Tuesday, July 5, 2016 9:24 PM by AB
I'm 32, and I've been married for nearly 8 years. My wife is a doctor in the final year of her training, and I am a graduate student pursuing a Ph.D. in music. I've known my wife and have been her companion since 2002.
Throughout our marriage and the courtship prior, I have been involved with texting relationships that have been emotionally charged and sometimes sexual in nature. Our last count was somehting like 15 women, 8 before our marriage and 7 since, but that count is likely +/- a few women. This problem has come up a couple times, but I'd always downplay it or make it seem as if my wife were making something out of nothing. In my head, I separated the texting relationships from my real marriage, when now I've realized that I actually cheated. Many, many, many times.
We had something really special, and I'm coming to realize that it is very likely over. I am devastated, but I can't imagine her pain. I feel like I am empowered to change, but I don't think she is confident that I can. Please advise.