Filel for the divorce.  I'm sure will take care of that, if and when you tell him.  Might as well beat him to the punch.

Quit drinking and file for divorce.

Be an adult fess up!

You owe it to him to come out with the truth your inability to say the words is your conscience going into survivor mode, do as in you know your situation is great a loving husband with a secret single life on the side. You body aches for the companionship while your mind aches for security and this other guy although it seems great has not fully convinced you that he is willing to take care of you the way well your husband does. Because if he had you would have made vivid plans and left by now! either way you owe it to him to be honest. 

In the meanwhile you need to work out what is missing in you that draws you to these situations of cheating as even if you leave your husband for this other guy what's to say that these feelings don't resurface and leaves you exactly where you are now. Best to look for a solution to your infidelity and yourself as well as letting your husband make an informed decision on whether he should main your circle of madness and adultery.

Just a question but what type of relationship do your parents have? How is your personal relationship with your mom or father? 

A lot of things we do as adults stem from our Experiences as children 

Consider that people on this site are mostly shark or pray. It is not alike you will get a neutral answer, we are all involved in our own way.

Based on your story, i find you should tell him what is happening behind his back. Nobody deserves to be played like this. You admit that you prefere to spend your time with some other guy, so i really don't see where you are confused. If you don't value his presence in your life he should know. What is your reason to keep him in this situation? Money i guess. If you were totally indipendent you would have left already, but you need him for a reason or the other.Don't wait to get caught, it may take years, he needs to find someone who actually deserves his trust. Waiting won't make it any easier. If he needs to re-invent his life he needs all the time he can get.

If this is just "the way you are" you might consider next time an open relation with somebody who is willing to share this shit with you.

Hopefully you'll catch a raging case of crabs.

It is difficult to say what to do.  I think it is obvious that you either need to stop your sexual activity outside marriage or end the marriage.  Do you want to avoid your husband because you are feeling guilty?  That may be why you have found someone else to hang with.  You are fooling yourself if you thik ny of these guys care about you.  They just want the no strings sex....your husband is the guy who really caes, he married you.  So suck it up and tell him you are leaving and the reson why. 

Here is exacty how you should handle this:

1)  DON'T TELL YOUR HUSBAND YOU HAVE EVER CHEATED ON HIM. It will only hurt his feelings, just so that YOU can unburden YOUR soul? Not fair to him - you did it, you live with it, but don't tell him.

2) DO tell him "I'm sorry, but I have changed. Counseling will not work because I simply do not love you enough to be your wife any longer. I want a divorce - a fair, equitable and quick divorce."

Then, proceed to a lawyer - hopefully you can agree on kids, custody, support, and if you're a good woman, you will NOT seek alimony.

Get that divorce, and go forth in your life KNOWING that you are not a monogamous person by nature - make sure your next partner after your cheating partner (who WILL desert you once he knows you're divorcing - he doesn't want you, he wants a married woman who wants to cheat!) knows you may love him and fuck him, but you also reserve the right to fuck other guys and he is free to fuck other girls. Fair is fair, and apparently, there are plenty of people who feel this way these days - it should not be hard for you to find a partner willing to accept a polyamorous relationship.

Guest above me. Are you still married? How did your situation work out for you?

You mam, are a fucking dirtbag. You don't deserve to be happy. You can't man up and tell your poor husband? No wonder your heart has gotten shattered to pieces and all you good for is a one night stand

I am still married - this situation is ongoing for me and started seeing a psychiatrist to get to root of my issues. I havent told him about what I have done. This is not any easy thing and person who confessed you shouldnt beat yourself up or let others beat you up about it. You confessed on here because you know you did something wrong and was a way of seeking help. You need to continue on that journey for your own safety of meeting strangers due to one could be a psycho or you could catch something from one of them and give to your husband and then he wil find out anyway. Its not easy I fucked two random men on monday and tuesday this week and so I by no means have the answer i just understand what you are going through. We are all looking for a high we cant come down from be it excitement, drugs, alcohol, attention- the sex makes you feel good until its done and you feel used and guilty.

Divorce him, you are a cronic cheater.  Don't know the real reason why you married your husband and frankly I don't give a damn.  Cheater are the lowest on the social ladder above child molesters and murders.  Grow some balls and tell your husband so that he can make a informed decision (like being tested for STD and divorcing you)  Trust is the underpinning in all relationships and you obviously do not respect the marriage or him and you are lying to him.  Sooner or later karma will catch up with you and you'll go through all the classic beging techniques and crying & sobbing but the reality is you cheated with your eyes open.  By then, if your husband has enough evidence of your lying deceive ways, he would be hardening his heart against you, seek legal advice and ultimately divorce you.  Hopefully he will get everything and you have virtually nothing but a penis of the other person to fall back on.  If you are on the verge of a breakdown, that for you to deal with, because I have no sympathy for you. 

tell him everything and if he wants a divorce then give it but it sounds like you do love your husband and update please