Tell Us Your Story

Story of Cheating

<
Share Your Story
Read Stories
>
Subscribe to Stories:

mrs

My husband cheated on me

Wednesday, April 20, 2016 7:30 AM by Heartbroken Rating: +1|-0

I found out that my hubby of 21 years cheated on me 3years in a marriage, and there is a child... Which according to him, it was not love and that it only happened once! - and he did not know about that child all those years. According to him this surprised him (he also was notified 5months ago, and met the child behind my back!! I do not nornally go through his phone, but that time - i had the hunch to do that - and saw the communication between the Dad and the daughter - that Killed me! He appologised and still does - but I cannot forget - this comes to me as if it happened yesterday. everytime I look at him - everything comes back. I am devastated do not know what to do to ignore or forget about all these as it happened 17yrs ago. Please help

Tags: Daughter;

Thank you for voting.

Comments

Tuesday, August 16, 2016 9:09 PM
Guest

17 years is a long time. If the relationship is otherwise good, then you need to forgive him and move on. If her is not truly sorry you should move on. You should give him one chance to tell the full truth. Tell him if he leaves out anything and you find out later that he lied or omitted something important that you will leave him. If you don't want to know the details about the sex then tell him he can leave out those details. One chance that tell you the truth. If he pushes back, or refuses to do this then you should just leave.

In order to mov past this you may find it useful to give him some symbolic punishment.  If He won't accept it, that's a bad sign for the future of the relationship. He should accept this punishment graciously and you have to accept it and forgive him once the punishment is done. You can tell him that you are wanting to forgive him but you are having a difficult time moving past this. An appropriate punishment might be that he has to paint your toenails for a year, or that he has to paint the house or do dishes for a year, etc. The purpose of this is for him to be able to prove to you that he cares for you.

 

Post Comment

* - Required Fields

Hot Stories

Thursday, December 1, 2016 6:40 PM by Guest
 
logo
Views
847
Comments
1
I met a man online.  We were both in unhappy marriages.  We clicked immediately.  He confided in me that he was bipolar.  I didn't know much about this illness but didn't care because I liked him.  About two months into our relationship, his wife found out about us and he moved out.  She filed for divorce.  I supported him emotionally throughout his divorce.  I was still married but extremely unh..
Wednesday, November 30, 2016 10:46 PM by Guest
 
logo
Views
801
Comments
2
I was content being the "good wife". I had always been a very sexual person but once I married I knew I had to stop that. I was even ok with the idea because I was so in love with my husband. Till it all changed one night when everyone was asleep. I saw my husbands phone on the table and decided to just take a quick look. Omg I would never have imagined all the things I would find. He was talking..
Wednesday, November 30, 2016 3:33 PM by Brian
 
logo
Views
330
Comments
0
I worked from my home office for an overseas company so my workday started very early and thus ended early.  I used to take my mail to this wine bar where I'd go through it.  There were mostly young women there so that was my error.  Knowing I was in a place frequented by many women and few men.  I started taking a book and sat at the bar and read.  One day a woman in her early 30's began working..
Expert's opinion is limited to the information presented, and is to help you consider options; it is not and cannot take the place of a counseling session. By reading this, you agree that none of the experts offering information are liable for actions you or others take. If you feel that counseling could be helpful, please look up counselors available in your area.
Copyright 2016 Story of Cheating All Rights Reserved. Contact Us