Thursday, September 3, 2015 2:58 AM by Drew
We've been good friends for 15+ years. Been dating 8 years. Have 2 children now (3 year old boy/ 6 year old girl) I love all 3 of them with all my heart and soul. I work 60 hours a week to provide for them. I spoil them. I show my love everyday and am a great father. Relationships are never flawless. There will always be misunderstanding/miscommunication. My girlfriend has ADHD though so after so many years of not fully understanding why she acts out kind of put me in a rut. Not to mention I was underappreciated at work and home. So I hid away my feelings by playing video games. (Still made time for my family & helped around the house) still brought them home surprises & took them out. Then one day my gf decides she wants to go visit family a state away. (Alone) I offered to take her when I had a day off. Asked her not to go alone. She ignored my feelings. 2 weeks later I found out why... She slept over a guys house & went all the way with him. She was facebooking/texting him behind my back a few months before her mini vacation. Focused on all negative & blocked out all the love somehow. Didn't even think, what about the kids? She continued talking to him using words like I miss you & love you & sending nude pics. Only reason I found the truth was putting a tracker on her phone. Sadly, she planned to keep it secret. Didn't show any remourse until I found out. She finally cut ties with him and realized she made a really bad choice/mistake. Now she's sucking up to me & talking about wanting to marry me. My heart is broken. I am lost. But I can't picture my life without her and the kids under the same roof as me. I never cared for someone so deeply in my life. So confused & unsure how to mend my head and heart back together. It's like a rollercoaster. One minute I'm happy. Then something triggers a memory of what she did only 2 months ago & I'm a wreck again. It's like my worst nightmare came true. I need help. Probably a psychiatrist? Family counsiling? Or should I just quit? This is the 2nd time she's searched for new love when she wasn't 100% happy. But then again, I didn't fully understand the extent of her ADHD until I did a bunch of research. Still doesn't make what she did acceptable. Idk what to do. I'm in alot of pain.