Ok. First you did the right thing by cutting communication  with the guy. You made a mistake  but it doesn't  make you a slut. Other guy is married and if you were to get in a relationship  with him he would of done the same to you. He can't  respect  his wife why would he respect  you. He showing you intrest  so you are confusing  your feeling for something  real when it's not. You may want to forget your marriage and move on. Be honest with him. Tell him your leaving. When he ask why say you are not a man to me and because your not I almost cheated. You made me into a women I don't ever want to be.  End it with a fuckyou. If he truly loves you he will fight as hard as he can. If he shows no interest in wanting to be with you then you got your answer. Be at peace and leave. It takes two for a marriage  to work. Don't fight alone.  The other guy is trouble leave him alone for good. You are no where near a slut.  

To:  Annon

"So you're putting 100% into your marriage, but your husband is not? Am I getting this right so far?  What is your husband lying about?  You're not telling us everything, the full story. We are only hearing your side, sorry but that's how this story that you posted, is sounding like.  Okay again, you're forgiving him for what, tell us what he did, hello... Sounds fake to me so far.  And what is he promising you that he won't  do anymore, or again? You're not telling us the whole story.  Yes your absolutely right! You are very, very insecure, especially going through his phone without asking permission first.  Don't get me wrong, I think you should (ask him), if you can go through his phone, you have a right, as his wife.  Vice versa, though.. but remember, so does he... okay.  Something doesn't sound (I'm thinking), sound right....  I don't understand, you just admitted that he hasn't cheated on you, well... that you know of, correct?  But he loves you dearly!  So you met a married man now, blah, blah, blah....  Look, whether you kissed, held hands, hugged, or anything with this married man, it's cheating! Hello, it's cheating.... no matter what, okay!  If it makes you a slut (your saying), right? So to me, this means you are (now), sleeping with him (married man), because in my opinion, that's what a slut does.. A slut would, or would be sleeping with someone... especially at the time their with eachother, correct?  That's why your calling yourself a slut.  Sorry.... you said it, not me.  

《I don't want to break each other's family up》 

but you want to keep it professional?  What!....  that doesn't make sense! You do know, by doing (both of you), doing this and cheating that, you are going to end up, or taking the  chance (at least), the chance on breaking up both families.  You guys need to wise up, grow up as well!  Yes your soooo right, you need to keep praying and asking God for forgiveness,  pray for forgiveness, for this adultery you guys are committing.  You're only going to hurt each other's families, if ever caught!  Okay again, his (your husband's), his lies and secrets, and ......

《he just makes me fee alone or lonely》   

You haven't said or written about, or what he's doing or lying about.  Now.... He's always tired, yes... because he works hard, but so do you.  Plus both of you also take care of the kids, the house, and more.  Good for you guys, but that's normal in a good marriage.  What do you need help with?  Your cheating... and to top it off, your taking a chance on ruining your marriage, your family, plus losing your home as well.  All this by cheating?  Your going to end up going through a divorce, if this keeps happening, so end it with this married man, and come clean with your husband.  Good luck"!