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My wife cheated on me

Wednesday, June 22, 2016 2:04 AM by Guest Rating: +19|-13

After reading everyones stories thought it was time i share as well . Been married for 3 years now, been together since highschool (soph) ,both young early couple , joined the Marines right after highschool and everything was great we got a house 2 cars no kids although was really looking forward to it, always been there for my wife worked for her catered to her she was my world . I was coming to a end in my active duty contract and i was excited to finally live a normal life with my wife. So i prepared what i could and i told her she could go back to the states if she wanted and she agreed to get things done back home. I had already started packing the house by myself ,arranging movers and checking out of my unit but i got a weird vibe when talking to my wife on the phone and txt so i went through her txts online and found out she was talking to this guy Austin back home who i didnt even know she was still friends with, exchangimg i miss you and love you txts. I called her asked her about it played dumb said no even tho i had just read a txt a mon before so i said i trust you you wouldnt lie and that was ot dodnt think anything went further fast forward about 8 monthes , It was christmas and i decided to head home for that time to see how her progress was going.....on the night of December 26th after going to dinner and movie cause i had to head back to cali the next morning wanted to spend sometime with my wife so we get back to her house and we have a cigerette and she asks me if i had ever cheated on her ,and it was a no i then asked her the same question already knowing the answer but prayimg to God i was wrong except i wasnt. 2 years ago from dec 26 2015 she slept with this Austin kid which would put it basically 2 years into our marriage. Lets just say it fucked my transition out of the Corps ,yay new life but i had offered to see if we could fix this hitch in our relationship and she agreed. Everything was going good until just recently her attitude and affection towards me changed in the past week and im not sure what theres left to do anymore ,the woman i loved and cared for isnt there but im stuck in a circle of wanting her still. Literally im lost. 

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Wednesday, June 22, 2016 10:08 AM
Guest

Hi,

You need to be more direct with your wife. Tell her, based on her attitude towards your, and towards reconciling your marriage, you don't believe she's totally given up on the other man, and/or totally comitted to reconciling. If she doesn't stop ALL contact with the other man, her attitude towards you and your marriage won't change. She sounds like she's insecure, and needs to latch onto someone, especially when you weren't around - that's her issue, and she can't deal with it by double-dipping while married. Be direct, be strict, still be loving, but it's conditional - she has to do her work too, and first. Think of it like a child and the cookie jar - if yuor kid steals a cookie, and you catch him, and the only repercussion is you saying, "please don't do that" and her saying, "ok, sure, won't do it", then what are the chances of sneaking another cookie?

 
Wednesday, June 22, 2016 7:40 PM
wesley

HI, 

     Divorce is the only solution, trust me, cause my wife been cheating on me since we were together, as far as I know, she has been sleeping with more than three differents people while I am away from home. I was not happy in my life, so I am planning to tell her go fuck as many man as she wants, I am done with her.  

 
Thursday, June 23, 2016 5:21 AM
Guest

The way it is: Once a person is willing to cross the taboo line of cheating they change, they dishonor themselves and everything they are connected with. They and their life become a lie. In order to live with themselves they need to justify their terrible behavior. That means they have to find a way that it was not their fault that they cheated or that cheating is not a bad thing. IF it is not their fault - then it must be their spouses fault. To prove cheating is not a bad thing, they continue to cheat. Each time it gets easier and easier as they become a true liar and cheater. They look at those that do not cheat and lie as fools they can get over on. In short, there is no possible good outcome for you other than getting as far away from this shitty person as possible. The love you feel for her is inside of you, not her. She does not love you. Thank God you have the ability to love - she does not. Move on, find a person that can love you in return and love them. You will be okay once you are away from this loser. 

 
Thursday, June 23, 2016 6:15 AM
Guest

There was no reason for you to "work out" anything after she cheated on you the first time. All you did is stick around so she can stab you in the back with more knives. You should work out things with the lawyer and courts, not with her. Divorce her. 

 
Thursday, June 23, 2016 11:57 AM
Guest

she is only woman in your life and its hard to let go she has mentally left you you dont have kids you can put this all behind you and start a new life and get a proof of cheating

 
Thursday, June 23, 2016 5:18 PM
Guest

If you are sure she is cheating just divorce her. You can't work it out with the cheater, trust me.

 
Thursday, June 23, 2016 6:35 PM
ALF

This is what you do:       https://youtu.be/9dZW1C3neao

 
Friday, June 24, 2016 2:39 AM
Guest

No reconcilation brother.. She has ditched you and now it is your turn to ditch her from your memories..
Keep things simple..

 

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