33+ years ago, I married my 1st wife -  a gorgeous brown-haired, blue-eyed 19 year-old girl from Texas (I was 23 at the time).

After 3 years of dating, I joined the Navy, then took her to Japan a few months later. (I was stationed on a ship in the US 7th Fleet.)

While I was in foreign ports, f'cking verything in site, this sweet innocent girl fell into trap of the "Midway Wives Club (Basically MANY wives in the 7th Fleet whose husband are at sea, run around with their friends - other wives, to party, have entertainment, go out to eat, etc. Basically just to have fun.) Naturally, you can see where this would end up... Often in someone else's bed.

I was the jealous type (with no excuse of my own.) When I got home, she wanted a divorce.

We ended badly, but I have thought about this over the years: What if we had just talked about what we each/both wanted before we argued, this would never have happened. She just wanted to get out of the house and have some fun, maybe EVEN get laid more than once every 6 months when I was home. She knew that when I was in port away from home, it was typically a place where beautiful women, and GREAT pieces of A$S cost less than a hamburger for a whole night. 1. She and I had once tried a FMF threesome a year earlier. 2. I had already wanted to share her with my best friend, whom if I recall she had thought was cute: He had a (no kidding) beautiful 10 inch d1ck, and he was also really muscular, if a bit of a geek. A great guy, AND he had told me before that he wanted to boink her brains out if I ever wanted someone to help with that, lol. (I did. Him.)

But no, we went our seperate ways and I let jealousy get in the way of what could have been an AMAZING (soft) Open Marriage.

 - These days I would let her occasionly find herself a young stud for the weekend while I was gone, as long as she sent me pics, lol.

Such is life...You only learnt the tricks and how-tos at the other end, lol.

I have been married to my current beautiful loving wife for thirty years. I wish she would (just once, or ??) f'ck up and have a one night stand. She loves me and I love her, but we are going through the "dead bedroom syndrome", meaning if I don't make the move, she doesn't either, lol. Although she did just read a book on why she should give me head, lol. It has been a long-damn time! 'Guess we'll see where that goes.