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Wife Cheated. Took 16 Months to Confirm It

My wife cheated on me

Friday, January 8, 2016 9:18 PM by You Took Pictures!!?? Rating: +41|-29

I suspected my wife was cheating about 18 months ago. I found obviously worn lingerie in a sports bag of hers. I couldn't believe it and didn't really have any concrete proof if she came back with an excuse. Maybe she was helping a friend cover up, whatever.

Anyway I let it play out and eventually found more lingerie (not particularly well hidden). Also she would take her phone everywhere, never leaving it for a minute. Looking back she was texting late at night after I was sleeping.

Also the sex had become 'different'. Maybe more aggressive from her, but if you've been married to someone for 20+ years you notice.

Around a month ago I found her 2015 journal. Everything was there to see. Not too many specifics, but almost a year of obsession for the guy. To be clear around four physical encounters were described and with a lot of other 'fill in the blanks'.

I confronted her after finding the journal. She IS destroyed and is deeply sorry. We have talked a lot and begun counselling. I'm not sure if I want to stay or go, I think it will end in seperation. He had finished with her and moved on from what I can tell. She, however, would text or e-mail every day hoping for a reply. Her journal is full of entries wanting him to be with her, 'fate will bring us together' stuff.

The kicker is my idiot wife allowed pictures and at least one video to be taken. My suspicions are the other guy has a history of this and keeps them as a spank bank. Futile though it might be I've had long looks online looking for the pictures or video. Wife has a number of tattoos so would quite recognizable. Believe it's not a fun evening in trawling interracial porn for those reasons.

They met through a sports organization which my wife wants to go back to. She would be there at different times now, (he may not even be involved there now it turns out) but I've told her no fucking way are you going back. Even if their paths never cross, the memories and environment are there.

I find writing about it cathartic, so any questions, go ahead.

Tags: Friend; Interracial; Pictures; Video;

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Comments

Monday, January 11, 2016 9:29 AM
Guest

Why would you stay with someone like that?  Clearly you've devoted your heart to her 20 plus years ago... She didn't.  You may be scared of an uncertain future without her?  But, at least you would have a life spent not wondering what she may be doing.  

 
Monday, February 1, 2016 4:45 PM
Guest

Leave the cheating slag. You can never trust her again, so why stay with someone that disloyal to you? You deserve much better, so do yourself a favour and stop wasting time on that no good filthy bitch!

 
Saturday, March 19, 2016 9:53 AM
Guest

 You know quite well what they say ? Once they have a big black guy ? It ruins it for everyone else . Did ever ask her how well he was hung ?

 
Wednesday, September 14, 2016 2:24 PM
TheBestAdvice

Hopefully you've moved on from this and she is no longer in your life.  I believe in counseling, but in this case you'll get a really bad deal out of it.  This isn't like she got drunk at a party one night. This was very premeditated stuff. In counseling you'll examine her flaws and yours and although she will get more of the blame, it'll be made to sound like it was your fault. If only you had paid more attention to her and tried harder to meet her needs the she would't have been forced to act out to get your attention, etc. 

 

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