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So Frustrated

Want to Cheat

Tuesday, December 6, 2016 6:24 PM by ThatOneGuy Rating: +47|-22

Despite the category of this post, I don't want to cheat. I'm just so very frustrated with my current situation. 

 

I've been married to my wife for about 2 and a half years now. However, we've known each other for about 15 years. We were high school sweethearts. We dated in my senior year in high school, continued to date all through college, then eventually got married. We've had many ups and downs in that time. Yet, we've always remained in love with each other. Over the years we've had a child together and built a wonderful home to grow in. 

But things have changed now. After our first child about a year ago, she has completely lost interest in sex. During the time we dated and after the marriage we used to bang like rabbits. Constantly. It was great. Now, she wants none. I honestly have no problem with that, except for the fact that I still want sex....a lot. I feel as if I could still be very sexually active. If the wind blows in the right direction I can get hard. 

It's getting frustrating, however, trying to have sex with my wife. I do everything I can to make her feel sexy and wanted. But she responds with negativity and "reasons" why she's not in the mood. "I have a headache", "I'm too tired", "I don't feel sexy anymore", "I'm too fat, I look disgusting", "I have to wake up early", etc etc etc etc...

I get it, she has body image issues. After the kid she did put on some extra weight. But, that doesn't matter to me. I still find her sexy and attractive. I do what I can to make her feel that way as well. Yet, she still finds ways to turn down sex. And it's getting so frustrating. I need sex. I need a way to relieve my own stress. I want to feel physically close to her. But, she keeps rejecting me. Masturbation doesn't help as that is like eating a cheeseburger from McDonald's when you've got a juicy steak in the next room. 

I've tried to explain this to her, I've tried to communicate my needs. Still her response is negative. 

~Sigh~

Long story short: I don't want to cheat on my wife. But I know who I am. And feeling this sexually frustrated, if I find myself in the right place at the right time with the right lady, I won't be strong enough to say no. There's this cute woman at my office. I know she's making passing advances at me. She's a flirt. I can read the signs, I'm not dead. I tell her constantly that I'm married, but her response is "I know honey, I'm just having fun."  We laugh it off then go on about our day. But, I can see something happening with her. I'm not trying to. I try to work from home as much as I can to try and not get tempted. But, I have to go to the office sometime, and she'll be there. And I know she's "ready to go", while my wife simply ignores me and my needs. 

Please, internet people, what am I to do? 

Thank you for voting.

Comments

Monday, December 12, 2016 12:33 AM
Guest

Hi.

I am in a very similar situation, and I feel exactly the same. 

You are doing the right thing by resisting temptations. My advise is never sleep with coworkers as it is unprofessional, too risky and can cause significant damage. You have two options: 

1) Continue to resist temptations and never cheat. Rather occupy yourself with a hobby or a distraction of some sort.

2) Meet someone who lives too far away and technically out of reach that you can sleep with but not often enough to cause real damage.

Indeed, the first option is your best, but I can understand if you choose the second one. If you do, then be mentally prepared to loose your wife in the worst case scenario. Most likely, your sex life with your wife will not get better regardless.

Good luck

M

 
Thursday, February 16, 2017 11:44 PM
Guest

Your a human being if sex is important...well, sex is important. Tell her.

 

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