michael

I cheated on my wife

Tuesday, August 9, 2016 8:40 AM by Guest Rating: +21|-6

Can I beg anyone out there never to cheat on your wife, if not for her sake then for yours. Once you start an affair it starts the clock ticking its a timebomb that will explode.

Someone has to get hurt there is no other way, its either you, your wife or your mistress this is always the case. I was one of the lucky ones because despite having an 8 year affair it is only me that is left devastated. I was lucky because my mistress genuinely lost interest in me, and decided enough was enough.

I lived in sexless marriage which was my fault, to a lady who is ten times the person I am. She had no idea and its a secret I will take to my grave. So what were those 8 years like?. Thats easy to answer in return great sex you trade any decency you had, you lie to everyone, the guilt is enormous, in a long affair like mine you convince yourself your in love, but its lust or an addiction not love, men like us are not capable of true love.

You become a shadow of what you were. I can never forgive myself for what did wasting 8 years of my mistresses life where she could have found real love, being half a husband to an adoring wife. I will spend the rest of my life trying to be a better man. That will never make up for what I have done but its a start. please think long and hard before you cheat, there's not a day goes by I do not think of my other woman, and look at my wife and feel guilty beyond belief.

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Wednesday, August 10, 2016 3:03 PM

Husband also

NO NO NO you can't even say you care for a person if you are not honest about your own indiscretions. To stop seeing the other women in your wife you must tell your wife and let her choose how she wants to end it. You had your fun and didn't worry about hers. Be honest or you and her will never know how to fix the fuck up you created. How long was she left wanting a love from a man. She must of felt ugly, useless and undesirable because of you. Man up stop being a bitch and tell her.

Saturday, August 13, 2016 7:02 PM

Guest

Some people need to cheat in order to feel whole. Keep the secret to yourself and make up for it by loving your wife more than ever before. Its over now (the affair) so just move on with your life. Time heals most.111

Wednesday, August 24, 2016 3:30 PM

A wife

Before I met my husband. I had an affair with a married man. I loved him so much that I just brushed off the idea that I was hurting another woman. Then I met my husband, we're married for 7 years now. I never had the heart to tell him about my past. I just couldn't break his heart. This too, is a secret that I will take to my grave.

Thursday, August 25, 2016 12:33 PM

Guest

im reading this because im in the same situation...known my wife for 8 years and married for a year...for the past 8 years i have been financially stable until i went back to university full time for my post grad degree and so this made my wife main bread winner. This was all good at the beginning but now she has grown to be such a control freak, she gets irritated when we speak bills and finaces...she has become so hostile and power driven...i love my wife but when im at campuys i feel so free, so hopeful and so driven, hungry for success, i see possibilities and yet when i get home i feel worthless despite my efforts, less appreciated...i met this girl at campus, she is awesome, we friends and she makes me feel great...recently we had sex after a party, huge mistake of my life...she has fallen for me and im still stuck on the guilt of breaking my vows...the guilt is so much that i cant even sleep with my wife, i come home late and find her asleep, i avoid having sex with her feeling this guilty...i want to tell her, i really do...but i dont wanna loose her either...i made a mistake and i wanna own up to it by being better...the money situation is my biggest problem at the moment and i know she is not purposely doing this things but its killing me, and when i tell her about it she doesnt understand...its such a sad thing for a man to be unable to provide for his family...such a sad and painful thing....but i did her wrong and i dont know what to do...

Thursday, August 25, 2016 2:09 PM

Guest

guest in college- you did her wrong shes helping while you go back to school and you fuck another woman because shes become controlling. Try talking to her about it that did not make you go put your dick in someone else your just rationalizing truth is you have been thinking about it for awhile.

Friday, August 26, 2016 2:36 AM

Guest

Guest who replied to my clollege confession i hear you loud and clear...and believe me i have no intention of justifying myself, i did her wrong, and i dont deserve her goodness...but look at it this way...my wife makes enough but she is terrible with her finances...i just took us out of terrible debts that she took irrationally...been on strict budget for the past six months just to get us back, and finally it was all sorted...during those tough times she would be so mean to me telling me where to get off and that its her money and all that...that she can do whatever she wants whereas i was helping us....i got my payments from work and paid all our bills, the cars and the house...she still did not appreciate all that...she makes treats me like a child, disrespects me and has no interest in what im doing at school, shes not concerned...shes not supporting my dreams ansd is very insensitive about it...i was so broken end of a semester as my thesis proposal was rejected and i came home, told her about it and all she said was "Ok"...Now was part was that my friend at school literallty cried when i told her about my results...now please tell me if i am still irrational...

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