Sunday, September 13, 2015 8:04 PM by Guest
My wife and I have been married for 7 years (together for 10).I am 37, she is 35, and our marriage has been amazing up until recently. We get into the occasional disagreements like every couple, but for the most part it has been loving, fulfilling and happy for both of us. Whilenot as frequently as before, we still share an active and healthy sex life aswell. She is truly my goddess: beautiful, smart, funny etc. and I take great pride in the lifestyle that I provide for us. While I work anywhere from 40-60 hours per week, she is a yoga instructor.
2 months ago I was rocked when I curiously peeked through her email. There was an exchange with a male name I didn’t recognize. I opened the thread to find that this man was emailing my wife dirty texts and pictures while they shared a sexually explicit banter. A rush of emotions came over me, but fortunately I had hours to compose from the rage and come up with a plan before she got home.
I decided not to confront her about it right away but to pay more attention to her demeanor instead.It came to my attention that she'd began to spend significantly more time conducting phone calls than before and that she was busy hence hardly ever home on the weekends.At that point I was sure she was having an affair and that it was serious.I talked to my friend Dean about it, as he's been married several times so I assumed he has a lot of experience when it comes to marriage, so he advised me to set up cameras around the house because according to him, sooner or later my wife would invite the other man to our house.At first I thought he was wrong and that she'd never do that as it'd be too suspicious and risky but I ended up setting up cameras in the living, dining room and in the kitchen. Me and Dean spied on her for a few days without seeing anything suspicious except for her phone calls which I could see and hear without those cameras. One day, Dean and I told my wife we were going to celebrate Dean's son's birthday so I was gonna sleep there as I was gonna drink therefore wouldn't be a good idea to drive. She seemed happy about it so at around 6pm we turned on Dean's laptop at his place. This was the day when I caught my wife redhanded. She was kissing another man in our house. I couldn't believe it but Dean was right- my wife did bring another man over to our house when I was away. They ended up having sex in the bedroom. I even watched them dress up. I was devastated. When they got dressed, I thought he was gonna leave but instead he went to the kitchen for some reason. My wife stopped him, kissed him and as he was leaning against the dining table she unbuckled his jeans and gave him a blowjob. He came in her mouth. I still can't believe she did that. She continued to suck him off and even said she couldn't wait to make out with hubby(me) when I got home. One day later, I finally confronted my wife about it. She denied everything until I provided her with video footage. She immediately bursted out in tears.
I have asked her why she would do such things. Her answer was: " I don't know baby, please forgive me." I am constantly being ripped apart seeking an answer to this question . Needless to say, my self-esteem is shot. I saw with my own eyes that this man turned her on more than I have and she had a much stronger desire to please him. This has caused us to have intimacy problems ever since. Since Her answer is “I don’t know,” it is always running through my mind that it was because of me. Maybe I wasn't able to satisfy her.