never tell her the truth. Just tell her that dad and mommy will always love and support her and that if you guys split up, doesn't mean you two will love her less. That's it. Eventually once grown she will understand what back then really happened avoiding to "kill" her brains now at a "particular" age.

You're still young, fit, with lots of cash in your pocket and have a great life in front of you. There are thousands of free women willing to love you and respect you the way you deserve. But now, remember, your little girl comes first.

Tuesday, December 1, 2015 3:52 AM

Sorry to hear she is throwing such a good man and father away for nothing. I am young and have no idea how to even give condolences, as me and my SO are just recently engaged, but I want to share a word of caution. Growing up, my mother was an absentee druggie, but my father was very dedicated to me and I love him to death. Throughout all those years of struggling together with her crap, we became very close. Too close, unfortunately. We had developed what my therapists call a trauma bond, and my father was so attached to me and couldn't go anywhere or do anything without me, people actually thought I was his wife. He didn't know how to properly approach subjects such as negative body image and depression with me, and I had no females to help me figure things out. Long story short, he kind of molested me without knowing it. So, yes, love your daughter to no end and spoil her, but don't make her fill that certain hole only another woman can. Don't become so overly attached to her that you don't let her make other friends. Just be aware of when too much is too much.

Best of luck, give it some time, and make sure you and your daughter are handling this the healthiest ways possible.

Tuesday, December 1, 2015 7:58 AM

Thank you so much for the great comments, I read them carefully. I know she needs a strong female role model. She has my sister which she absolutely loves and her two grandmothers. I have a best friend Kelly and she is my personal assistant and they are crazy about each other.  When I was growing up I kinda had the same situation as you but the other way around. Me and my father had no relationship and me and my mom where very close. Looking back I think we were to close, not in a sick way! I just knew about all there problems in detail and I shouldn't have. She also still has her mother such as she is but I never talk about our problems. I know the right lady will come along and if she doesn't then oh well. I can survive without one. Thank you again 

Tuesday, December 1, 2015 1:55 PM

Dan I replied to your original story. Maybe you just haven't seen it. You sound amazing and you will find someone one day. Let it come to you. Be a good dad and show your daughter how she should be treated in a date. She would love it. From getting her a cute outfit, opening the doors, getting flowers. She will understand when she gets older. Because you want the best for her and know what best is. Who better to teach her than her dad. 

Tuesday, December 1, 2015 2:11 PM

Lost,,, you have to be a very special lady. I read both of the comments you wrote and you must be a wonderful person. I'm a pretty good judge of character and I see things other people don't , it's reading between the lines. Why are you calling yourself lost ? I promise to take your advice when it comes to my baby girl. She is absolutely the best thing that ever happened to me, sometimes when she's sleeping I just stand there looking at her and dream about the lady she will become, walking her down the isle, her going on her first date and all the wonderful things she will do and become. She is my best friend but I know when to back off. Lol. I'm starting to enjoy her mother being gone because if she will do what she did to me then I worry about how good a role model she is for my daughter. I will always support a relationship between the two of them but I'm done with her. Thank you so much for taking the time to write me. We are just having a fun day, took the day off. Hope your life is going the way you wanted. Be happy! Smile it's contagious! Dan 

Tuesday, December 1, 2015 3:26 PM

Thank you for the kind words. I wish there were a way to talk to you directly and not on here. I would tell you more in depth. My Mom raised me proper, lol. Well u can email

Tuesday, December 1, 2015 5:07 PM

You can also email me at the following,,, I'll send you one soon. Thank you so much 

Sunday, April 10, 2016 8:46 PM

I am so sorry to hear this.  I hope you have moved on and are happy now.  You deserve it!


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