My wife and I have been married for 17ys and we have been through a lot. Yes there was a time when I did cheat on her early on in our marriage. About seven years ago she came to me to say that she had sex with some guy at her girl friends b day party last week, I had my own plans that weekend, but I had nothing to fear she was always true. She was upset that I chose to let her go alone and along with the help of the jungle juice, see we both are very light drinkers. When she first told me of what she had done I was in disbelief and thought she was trying to make me jealous, but as i realized she was telling me the truth, I felt broken, I was going to kill him. The nerve of him to put his hands on my wife. I went on feeling like this for a few days, then I started thinking about her taking off her clothes, then and there I knew that she was to blame not him, she could have turned his advances down. I swept it aside for some years. Off an on over the years I would think of her having sex with other men, this was an interesting concept that I could like. So I started playing with some of the swingers online sites. When she found out that I was looking into swinging she was not to impressed. I began to ask her about that very night, asking that she be truthful. I asked if she had enjoyed the sex the night of the party , she admitted it to me that the sex they had was good. So I explained that I have been aroused with the idea of swinging and its not cheating if we both are willing to partake in the fun. I must say she was not jumping for joy, she said stuff like what am I not good enough for you. I explained that my love for you is not sex, it goes alot deeper than that, I want to be the one who cuddles into you at night kisses when the sun comes up and be there when you're feeling blue. Being jealous is not love, it's fear of losing control. So for the past few years we have been swinging with a couple and we have had some great times and some late night fun. Now this other couple is a lot of fun to get naked with but I find my wife alittle more fun. We started having mfm with my wife and enjoyed every minute of it. My wife got upset one night and said that she didn't think that the other gal was pulling her share of mfm, and she was right, but it was not of her doing. It was us two guys, we both enjoy having my wife join us. Now my wife has called it off and we have not been involved with our friends for some time now. The sex my wife and I have has always been great. This should all be good, but I have enjoyed playing with other couple's and I miss the play time alot. I've been wanting to find another couple for me to play with every now and then. I still would much rather my wife join in on the fun as she once did.