I had been dating my wife for 5 years before we decided to get married. Had been with her since high school and never had a serious relationship before. I never saw the signs. She never got distant or didn't give me attention so it came as a shock. We had been married for a month when she tells me that she was tired of being home and wanted to take a road trip with a girl from work. I was whole against it because we'd never spent time apart. When the day came she up and left while I was sleeping. The girl she went with turned out to be a guy she knew from school (he wasnt the one she cheated with). So I'm pretty pissed at this point. I don't think she is out to cheat but I'm mad that she left. Well the night she left her brother comes and tells me that he thinks she has gone to cheat on me with anot her guy we went to school with. So I'm calling and calling and she's lieing and lieing. Also that same night I find a receipt from a hotel in D.C (we live in Houston). Still I'm naive and can't believe that this is what she is doing. She comes back a few days later and sells her story beautifully so I believe her. One night I decide to get into her phone so I figure out the password and the treasure trove opened. I found messages to and from of explicit photos and her asking how she was in bed. I've never felt as sick as I did when that happened. Come to find out she had been texting the guy for 2 months and even texted him 20 minutes before we said our vows in our wedding. Oh, the room she booked in D.C was paid for from her stealing her mom's CC number. Fast forward to now and God help me we are still together with 2 kids. I've no idea how it has lasted this long because I think of that daily. We've been together now a total of 11 years. I think I stayed because it was too much trouble to leave but it's something I will carry for the rest of my life. I mean what she did took major planning and wasn't a spur of the moment, temporary loss of judgment deal.