We have been together for 9 1/2 years, married for 6 1/2 of those years. One beautiful little girl together who is so good neither of us even deserve her. In the last year I caught my wife texting this guy she works with. Rather explicit messages, if you understand my meaning. The first time I caught her was just a bunch of text messages going back and forth. Mostly a lot of wining and complaining. Wishes that she wasn't married to me, so-on and so-forth. I spoke with her about it and we discussed the problems that she felt we were having over the following couple of days. At the time, after discussing our problems at length, I thought we managed to get to the heart of things and were working together to try and correct what went wrong. Boy was I in for a surprise.

The second time I got into her phone I found text messages between her and the same guy arranging to get together. Now let me just back up here... we live 48km outside of town... my wife does not drive. She was saying in her texts to him that she was going to tell me that she had an appointment in town and have me take her to a location and drop her off and come back for her later. I didn't confront her right away, I waited to see if she would try to follow through on it. And so she did. When she did I let the cat out of the bag that I knew. She immediately felt guilty and promised me that she was going to end it. She even went as far as to show me texts sent after a lengthy argument about the matter that she was ending it.

Recently, when I went to pick her up at work, my phone died so I could not tell her I was outside waiting. So I went to the staff room window, where I knew she was at as she had already clocked out, to show her I was there... lo-and-behold there she was with the same guy making out with him. Now I didn't go ballistic, I kept my cool. As far as I knew things didn't really go too far to the point of unforgiveness (in my book), at this point as she never really had the time to do so. But I am not discounting that until I know with 100% certainty. However, most men would have walked and left her behind, but I have a little girl to worry about and in my opinion, how my wife has been behaving she is not thinking of our daughter, just her own selfish feelings. I confronted her immediately and took her phone and sent him a direct message to stay away from my wife. Although he replied he would... he didn't... the next day my wife tells me her supervisor does not want me near the property for fear of reprisals. Let me just say this... Yeah, that guy deserves the whoopin he should be getting, but... I have a little girl to be concerned about and I serve her no good by sitting in a jail cell. A few days later I find thew 2 of them together (supposedly just talking) right where I thought they would be (at the time, too much detail toi explain). This time I went ballistic. I shouted a bit, turned around and got into my truck, started the engine, threw her jacket out of the truck and drove away.

Now I wish I could say that I kept going... she immediately calls me asking me to come back. I tell her to give me one dam good reason... She was LATE she says. Now here we go... is it mine or his? But I am not going to be one who will be labelled as a heartless man that would abandon a pregnant woman. However, luckilly it is a question that we never had to explore as a few days later her cycle started... it was only just late. She asures me that nothing more was going on between them and that theyn have never been in the sack together and that she has ended it.

Are you ready for this... little does she know that I saw her texting him just last night. I know that the only direct contact between them right now is at her work... is there anything going on in the locker room? is she still trying to carry-out this lame attempt of an affair? Does she really have that much contempt for me and disregard for our daughter to continue to act in this selfish manner? Guess so. If I could afford the divorce lawyer I would have her gone by now and persuing custody of my daughter. But since I can't, I just don't know where me and my daughter can begin. I know my marriage is over, there is no denying that. If she wants to leave that badly, why doesn't she just do so and get it over with rather than just continue to lie to me. Try just coming out with it and get it over with.