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Wednesday, August 24, 2016 6:48 PM by Guest Rating: +1|-1

Hi,

Im 24 years old and I have been married for just over a month, my husband and I have had sex twice in that time and about a month before being married we barely looked at each other nevermind be intimate with one another and being newlyweds I don't think it's very healthy.

heres my situation,

we used to work together and now I've moved jobs because I wasn't happy there anymore, we still work the same shifts and we do see each other fairly regularly but the conversations, intimacy and basic human contact have deteriorated to nothing. He barely talks to me and when he does it's the same things over and over again, I've tried to talk to him about everything but his focus is on the tv mostly and nodding every now and then.

recently, I had went to a friends/coworkers/neighbours house to get drunk, this lasted for 12 hours, I messaged my husband straight away telling him that I am just across the road if he needed me. He messaged me back and said it was okay and that he's away to work. Before he left for work I remember going to my house and saying goodbye to him before he left, he was happy I was having fun and not stressing out as usual and he told me to say hello to the neighbour, kissed me goodbye and left and I returned to my neighbours house to continue drinking. Me and the friend were dancing in the living room, showing off tattoos and sharing stories, generally having a good time until he wanted to sleep on the kitchen floor (as you do..)

as my friend had passed out, I decided to have a nap in his bed, fully clothed, until he came through to wake me up. (It usually happens like this.)

i was awakened with my friend next to me, half naked from the bottom and he was trying to bring me closer to him to initiate sex, I immediately got up and returned to my home, shaking with rage. How could he do this? He knows I'm married! He knows my husband!

after a nap in my own bed I started thinking that it wasn't a bad thing at all, if anything it made me feel wanted, adored and loved.. He wanted to be closer to me and never has he done this before but I can't help but feel like I should have just done it to get this sexual frustration out of me.

Me and the friend still talk, I've told him what had happened and he called himself an idiot and told me to apologise to my husband for him, which I did. However, we have started making a joke out of it, winking at each other, general funny flirting and making plans to drink again. If we are to ever drink again alone I would probably sleep with him and judging by the way he looks at me recently he would do it too and I really want to. I've been fantasizing about him before I go to sleep so I can sleep with a smile on my face most nights. He's not my type at all and I'm not his but there's definitely something there.

should I drink with him again and possibly sleep with him or should I just keep trying with my husband to be continuously rejected? I'm lonely in a new marriage... This shouldn't have happened so soon, right? I need intimacy and love and I'm not getting it from the person I married. He's my best friend but sometimes that's all I think he is. Just a friend. Not a lover.

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Friday, August 26, 2016 3:09 AM
Guest

Noooooo don't drink with him. Give your marriage a chance.. It's way too early in the game to give up so soon. Otherwise flip the script and leave ur husband.. At least if your marriage isn't worth staying for you haven't wasted too much time together. Don't give into ol this neighbour.. Do the right thing. 

 
Friday, August 26, 2016 6:45 AM
Guest

I'm in a similar situation. My wife and I have been married for 4 years and hadn't had sex in almost 2 years (yes I do the solo thing). So I totally get the need for intimacy and sexual contact. Just use your best judgement. 

 
Friday, August 26, 2016 7:56 AM
Guest

I see your desires for that love and attention but please do not do it for that instant gratification. Think of the repercussions on your relationship with your husband and the consequences it will have on the commitment you have made to one another. Communicate with your husband. At this point that is the only way. Also, your neighbor sounds like a real punk to try to take advantage of you when you are incapacitated. 

 
Friday, August 26, 2016 7:56 AM
Guest

I see your desires for that love and attention but please do not do it for that instant gratification. Think of the repercussions on your relationship with your husband and the consequences it will have on the commitment you have made to one another. Communicate with your husband. At this point that is the only way. Also, your neighbor sounds like a real punk to try to take advantage of you when you are incapacitated. 

 
Friday, August 26, 2016 2:18 PM
ALF

I've said it once and I'll say it again:  if you open that door, you won't be married anymore.

 
Saturday, August 27, 2016 11:54 AM
Guest

You need to see a sex counselor.  

 
Sunday, August 28, 2016 5:33 AM
OP

Well everyone, thank you for your honest opinions and I have concluded that I will be drinking with my friend again however, things will not go any further than a dance together. My husband has had sex with me yesterday and although it was rather boring it felt like it was a step in the right direction, I've told him that we should try having sex at least once a week and I've told him that I had felt lonely. I believe he felt lonely as well considering we aren't in the same workplace anymore and he hates his job.

My friend isn't a bad guy, he just drank a bit too much and has apologised to my husband and me but remains our friend. My husband trusts me with all his heart and I don't think I'd be able to break that trust anyway.

 

Again, thanks. Xx

 
Tuesday, August 30, 2016 6:05 AM
Guest

OP, 

You are fucker and a slut. Hope your husband dumps your sorry ass on the street. Then you will start crawling back. You are the source of the problem. Rot in hell. 

 
Wednesday, August 31, 2016 5:12 AM
Guest

The ball is already rolling and it will finally end up with a definite sex no way. 

 
Wednesday, August 31, 2016 10:49 PM
Guest

Take my word for it. If the sex is not there now it never will be. Speaking from experience I stayed and haven't had sex or intimacy in over 20 years. Leave now while you have the chance. Don't cheat just leave. Then play the field

 
Thursday, September 1, 2016 7:03 AM
OP

Well, thank you for calling me a slut and whatnot although I haven't actually cheated. Did you even read my story?? Idiot.

 

to the other two of you that have commented, it definitely will not end in sex, I have spoken to my friend about everything that has been going on and he wants to help me fall back in love with my husband. He is a great guy and I've always known that. He is one of my three guy friends who look at me like a little sister, my husband knows them all and he's quite happy that I have them all looking after me. 

I am going to initiate sex more often with my husband and if he continues to reject me more than three times a week I'm going to have to give it a lot of thought. I do love him with all my heart, it's just the feeling of admiration I'm missing.

 
Thursday, September 1, 2016 10:37 AM
Black Bull

Talk to your husband about your sexual frustration. Honestly and non-judgingly ask him about what turns him on. Maybe he wants you to be fucked by other men? It's well known that many white wives love big black cock, but many husbands also secretly fantasize about their wives getting what they desire - I know from experience. 

If you can't openly talk about your needs, get out of the marriage before you have kids - or they will be collateral once your body convinces you to take what it needs.

 
Thursday, September 1, 2016 7:23 PM
Guest

tell your husband what happen between you and your friend .

dont cheat on him , talk to him give him chance ,

my idvice dont be arond this friend anymore all he want use you 

he will never love you as your husband do

 

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