Sorry to say - I would be done with you as I believe he is done with you. You knew what you were doing as being drunk does not make you do things you did not want to....Again sorry....

obviously drunk is not an excuse, as you've already said, but it really isn't and now you're begging to do anything to regain his trust is implying that there was nothing you can do bout it, and you're wrong, you CAN do something bout it, like not get drunk. I don't get how being drunk is even an excuse to do something like making out on the front porch, you even admitted and vividly remember all of this shit going down, which indicates you were very aware of every thing going on if it's just a tad tipsy. Let's face it, you're a disgusting human being to take an 8 year relationship out the window over something you actually have control over. Now I understand why some people have disdain for females, geesh learn to take responsibility and think.

"He promised to try harder"... What you don't understand that a relationship is between two people, not one. I think both of you need to try harder to fix the intimacy problem and make it work between the both of you, not just on his side. It's obvious there's something wrong. Maybe it's not him in this case?

It seems to me that the cheating was planned. You avoided going home and obviously you didn't avoid the scumbags that hung out at the bars afterwards, so the cheating was planned. You were left alone with a scumbag guy and didn't make a wise choice to avoid the inevitable. You knew there was a possibility of where it might lead to, but still you took the risk never thinking of your significant other that was waiting for you at home.

"You felt he was a really decent person with a big heart, and I did like him just a bit? He kissed you in the bar, you didn't reject him but right after you said that you wanted to go home (your drunken instinct to get away perhaps)?"

What would make you say and write something like this,? Think about it? Perhaps, really? Why didn't you pick up your cell phone and call your boyfriend to come pick you up? Obviously you were in no way acting like a loyal significant other that was in love with her boyfriend. You cheated with a random guy with your love of 8 years in front of your apartment where you both share with one another, and your boyfriends friend might've driven by and seen you? Might of? Hell... damn looks like that friend did... yikes! I'm sorry to say this, "But you definitely got some problems. Good luck! Hope everything works out!"

You did well. Dump the moron and find someone with the right sex drive. His fault. P.S. I'm a man, and a man without a dick is sick.

Adultery is huge crime. If it was your boyfriend who cheated on you then can you forgive him. Alcohol is the reason why you cheated. If you avoided it would have never happened.