Tuesday, February 14, 2017 12:50 AM by Guest
Sorry. I need to vent. I suspect my wife is cheating on me with my best friend. I had wrote this story also on another site. Most comments believe there is something going on and that im not crazy. Years ago my bestfriend went on a few dates with this really attractive girl. He said he was going to bang the hell out of her. He was extremely attracted to her. He introduced me to her. After 2-3 weeks she broked it off with him. I honestly dont know how far it got in them weeks. But i know my bestfriend, he is a hound. She and i bumped into each other a lot on the singles scene. We started hanging out a lot together. i ended up hooking up with her soon after and i eventually married her. We are in our late 20s and have been married for 3 years now with no kids. We dont get to spend much time together during the weekdays. She works 8am-5pm. I work 3pm-midnight.
My bestfriend is still a bachelor, single and available. He works a similar schedule to my wife's. He took it pretty well when my wife and i first hooked up. He was my best man at my wedding. Now heres the things that bother me. They are way too touchy and friendly with each other. My wife and bestfriend are always playfighting, throwing soft punches at each others bodies. They have tickle fights. He once sat on top of my wife and tickled her till she cried mercy. Sometimes he walks pass my wife and tickles her ribs for no reason and she does the same to him. I dont enjoy watching another guy touch my wife. And he does it pretty often. Theres this time when a bunch of us friends were at the beach. My wife didnt want to go in the water. It was kind of cold. So she was tanning on the sand. Some reason my best friend wanted her in the water with him. he picked up my wife and carried her who was in her bikini and threw her into the water. I did not enjoy seeing his hands on my wife's bare stomach and her on his shoulders. She then tried to dunk him under. She was on his back with her breast pressed against him and her legs wrapped around him. At one point he had my wife tight from behind and slammed her into the water. yes it did anger me seeing my wife 90% naked wrestling with my 90% naked bestfriend in the water. It felt like they messed around in the water forever but im pretty sure it was closer to a minute or two. The whole time i was in a bit of shock at what was going on. I didnt know how to react. I didnt want to make a scene in front of my other friends. Im not the jealous type but the image is still stuck in my mind. My bestfriend texts her more than he texts me. I have read some and its borderline flirting.
Awhile ago we had a small getogether at my place. Just chilling and enjoying a few drinks with some friends. I had a little too much so i went to sleep around midnight while my wife hungout with my bestfriend and the few remaining friends. Around 3am i woke up to use the bathroom. My wife was not in bed yet. Went to the living room and noticed everybody had left except my wife and best friend. They were alone sitting next to each other on the sofa. I know just sitting isnt cheating but with so many seats and space available i dont understand why they were next to each other. Their thighs were side by side up against each other. Plenty of space left on that sofa. They were really close to each other. What could they be doing this late at night alone? Cant be that much to talk about. I suspected something wierd going on but i ignored it. The next day i noticed a small red mark that looked like a hicky on her shoulder. I ask how she got that, she said didnt know.
There was another time while i was at work, she went out with some gal pals of hers. One of these gal pals is a friend of mine who is more loyal to me. This female friend of mine told me my bestfriend supposingly randomly showed up there. I was told my wife and bestfriend flirted all night. They were caught seen dancing on the dance floor. According to my friend at times both of them disapeared from the group for a good 10-15 minutes. Neither of them smoke. I have thought maybe they were just both in the bathroom at the same time but honestly i doubt it. My female friend too suspects something between those two. When i asked my wife about her night out, she failed to mention that my bestfriend showed up.
I have been secretly reading her text messages. I read these text messages, later on i look at it again and theyre all deleted. Why would there be reasons to delete their text conversations? I havent given any clues that i suspect anything. I see texts asking her what shes doing tonight. Hes trying to invite her out to hangout with him. I work nights on the weekdays so its hard to keep track of her. I remember coming home from work one night and there were empty beer bottles in the recycle bin. My wife does not drink beer and i know it wasnt me. My gut feeling tells me my bestfriend was over having a few drinks with my wife. I didnt ask her about it. I ask her how was her day, she didnt mention anything about them beer bottles. For all i know hes been coming over every weekday while i was at work. At any social gathering those two are always attached by the hips. Strangers would probaly assume they were together. With other single women around he rather converse with my wife. And she rather talk to him over her gal pals. I was at work one friday night. Wife went out with some coworkers and she had a little too much. She was not able to drive so she went thru her phone and from all the people she could had called she called my best friend to pick her up. He lives on the opposite side of town. She had so many other people who lived closer to call and she chose him. Ive been just playing dumb and naive. I dont have any evidence to accuse her. I have asked her if theres anything going on between her and my best friend. She denies it saying they are just good friends. Since then things have been a little more awkward and the texts have stopped between the two. I have had a friend drive by my place a few times while im at work to see if he sees my bestfriend's car. Nothing yet. But i do have a 2 car garage. It maybe parked in there. Shes gotten more cautious. She occasionally goes out thursday or friday nights. Im no fool, i know my bestfriend shows up. Theres so so many other incidents i can name but imma stop. My sex life has declined ever since my wife has been spending more time with my bestfriend. Im stuck on second shift. I cant get on first due to seniority(length of employment there). I have no college education so to find a job that pays close to $25 an hr is a blessing. I know to save my marriage i need to quit my job but ive been asking myself is my marriage already over. Another question ive been asking myself is who would she choose, me or my bestfriend? Everytime is see my bestfriend, it reminds me of what could be going on behind my back. Theres this rift between me and my friend now. I have not brought it up with him yet but im sure my wife has. Our friendship is a little torn due to a girl. Do you think theres something going on or am i going crazy?