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Less than 3 months married, and she's playing away.

My wife cheated on me

Tuesday, February 23, 2016 6:05 PM by Simon Rating: +43|-23

So, as the title says, we got married on the 5th of December. It was a fantastic day, but the memory has been ruined by her infidelity. She doesn't realise I know (that I'm aware) but I've seen the messages, and she's out again tonight, has been for around 8 hours now. I'm not stupid. 

Part of me wants to confront her. Part of me wants to humiliate her. Part of me wants to wait and see if she will come clean, like the last time she cheated on me, after which she said she'll never do it again. I was hurt last time, but now... I'm angry. 

We have two beautiful girls aged 4 and 5. what hurts most is the thought of seeing them put through this. 

I don't expect any answers from any of you good people who might be reading this, although insights would be kindly appreciated. I guess I just want to vent a little. 

Thank you for voting.

Comments

Wednesday, February 24, 2016 9:23 AM
Guest

Dont hold back anymore and confront her about it. You dont deserve whats going on especially after she did it before. I wouldnt step into her game by humiliating her that will only blow up. You confronting her will be enough for her to realize that she has no morals. Just worry about your 2 daughters they have a good father like you that is not acting out to destroy his family. I honestly think that once she cheats game over. You will find someone out there that will love and support you. Wish you the best of luck buddy

 
Wednesday, February 24, 2016 9:42 AM
Guest

I want to make a couple points.

If you're thinking about your kids, it's not necessary to stay with your spouse to protect your kids from the pain of divorce. Rather than live in a painful and stressful environment, which can be harmful to your children, your kids may be happier and better adjusted in a home without the other parent. They are also young, so they may not be too bothered by it. Sometimes going for a divorce may be best for your kids.

If you are considering a divorce, hold back from telling your wife before consulting a lawyer. I think most or all states have no fault divorce meaning that it's easier to get a divorce. Fault plays a role in determining property division, spousal support, and maybe child support. It depends in what state you live in. Adultery is a fault and the burden to prove it is on you and to find out what that burden is, you need to see a lawyer. Frankly, you will need evidence to show the fault and you can hire a private investigator for that. I don't know if messages are enough. Like I said before, see a lawyer to determine what the law is in your state. The reason I say not to tell your wife is so that she may be more guarded thereby makin it harder to get evidence.

If you decide to stay with your wife, that takes some kind of strength. However, she cheated on you. Did she talk to you about marital problems, marriage counseling, or some other method of fixing the marriage? Cheating was all her decision.

I don't know what type of person you are. You may have cheated on her first, abused her, or abandoned her. These also factor in divorce proceedings just so you know. Best advice I can give you is to see a lawyer.

 
Wednesday, February 24, 2016 3:29 PM
Guest

Whatever these parts of you wanna do, none of them are what your entire body and mind should do and that:Dump the Bitch. Secure all evidence against her, get a lawyer and drop the cunt. 

 
Wednesday, February 24, 2016 6:19 PM
Guest

Before you make any desicsions , I suggest you go on line and purchase the following book: Women's Infedility  by Michelle Langley. It gives great insight into what's going on in you wife's  head. You can get a brief overview of the book at the following web location: womensinfedility.com/infedility-why-do-women-cheat.htm!....it may not save your marriage but will at least give you a better underestanding of both the mental and chemical changes that your wife is experiencing.....things that even she doesn't understand.

 
Wednesday, February 24, 2016 6:26 PM
Guest

If you're aware that your wife cheated on you multiple times, are you 100% certain that the kids are yours? I hate that I have to ask that, but I would want to make sure.

 
Wednesday, February 24, 2016 8:12 PM
Stinky stinks

Your daughters deserve to be raised to NOT do the same. Leave your wife. You will be happier in the long run, and your daughters will respect you and know NOT what to do.  

 
Saturday, February 27, 2016 6:59 AM
God of Satire

Hire a detective get evidence of her infidelity. Sue her ass in a court. File a divorce suit. First try to get a mutual consent divorce with her dropping all spouse support claims. If not. Get the custody of girls. Let her have visitation rights. Raise the girls into perfect ladies. Educate them well. Then once you're divorced. Enjoy life of a single parent. Make sure you have other family members to help you. Understand - life is never fair - it was never meant to be. Just live and learn.

 
Saturday, February 27, 2016 11:27 PM
Guest

It's a shame you can't simply shoot her in the groin area when she comes home. Change the locks one evening when she's out ... leave her a note to go back where she was ... and stay there.

 
Sunday, February 28, 2016 3:00 AM
asiangirl

Just leave your wife ... your kids will safe with you 

don't afraid with lack of mother love as long as you love them angld give them love that beyond the world ... they will be fine.

 
Sunday, February 28, 2016 3:00 AM
asiangirl

Just leave your wife ... your kids will safe with you 

don't afraid with lack of mother love as long as you love them angld give them love that beyond the world ... they will be fine.

 
Wednesday, March 2, 2016 12:05 PM
Guest

Get out now before you've been married too long and she's legally able to clean you out.

 
Friday, March 25, 2016 7:42 AM
Guest

An oath was taken before the church, God, close family and friends. When you have a sitation as the one you are in, you must look at the decisions you make right now will have an effect for the rest of your life. You will be attached to this woman for the rest if your life in one way or the other. I know you are angry because you and I are in similar points in our lives. Do what a real man would do, don't get revenge in any way. This will crush having simplle communication between the both of your and make things harder for your children. A true man will seperate from his wife in the least confrontational way with complete clarity that it's over. If you own a home, then she decided to give the home to you, and anything else you pay for. Personally, I could never seperate a woman from her children unless there is some sort of drug addiction or abuse... other than that you will still have big part in their lives. "Wisdom comes to thise who hold their toung, and knowing when to respond". I know it's not easy, but being a true man these days means making the best decision for you and your family. That's seperating from her without exception, in a manner that's direct and to the point. This will bring you respect with yourself, wisdom, and knowing you are a true man who kept it together where most can't even fathem.

 
Saturday, May 28, 2016 1:38 PM
Guest

Damn, just realise it she will never love you at least like she loves herself. In the ens she will be sorry and tell you it will never happen again, after some time she will continue. You´ll try to hold it together for the sake of your children and die piece by piece. Kick her ass out!

 

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