Saturday, January 23, 2016 12:37 PM by Guest
Me and my boyfriend had been to gether for about a year and one weekend he asked if I wonted to go to a party with him it was at one of his friends house so I told him yea but because he had to work his friend and girlfriend came to get me so we whent to there house and there was a lot of people there and there well as the night whent on my boyfriend never showed up and this guy had been talking to me a lot and getting me drinks then him and some of the other people started telling about how my boyfriend had been cheating on me with had me mad so I was dansing and was getting really drunk so I whent to one of the bed room because we where going to stay the night and I was going to go to bed then this guy that had been talking to me all night came in after I was in bed and got in bed with me and we spent all night together he left before I got up and never seen him agen this has been 4 months should I tell my bf ? Or just leave it be
I dont know, i (23) did sth similar (kissing a girl while drunk) and at first i did not tell my gf(26). Then i did and after that things (of course) have changed. I did not feel better after telling her and her self esteem went low, she started being afraid and stopped to trust me fully. We are still together and nothing like this has ever happened. Of course she is jealous some times etc.
We live in a long distance relationship (for 5 years now) and i share my flat with two very attractive girls. Of one of those I know that she is also attratcted to me (i think the other too and if I weren't with my gf I would also love to find out and I am sure it would be exciting, but....) It is hard, but now I can overcome the guilt and proove to my gf that I only love her. This situation only gained meaning over my confession and my gf decision to forgive me. On the other hand everyone told me not to tell her because my gf would never found out. I. Did not want to tell her, because I did not want to hurt her. I also fell in love with the other girl but finally got my shit together (even if it wasn't easy for me). I wrote a letter to the girl and excused myself for my behaviour on that day and told my gf some months later because I hate being a liar who tries to hide the truth.
Sometimes I regret that i told my gf, because I think that now our long term long distance relationship went harder for but most of the time we dont focus on it or are even happy with it, because as I told you a lot of things gained new meanings. I. Also don't think that she trusts me less - rather the opposite: she may even admire that i had the balls to tell her and also confronted the other girl. She now trusts me because she nows that I love the truth, even if telling it may not be the most selfish thing to do.
But on the other hand,dont be too suprised if your bf will breakup. I don't know what will happen, also you are the one who has to decide. But I clearly recommend to confess.
Another thing is that i am not sure if i would have repeated to cheat on my gf if did not told her because as everyone I have a sex drive (which in my case is relatively high I think) and and seeing round booties everyday at university or living 2000 km away from my gf doesn5t really help. And i guess from reading your post that you don't want to be a primitive cheater, so I really can only recommend you to tell him ,as this was helpfull to me.