Ur good.. Keep ur secret... No need to tell

What kind of husband actually pawns his wife's problems off on another man? A bad one, that's what! You need marriage counciling and you need it now. Your husband should have been at your side from the start, which is a big reason as to why this happened. But the biggest one at fault, is of course, you. You view your husband's disinterest in your problems and shrug off, when you should have been hitting him over the head with it with a 2x4! I view your husband's 'not getting it' as a growing fault in your marriage, and you doing nothing about it is just the same as giving up on that marriage. It's the little 'faults' in a marriage that allow this complacency and the casual disregard to a spouse's well-being that opened the door to this encounter. There is no one who is right here. Not you. Not your husband, and not your co-worker. If you do love your husband and want to stay with him, then get help, before this gets worse. And good luck.

Seriously? Your husband sent you to sleep at another man's house? Sounds like a genius lol

Get rid of him.

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no he didn't ask too many questions when I got home. Basically checked to make sure that I was okay and wasn't hung over. It's an hour commute so I understand him not wanting me to drive. I know I put myself in the situation and was dumb for doing it. I don't honestly think there was a "plan" in place. I think B was just trying to be the best friend he could by asking me to go get a drink. I don't think his intentions were to get me drunk and take me home. We have kept our friendship just that. We don't talk about it and we don't act weird towards each other. Almost as if it didn't happen. Which is fine with me because I'm not romantically attached to him. As for him being better, it was in the heat of the moment so it was hot but I've had hot sex with my husband many times so not really better, just different. I'm not obsessing or dreaming of being with B. If he suggested trying it again, I would have to turn him down. I'm not going to ever allow myself to be in that situation again. It was wrong the first time and it will be wrong a second time. 

Thank you you all for your comments. I'm not sure that I'm going to come clean about this. It will destroy my husband and stain the last 11 years. He doesn't deserve that type of pain. 

first I'm all for doing new things as long as both people know. What you did was the lowest. You knew what you were doing from the start. So don't try to put Blair on your husband. It's females like you that will always know women are nothing more then free whores. I hope he divorced you I hope you have to pay him. Your a sick fucking whore I hope you get an std or worse. Women in America today just cheap fucks

I see what precipitated your affair. First, your expectations are unrealistic at best.  Men, like myself, are problem solvers.it sounds like he was giving you advice when u had issues at work etc...that's a man's natural default.  Did you communicate to him yours needs?  Like tell him u need him to listen and not give advice?  If he is unable to just listen to you in this capacity then i suggests talking with a female coworker or friend only.  Second, your relationship with your coworker was inappropriate....plain and simple.  You don't get emotionally close to another male like this when you are in a relationship. Before it got physical, your relationship was wrong.  You husband should be the only one to fill your emotional needs.  If he wasn't fulfilling ypur emotional needs, then it is up to you to tell him...and not withhold you're feelings. Your relationship with your coworker should have ended at that point before it got physical and then implement good boundaries with other men at that point.  Thirdly, no way in hell should have you and your coworker went out for drinks, let alone lunch together alone. That's just plain disrespectfull to your husband. What I don't understand why your husband was ok with that.  A married individual has to implement strict boundaries with a friend of the opposite sex.  My wife has a male friend but she only sees him when I'm with her.  To do anything alone with a friend of the opposite sex is inviting inappropriate relations.  Also, when u called your husband he was ok with you going to your coworkers house...not to sound rude but is your husband stupid, gullible or just too trusting?  I think you should tell your husband about everything because a secret like this will always create a wedge between you two regardless of any improvements you make..ie..counseling, communication and healthy boundaries with men.  That secret will always be the elephant in the room. If you tell him he might leave you but if you don't it'll be toxic to you and a heavy burdon to carry around and be a barrier to the emotional connection with your husband.

first of all, dats not your friend, if dat disgusting thing was your friend he wouldnt have made you do dat, you should tottaly kill yourself, you dont deserve to live you are a failure to this planet, than you people say, "its just a friend", fuck you, pls die, the world would be bether off whitout you.

Once again.  Women need to take responsibility for their own relationship whether married or friends.  You've lost touch with your husband.  Men are morons we don't really know what are women want and neglect to ask because it turns into a story we are incapable of following.  You tell your husband.  If he forgives you your lucky if not you've earned it.  You a B are both responsible for it.  Wake up tell your husband what you need in the relationship.  Don't overload him as I'm guessing your the needy type.  Tell him a few things then start looking for a job you can handle your stressed way to often to be happy ar work.  But once again that's your responsibility.