yeah I know... God I know .. What ever happens at least we could look back and say we tried.

Have some self respect and quit being a dumbass. Dump her flat!

Good grief... Where are u guys? The faithful women are out here! Your wives are idiots!!!! Karma will bite their asses but dang, to have a faithful man & you cheat? Stupid girls . Stupid stupid girls. Wish u luck! Just go! U can't meet that faithful woman until u let this mess go. U will feel much better & u will move on. Happily . Just jump. Otherwise once u go through all the work to forgive her? U will just find yourself back in this same situation .. Same cheating wife, different man a year from now. Then u just wasted time . 

The only reason to stay is for the kids. She doesn't love you, she has no respect for you. Her actions have proved that. Your relationship with her is dead. What you need to assess is your relationship with your kids and what is best for them. Are they your kids? Get DNA tests. Then, are you close to them or are you an absentee dad? If you are close, do you want full custody, custodial custody? You want her off your back as soon as possible. You do not want to pay her for cheating on you for the next 10-13 years!

my wife of 30 years cheated on me its 6 weeks now I don't know if I am going to be able to get though this no one knows till it's them I love her always have but the pain is great hope you guys make it not sure about us 

I'm here to up date .. Well what I learn is don't let your wife's cheating define you as a man.. It only defines her as a woman.. That said it's an emotional roller coasterd said it's an emotional roller coaster.. I sometimes feel stupid for trying to work things out. But I know I made the best choice for my kids.. What I did it take a good close at our marriage and make changes and we both have been working on them.. Thing are getting better.. It still hurts and I have a lot of resentment but things seem to be working out.

That's usual. Once the pain starts to fade your actual feelings comeback. For the longest time you've been numb. You getting your feelings back and shes not in them. You have fallen out of love with your wife. I did the EXACT same thing. When the numbness went away the love for my wife went with it. The pain goes away because you find away to forgive. The love goes away because you will never forget. If after this long your thinking about leaving then it's the best decision. The love is gone because the perception is gone. How is she acting towards you now? Has she been remorseful? Does she want to work it out and if so how much effort is she putting in?

As a father of three, I can understand your pain. Please, do understand that you worked very hard to support her and that you gave yourself completely to her, but she gave herself to another man. Should you continue to support her, you may as well be paying her to cheat on you with another man. Think about your children first. Would it be better for them to have a mother who wasn't loyal to her man? Or would you rather raise your children with faithful morals and discipline? If you keep her around any longer, she may influence your children through example. Another jote is that she betrayed your trust. Please understand that when she took another man, she essentially sees you as a mistake, someone she shouldn't have married. If she told you that she loved you, then she didn't love enough not to cheat on you. Most of the time, they just apologize just so that you wouldn't be heartbroken and angry. Think about it this way: Was she sorry when she met up with the other man? Did she truly regret meeting the other person if she kept returning to him for a year? I highly recommend, for the sake of your family, leave her. When you leave, she will truly understand and learn to appreciate how valued you were to her. If you leave her and she stops seeing other people, that means she truly is sorry. If she just gets back with the other man after you leave, that means she took advantage of you and saw you as a source of luxury and pleasure, nothing more. I pray that you make the right choice, but again it's all in your hands. Best of luck.