Wednesday, October 21, 2015 12:35 PM by Guest
All I really have to say is that we haven't had sex in four months.
To get into our story please ask questions and maybe I can figure out if she is or isn't cheating.
Why haven't you had sex in four months?
She says that she isn't in the mood and insists that nothing is wrong and really hates when I bring it up..she also has said that you are next to me in bed every night and the fact the I can roll over and get it whenever I want is kind of a turn off.we have only been married a year in June.
Im a little confused here you say that the fact that you can roll over and get it whenever you want is a turn off? Whats the turn off? Does your wife have depression? Maybe she wants a little more attention like taking her out on dates and complimenting how beautiful she is things like that will help your marriage. Communication is very important in your relationship and im guessing by you posting your question tells me that your not communicating well. Hope things turn out better for you and if she still doesnt put out than there may be infidelity going on. Only you and her can solve your issues. Good Luck!
She told me that it's a turn off for her, not me... I tell her almost every day how beautiful she is and compliments all the time. She has said I bug her to much about it, but I have tried the alternative and nothing works..
Have you noticed any signs of cheating like coming home later than she should, being on her cell a lot more? If shes telling you its a turn off that YOU want to make love to her than somethings defiantly up. I could understand if you treated her like shit than her not wanting sex is understanable. Sometimes people fall out of love with each other and I think you need to sit her down and both open up about your true feelings. Make it a dinner date and see if she opens up about her reason why she doesnt want to be intimate with you (her husband). You should never have to feel that your bugging her I dont get that part. Marriage is all about each other. Just curious are you two a younger couple?
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I have tried to talk about it and she doesn't want to.. says nothing is wrong. When we were dating it was totally different. She wanted it all the time and would tell me I could have it anytime.. She would say make me your bitch!! I told her a few months ago that she did a bait and switch.
Thats how it always is in the begining, than the sex tapers off. In your case 4 months is too long without any physical contact. I would bet that her mental status is the cause of it. You've been married for a short time and shes's probably going through different emotions and your not helping by bringing the sex subject up all the time. I guess that could be a turn off. Let it natuarly happen instead of worrying about it. If you both love each other you will pull through it. I dont think she's cheating welcome to married life my bro. Maybe her libido is low due to distress. Hope this helps you.
I hope you are right but there are to many signs to ignore. She started going to a trainer and shopping for new cloths. Loss of time when I'm at work.
Male trainer? Nothing wrong with working out, dressing nice, and feeling good so, let that part go.I think your suspisions could be right. If she is cheating I bet it's with someone she see's at the gym. Does she go out a lot without you especially weekends? Just ask her again if she's losing love for you and tell her about your suspisions that's the only way you will know unless you catch her cheating.
She goes to a private trainer and yes he's a male, and seems legit with a website and everything so i know it's not that. The thing is she goes when I am at work.
She was on vacation last week and went 3 times and only one of those days was on her calender.
I would go with your gut instinct. I highly doubt she's gone this long without sex. Gps her ass and you will have a better idea where she's spending her time. Hope it's not the case though.
Would anybody recommend a devise to track her or record conversations
There is apps for lost phones or parental security which allows you to track a device from your device. Try that
Man, try this - http://quasispy.com/
All the apps I found I have to get a hold of her phone which is nearly impossible.
If it's nearly impossible to get her phone than guess what she's hiding something from you. Tell her you want to go to the gym with her from now on. You should start working out, buying new clothes, and going out with some buddies on the weekends and see how she responds to that. Take a few days off work and spy on her especially the days she goes to the gym. If she's cheating it will be only a matter of time before you catch her. Just ask her with no hard feelings if she's still happy in her marriage, if she still loves you because you are feeling otherwise. If your wife can't talk to you about what's up than it's time to move on or be shit on. Next time you try having sex with her and she denies you than I would pack my shit and game over. Remeber your not the bitch in the relationship.
How are you making out there buddy? Did you find out anything yet?