Friday, January 8, 2016 9:18 PM by You Took Pictures!!??
I suspected my wife was cheating about 18 months ago. I found obviously worn lingerie in a sports bag of hers. I couldn't believe it and didn't really have any concrete proof if she came back with an excuse. Maybe she was helping a friend cover up, whatever.
Anyway I let it play out and eventually found more lingerie (not particularly well hidden). Also she would take her phone everywhere, never leaving it for a minute. Looking back she was texting late at night after I was sleeping.
Also the sex had become 'different'. Maybe more aggressive from her, but if you've been married to someone for 20+ years you notice.
Around a month ago I found her 2015 journal. Everything was there to see. Not too many specifics, but almost a year of obsession for the guy. To be clear around four physical encounters were described and with a lot of other 'fill in the blanks'.
I confronted her after finding the journal. She IS destroyed and is deeply sorry. We have talked a lot and begun counselling. I'm not sure if I want to stay or go, I think it will end in seperation. He had finished with her and moved on from what I can tell. She, however, would text or e-mail every day hoping for a reply. Her journal is full of entries wanting him to be with her, 'fate will bring us together' stuff.
The kicker is my idiot wife allowed pictures and at least one video to be taken. My suspicions are the other guy has a history of this and keeps them as a spank bank. Futile though it might be I've had long looks online looking for the pictures or video. Wife has a number of tattoos so would quite recognizable. Believe it's not a fun evening in trawling interracial porn for those reasons.
They met through a sports organization which my wife wants to go back to. She would be there at different times now, (he may not even be involved there now it turns out) but I've told her no fucking way are you going back. Even if their paths never cross, the memories and environment are there.
I find writing about it cathartic, so any questions, go ahead.