Seriously what's wrong with you? Why the hell would you marry a cheater when she's gonna keep doing it again & again!!! Remember once a cheater always a cheater!!!!! I know someone who has been through the same situation as you. Do yourself a favor,  just leave her lying cheating ass & find someone else more better & faithful. You just wasted your time DUDE! 👎

Well the quickest answer is to just leave. You had a deal-breaker, she broke the deal, and now might be doing it again. So why stay in the broken deal?

I understand the 'why'. If you just leave without proof, she can just tell everyone that she never did anything, you just left, and must be jealous and paranoid, right? But think - does that matter? In 5, 10 years when you're off and happy in your new life with an honest person, why do you care what she thinks or says at this point?

The issue here is that she knows you have no real hard-line, so she'll stretch boundaries and limits till they break, knowing that even if you had hard-proof - well, you stayed last time. 

She gets points for actually telling you the first time - but think again: Was she telling you so close to your wedding as a way to get out, without having to be the one to call it off? She tells you she cheated, you call off the wedding, and SHE doesn't have to DO anyting? 

Maybe the same thing is happening now. She won't actually be brave enough to be the one who calls off the marriage, but she'll mess around on the side enough for you to do it.

One thing you have to consider: When people tell you, either directly or indirectly, that they don't want to be with you, why don't you listen to them?

Screw pride. Stand up for yourself.

Now, if you really do need that proof, do as the above poster said and log everything. Keep happy, keep quiet, don't set her alerts off. Just wait until you have your smoking gun.

I have been cheated on too in the past and I know how you feel and trust me she's not going to change. She's not worth your time and pain. The world is full of faithful beautiful women.  Drop her sorry *ss and look for someone appreciate you..

I'm sorry to read your story. However, it is identical to mine. Unfortunately, my nightmare lasted 12 years of my life! But I'm a woman. My husband was a bodybuilder too. He cheated for an entire year while we were dating... I didn't find out til later. He convinced me he was trustworthy again and it was a big mistake but his ex wouldn't let him go. I forgave him. We ended up marrying... therit was e were red flags I ignored. He would withhold affection and sex for long periods of time and refused counseling. A man contacted me and said his wife and my husband may be having an affair a couple months after we were married. He did not have any proof but said he did know they were messaging and she bought him a very expensive leather belt. I confronted my husband and he blamed the woman for flirting with him and buying him a belt, but he assured me it was nothing more. I continued to trust him. The last 3 years of my marriage, he became more withdrawn... refusing affection and sex. I found out last October he was having an affair for at least a year with a very homely mother of four young children. In addition, she was bankrupt

I hired a lawyer immediately and started my own counseling. I then purchased a home and moved to another state. I am enjoying life so much now without his control and misery! My advice... GET OUT NOW! These people will suck the life from you. My husband was a narcissist... somatic. Read up on it as I bet your bodybuilding wife is too. They don't stop sleeping around, or lying. They need constant reassurance and attention via their bodies.

Spare yourself more years! Good luck!

Divorce her, it's not worth it. She's obviously hanging with other guys while you're paying the bills.