From experience as a cheater 9 times out of 10 the reason you don't want to tell him is because in a way you want to do it again. You feel guilty but nasty at the same time. You feel bad in a good and bad way. The only way I was able to stop was to come clean and give him a chance to make a choice. I came to notice that everything I was doing was for selfish reason. It wasn't the alcohol baby it was you. You know you wanted to do it that night so you did. Cutting of brie won't help you because I'm assuming your still working with her. But like I said not telling him is a sign that your still thinking about the possibility. Your still trying to figure out if you want to continue that route or stop. They always say if you truly love your spouse you will tell him. So that's what I did. To be honest I don't think you were playing wing man to brie I think brie was playing wing man for you. That outing was for you and not for brie. Be honest 

I agree with the first person, you may be sorry, but you clearly dont respect your husband which means you dont love him. You just dont want to ruin the convenience of being married. It is very selfish to keep quiet and your husband will notice eventually. You will start to look at him different if you are truly guilty and men are not as dumb as you think. You should tell him and give him the opportunity and be prepared to meet any demand he lays out to keep the family together. You should also premptively get your children DNA tested so you can prove to him that its the first and last time. Or at least offer to get the kids tested if you do not want to do it premptively. the first person is right. the marriage is already ruined because things will slowly change with how you act and he will notice. tell him and what happens will happen. odds are he will stay with you, but that asking you to go out and make friends is over because the very first time you did that you had sex with another man. you can be young for your husband you dont have to go out and drink with god knows who to feel young. Him giving you permission to do this was him saying he wants you to feel young again, just from now on do it with him because you cannot be trusted. Unfortunatly if I was your husband I would stay after a DNA test and you would not be allowed out the house except for work and going out with me and/or the kids ever again (although I dont really understand myself why any person man or woman wants to do something without their significant other).

All people have secrets and learn to live with them,  move on, be the best wife from here on now,  don't say anything to your husband

Whether you come clean or not, you've already risked your "beautiful family".  Remember, there's one guy out there that knows all about your little secret.  What are you going to do when he comes creeping around again?  You may cheat on your husband again, or, he may realize that you are an easy mark for blackmail.

There are a few people here saying to keep quiet about what you did.  Let me ask you this:  Are you willing to live a lie for the rest of your life?   If you believe you can live a lie, and be comfortable with it, then your marriage and image of family will become a lie as well.

Well I have problem with a wife who cheats on a good and honest man. I don't think that any excuse can justify that unless she was totally passed out which was not the case. Remorse is just not enough.  How can he ever trust her again?  It makes me angry and I feel that women who cheat are nothing more than whores. 

wow. This is like the new normal these days. Love honor and respect are mere words that get used out of convienence. I have been the hubby in these stories more than once and i can tell you as I write this there is no greater pain that I have come to know. You basically have killed your husband and I mean murdered him. What will be left of him after what you did will be a shell of his former self. It will take home years to recover some of his strength and be a man again. Ya know I really don't get women at all. You have a good man at home even an okay man at home and you take another guy inside you. That is like the most intimate thought out and desired activity you could do. It's no mistake no accident no nothing. The second you made eye contact with this other piece of meat at the bar you were basically giving him the green light. That is all it took was a second. A second to shatter all your lives. And yes you are not alone as it seems all women today need to feel this way. I need to feel desired. Well shit none of you should ever get into any relationship ever that is based on monogamy and trust. Just make it clear that you like all men and you are open for business when the wind blows. 

a question to the person above me. What would you say in the situation where the husband cheated on his wife?

Here's the deal - if you admit to cheating your marriage is over.   Even if he Forgives you it will always be in the back of both your minds. And  if you keep quiet and don't say anything it will eat away at you. It is a lose lose situation.    I'm not a religious person but I am a pragmatist.  If You still love your husband why destroy your marriage over a mistake?  Keep the mistake to yourself and find someone who you can talk to about it such as a counselor  just to get it off your chest. And just do good going forward. 

Hi,we all make mistakes ,you're human.Refuse to feel guilty.That is why Jesus was impaled on the cross,to wash your sins and clean all your guilty conscious!Don't ever and  I mean absolutely forever tell your hubby !It'll ruin your marriage.He'll never forgive completely as God does.From now, make it right with God,and I promise you,all the guilty consciousness will obliterate!

I'm talking from experience,I was a horrible,terrible cheater but I told myself,my wife does not deserve this.I wanna change!It's not easy.You  have to be completely committed to God without wavering.The more you pray and fellowship with God ,you'll feel his presence and love.

Unfortunately, you better stop this thing of going out with Brie for drink.It's not health for you @ all.

1. You cannot really care that much about your family if you would cheat on them, that's right you cheated on the kids too! You valued a one night stand with a stranger more than your husbands happiness, and your kids intact home.  

2. Since we know you don't care about them, you really do not feel guilty you feel fear of discovery. You want to know what to do to get yourself out of trouble. 

3. Since we know that you neither love or respect your husband and children, we can determine that you are a selfish, cowardly piece of shit. We can also depend on you trying to keep what you did quiet out of fear. Most likely it will work, but you will have a tremendous fear growning inside of you eating away at you for the rest of your life. You have fucked yourself coward!

4. There is a chance that you will be able to hide your betrayal. If that happens and you get away with it, you will likely do it again. You are already a cheater and going to hell, so you will rationalize more cheating. You will become a queen of betrayal. You have already dishonored yourself but you will sink to the depths of depravity in the near future. Satan is waiting for you. 

Go,    and sin no more.   The Son of God said that to a whore,  a prostitute .  Notice that no one could cast the first stone?  I had a divorced girlfriend that succumbed to a co- workers repeated advances.  Just once.   Guilt eventually made her come clean.   They Had one child.  He divorced her.  They would have had a happy life together if she had talked to God repentantly instead!   I think she would have treated him like a king knowing that he did not deserve to have a cheating wife.

Whatever you do do not say a word to your husband,  it will ruin 4 lives and you will never recover from it.  Keep this secret and move on.

You must tell your husband the truth. Otherwise your marriage is a farce and a lie.