so basically, this girl was in my life for the past 11 years, we were together for i'd say 9 and 1/2 of that, Not married, but pretty much considered to everyone around us. So a couple months ago we celebrate our 11 year anniversary and take a nice trip, go out to dinner a couple times, in my eyes i thought things were doing ok, i knew there were other issues between us but i didn't think there was anything that was major that we werent working on, anyway, she was acting different the past couple months and i'd picked up on that along with other things, and about 4 weeks ago, i picked up her phone while we were hanging out and she was acting all nervous and said "i cant do this anymore, im cheating on you."  ...i was shocked, i mean don't get me wrong she was showing signs that were definitely making me think it, but im still in complete disbelief of the whole thing, here i thought im going to work everyday tryin to get ahead and build some sort of future for us and she's around the corner with this guy on her time off, which even family of mine who were close with her noticed because she was showing up late to see them with no real reason, she cut everyone out of her life that knows any of my family or me, friends, everything, and she is telling people that she was in an abusive relationship, currently, they live literally within a 5 minute walk of my door, gonna have to move if they don't soon, like a living nightmare everyday now...completely devastated with nothin but time...she was everything to me.