My wife and I have been married for 10 years and have two kids.  A couple of months ago I found out she had a Match.com account and had been sending messages to multiple men for the past 5 previous months.  When I confronted her she completely denied the whole thing even though I had access to her account and took screenshots of every message she sent.  I even sent her login credentials to her family so they could see what she was up to.  I was completely torn down by the whole thing and wasn't able to sleep or eat for about 3 days.  I made her show me her phone records and she communicated with one man she met on the site for over 24 hours of talking in the past 25 days.  They had discussed hooking up after work in her messages I read, and since she worked evening shifts the kids and I were usually sleeping by the time she got home.  The phone records showed that she had been talking to him every day while I was at work and during her breaks and after work.  She had over 3 thousand text messages also.  She has denied ever meeting him, but I don't know what to believe.  As of right now my trust for her and our marriage is almost completely depleted.  I want for us to work, because I still love her and I am just as attracted to her as day one.  I know we have had some hard times and I am not always the easiest to get along with, but this whole thing took me by surprise and messed me up.