Thursday, March 2, 2017 6:48 PM by T.Boo
I've been with my partner for over 20 years. We are happy - ISH!! Started great then the rot set in. I have spoken to him, argued with him, threatened to leave......but nothing has changed! He thinks we are fine.......we are not! We do not sleep in the same bed - his choice, not mine. We no longer have sex, again, his choice not mine. We last had sex about 5 years ago and for 5 years before that it was a handful of times. The first 10 years were great! But then he stopped paying me attention, the arguing started and then the insults - calling me fat, lazy, a waste of space......it was endless. But i love him, so stay and put up with it!
I started a new job a few years ago, went out one night with my colleagues and one thing led to another - i went back to the office after everyone else had left and had drunken sex with the boss. Nothing happened again - for about a year. We carried on working as normal, as if nothing had ever happened. However, for the last 2 years we have been having sex about 2 to 3 times a month, always in the office when no one else is around. We flirt endlessly on the phone and talk everyday. He pays me attention, gives me compliments, and finds me very attractive (his words). Our work relationship has not changed - he is the boss and i the employee. No one else knows about this!
The problem is.........he is also in a relationship and is getting married this year! Neither of us will leave our partners, but we can't help ourselves when together. We can't keep our hands off each other some days - others is a normal working day where the thought of having sex with him doesn't come into the equation.
I feel so bad for my partner as i know he loves me, but he wont change as he thinks everything is fine........no matter how many times i tell him it is not!
I love the attention, the sex is great, the flirting is such a turn on and more importantly, we seem to have a connection!
Before anyone asks - no, i do not feel guilty for his other half - she cheated on her first husband with my boss (she is not all innicent and sweet) - if he was totally happy at home with her he would not be looking for sex (or anything else) with me.
Where do i go from here - i really don't know!