I want to make a couple points.

If you're thinking about your kids, it's not necessary to stay with your spouse to protect your kids from the pain of divorce. Rather than live in a painful and stressful environment, which can be harmful to your children, your kids may be happier and better adjusted in a home without the other parent. They are also young, so they may not be too bothered by it. Sometimes going for a divorce may be best for your kids.

If you are considering a divorce, hold back from telling your wife before consulting a lawyer. I think most or all states have no fault divorce meaning that it's easier to get a divorce. Fault plays a role in determining property division, spousal support, and maybe child support. It depends in what state you live in. Adultery is a fault and the burden to prove it is on you and to find out what that burden is, you need to see a lawyer. Frankly, you will need evidence to show the fault and you can hire a private investigator for that. I don't know if messages are enough. Like I said before, see a lawyer to determine what the law is in your state. The reason I say not to tell your wife is so that she may be more guarded thereby makin it harder to get evidence.

If you decide to stay with your wife, that takes some kind of strength. However, she cheated on you. Did she talk to you about marital problems, marriage counseling, or some other method of fixing the marriage? Cheating was all her decision.

I don't know what type of person you are. You may have cheated on her first, abused her, or abandoned her. These also factor in divorce proceedings just so you know. Best advice I can give you is to see a lawyer.

Before you make any desicsions , I suggest you go on line and purchase the following book: Women's Infedility  by Michelle Langley. It gives great insight into what's going on in you wife's  head. You can get a brief overview of the book at the following web location: womensinfedility.com/infedility-why-do-women-cheat.htm!....it may not save your marriage but will at least give you a better underestanding of both the mental and chemical changes that your wife is experiencing.....things that even she doesn't understand.

Your daughters deserve to be raised to NOT do the same. Leave your wife. You will be happier in the long run, and your daughters will respect you and know NOT what to do.  

It's a shame you can't simply shoot her in the groin area when she comes home. Change the locks one evening when she's out ... leave her a note to go back where she was ... and stay there.

Just leave your wife ... your kids will safe with you 

don't afraid with lack of mother love as long as you love them angld give them love that beyond the world ... they will be fine.

An oath was taken before the church, God, close family and friends. When you have a sitation as the one you are in, you must look at the decisions you make right now will have an effect for the rest of your life. You will be attached to this woman for the rest if your life in one way or the other. I know you are angry because you and I are in similar points in our lives. Do what a real man would do, don't get revenge in any way. This will crush having simplle communication between the both of your and make things harder for your children. A true man will seperate from his wife in the least confrontational way with complete clarity that it's over. If you own a home, then she decided to give the home to you, and anything else you pay for. Personally, I could never seperate a woman from her children unless there is some sort of drug addiction or abuse... other than that you will still have big part in their lives. "Wisdom comes to thise who hold their toung, and knowing when to respond". I know it's not easy, but being a true man these days means making the best decision for you and your family. That's seperating from her without exception, in a manner that's direct and to the point. This will bring you respect with yourself, wisdom, and knowing you are a true man who kept it together where most can't even fathem.