i have been divorced for 3 years. It has been a nasty roller coaster ride in and out of custody court for us The the whole 3 yrs. it is happening again right now. We have a 7 yr old son together and the last time he was at my house for visitation (we have 50/50 custody) he accidentally left his iPad. I looked through it like I normally do to make sure the games he plays are age appropriate. I clicked on the email app and to my surprise my ex's gmail account came up staring me in the face. Naturally, I looked through his email. In an email dated March 2017, I found communication between between the ex and an prostitue, excuse me escort, where they had made plans to meet in Nashville the following week. In this email exchange, the ex provided his Ter (The Erotic Review) user id to the working girl for some sort of referral process. I logged into his TER account and there it was....not only had he been seeing and paying escorts throuout our entire marriage but he had written detailed reviews of these women on the site. All the juicy details. Dates, places, what thevwhoke hour or so he paid for was like!  Now you may say "well thank god you are divorced now and get over it". In fact, I might say that if someone if it were someone else in my shoes. But I can't help but think about how our entire relationship was nothing but one big fraud and set of lies. Anything that I thought we had pre divorce is completely gone, just like the thousands of dollars he spent on having sex with strangers while I was at home with our infant son. He doesn't know that I know this....yet. And I haven't spoken or written about it publically until now. But it does feel good to get it off my chest. Now I don't have to carry the secret alone. Thanks for letting me share.