Sunday, December 6, 2015 12:44 AM by Guest
I have been married to my husband for 7 years and with him for 9 years. I have a 16 yo son, we do not have any children together. We met at the local pub. I was immediately attracted to him, he was cool and generous. After being a single mother for sometime I felt blessed to have met someone like him. He showed me and my son so much love. We had beautiful dinners and holidays. I was in love, alive and happy. He moved into a shared house with me, almost instantly. He was not perfect and I learned very early on he was a big drinker - but I turned a blind eye to that problem. We moved into our first home together a year after we were married. The place had a pub directly across the road and he soon became a local. There were pressures in the marriage and it was never easy. It could turn ugly from him drinking or we would both party. His drinking would constantly spiral out of hand, I was continually trying to control his behaviour. Financially we couldn't afford to have our own child, I was unsure at times of making this step with him. This lead to two unplanned pregnancies and terminations. That he supported me with and we both agreed was for the best. Around 3 years into the marriage I bumped into an old Uni friend. She was keen to catch up, however I had given up the friendship before I met my husband. This girl had a history of sleeping with married men. I was slightly hesitant to have her into my life, but I thought that maybe she had changed. I felt secure in my marriage, I was told daily how much he loved me and called gorgeous. It turns out she was having a "relationship" with the GM that she was working with around this time. She came to my house a couple of occassions. At one time she was with my husbands friend. Something wasn't sitting right, I noticed a change in my husbands behaviour. I was suspicious and did not contact her and try and catch up again. 2 years later after we had renewed our vows for our 5th year wed anniversary - moved into a new and bigger place I found out the news. I intercepted a text message with her number. This eventually led to a confrontation. They had sex on the beach one night when I was at home. He had been round there another couple of times to her home. They claim to have stopped the sex and become good friends. I had caught him out after he was around at her place drinking well into the night with her. She had been placing text messages in his phone that were nasty, and clearly not written by him. I was devasted and in shock. My husband who I loved and trusted. My whole dreams future and life shattered. And as for her - What a horrible evil piece of trash - who does that?? My husband ended up in rehab for 2 two weeks, that did him the world of good. He has sobered up since then and is trying to do everything he can to make it up to me. Im so angry and confused, I still think about it everyday, analysing every detail. Its like Im haunted by her and the horrible hurtful things she has said and done to me. I cannot believe another female can just go out to try and destroy a marriage. I have my son to think of also, its not that easy to just pack up and leave. He swears he will never, ever cheat again. It is 10 months later Im still hanging in there, but unsure of what the future holds. If anyone has any advice or support please share.