Once a Cheater Always a Cheating ho. Set your finances in order and hide them. Then leave her sperm-burping gutter slut behind! Unless you got no backbone. You can get custody if you can prove any of it. It is ABANDONMENT of the children to commit adultry and several times... Dont tell her, just stack your case bro. Or take it like a dweeb!

Where the fuck does everyone find these hoes

I think she's being very honest. I think she truly loves you and shes allowing you to make your decision on the truth. Seems like she got it out of her system by telling you. Good luck

I have the same issues. This is the second marriage for both of us. My wife admitted to sleeping with 28 guys back in the day and I did the wow thing when she talked about it. She travels quite a bit for work and it is the other 20 or so she has not admitting to fucking. I guess I am a broke toy because really if she indicated she needed something else on the side I would try to openly tolerate it but I don't think that will ever happen. So all I need to decide is where to go from here.

Past relationship is just that, past relationship, whether it's 1 or 19.  Has your wife cheated on you since you two married?  She confessed to you about all this sleeping around which happened before you two got married.   She said this will never happen again.  Give her the benefit of the doubt.  You chose her and she chose you to be married to, to have a children with, to start a family with.  You were happy and love her before she confessed to you, right?  Remember, all this happened before you got married, before you two tied the knot and be commited to each other.  Forget about the past.  That happened a long time ago.  

response: she did cheat one time after we were married. but not sex, just kissing and making out with a guy. she stopped it when he took her top off apparently. still bothers me a great deal. she was supposed to be visiting her mom with our 1 year old while i was working like a dog.

this is one of the guys she cheated on me and fucked while we were living together. then there are 7 more she fucked while we were living together and i thought we were monogamous. then 2 additional she says were just kissing only, no sex. so that is 10 total guys she cheated on me with. 

the problem i have is obvious. we were so happy. traveled and took vacations 3 or 4 times a year to beautiful locations in the usa and abroad. stayed at nice hotels etc etc. such wonderful memories. now they are tainted. i look at photos and wonder which guy or guys she fucked before or after the photo.

one photo i asked her the other night about. i asked who took it, thinking it was me and she could remind me where we were. she tells me paul took it. what? 

then there are the 11 other guys she fucked before me. i know its before and really nothing to do with me. but the fact is she lied. she said it was one. it was 19. 

the 8 that she fucked during our relationship hurt the most though. some were without condoms or she can't remember. one dude she met 3 differetn times and did crystal meth with him and they fucked. i knew this guy and was suspicious at the time. he was a "friend"

then there was one of her roommates. i was also suspicious. she admitted to fucking him on several occasions too.

then when she visited her parents in her hometown. she fucked her ex. she fucked carl. she fucked oscar. all friends form before that she fucked or dated. then ther is lou from when she visited her brother. 

i can't even keep track it is so many and so crazy to me.

i just keep going down the list and picturing their acts. the going out, hanging out and having fun. then kissing that leads to sex. 

yes it is prior to marriage, but wtf man.......how do i forgive her for this.....doesnt' seem like time will heal this. every day i wake up with this nausea. then sad then mad.

all the while i have to smile and be super dad to my kids like nothing is going on....

she says she is sorry, she loves me. she wished she didn't do it etc etc...... but when she told me she changed everything and altered my reality and my past memories of us.

thanks for all the comments please keep them coming! 

I highly suggest you start having your fun. It's basically an open relationship now. When ever other women give you the opportunity take it. There's nothingshe can do stop you now. It's probably best if she feels what you feel. Don't lay down like a dog. Man up. You are a father and that's what you need to stick to. As far as being a husband she has just taken that away from you because now your marriage is a lie. None of it is real. Those trips weren't real cuz she may have been there with you physically but mentally where was she. I think it's time for you to open your world and see what's out there. Meet other women, go to the bar. Start hanging out and make her stay home with the kids. After you have done all that see how you feel. I think you should at least separate. Being around her may not be helping you

To add to that. She may only be partially telling the the truth to hide her guilt. It is up to you tho, ultimately.  Do you love her enough to forgive her? It's good to listen to other's opinions but don't get completely taken in by any of them (including my own) can you live a life with her knowing she put her lust above you and your child? Sadly more than once to boot. Honestly that's what saddens me most for you and your kid. She betrayed you and even when with her kid, she was looking for a good fuck. Doesn't matter if all she did was "make out" if that's even true. But if you can honestly forgive her, make her spill the whole truth and go to counciling to figure out what fucked up bullshit made he betray her family like this (doesn't matter that it was before marriage) good luck, friend. You'll need it. And a little tip but don't take your anger out on her by fucking other women. If you must then do so after you divorce her. I'm not religious in the least but god or not; marriage is a bond of trust and just because she fucked that up doesn't mean you should too (you'd be slightly vindicated to do so but don't) Be a hu(MAN) of honor unlike your wife and set an example for your kids so that you can live a life you can be proud of.

2nd post fix - She cannot visit anyone WITHOUT you, not with you or your kids.

Honestly. She has been faithfull to you since she took a vow to do so. IF..IF this all happened BEFORE you got married then I dont think its an issue worth ending the marragie over. She came to you about things she did BEFORE she was yours and yours alone. It sucks and had you known then you probably would left, but you two have a life and childerne together. THe vows you both spoke still remain intact.

Personally, Id forgive her and move on. Keep in mind the term "once a cheater always cheater" is pretty valid, but your WIFE has never cheated on you...your past GIRLFREIND did. Also, watch her like a hawk for a long time. This new found remorse may be due to something happening recently and shes just prepping you for bigger issues.

I think sex becomes an addiction for some women as it does for men.  It doesn't excuse it, but can be like drugs and alcohol.  I also tend this to be a curiousity for women that haven't experienced many men in their lives.  There will be a time they want to experiment.  I hope you work it out and see things more than personal against you, and more of her needs, and if you can adapt and understand her.  Good luck.