I have been married to my wife for 35 years.  We got married right after she graduated from high school.   Our marriage had been a bit rocky for the past few years, some family tragedies plus I work away from home Monday to Friday.  Well my daughters introduced her to social media so they could stay in touch with her and to chase boredom and depression away.

   Things were going well.  I only spent 2 night a week at home unless there was overtime and then I could be gone for a month as she was always encouraging me to get as much over time as offered. During this time I could not but notice how distant she was becoming.

   Since the only answers that I could get from her was that it was only my imagination, I began to spy on her.  I put a key logger on her laptop.  I found out that my wife was having an emotional affair with a guy that she went to school with.  They were sexting, exchanging photos and skyping very explicitly.   He lived in another state about 400 miles away but they were constantly inviting each other to visit for the week.  “Don’t worry he is away all week” was a constant comment by the both of them.

   I should have confronted her right away, but I was learning more about my wife in the year of intercepted communications than I had in the prior 33 years.  She told me that I was her first and only, not true.  That she had never cheated before or during our marriage, again not true.  To me she had always insisted that she had a low libido and no interest in sex, well after reading just a few of messages I found out that wasn’t true.  In fact she had made a point of telling him how boring and unsatisfactory having sex with me was. 

   It seems that she was having sex with him while we were going out.  That she was his first and she (and he) had never forgotten their “love making”.   She had even snuck out for a rendezvous the night before our marriage and said that night in his arms was “the happiest and saddest time of her life.”

   Well I am divorced now.  I have completely no trust in women, but thank goodness I have copies of all of their messages and got a great settlement.  She didn’t get a thing and lives with her mother as her lover didn’t seem to want her as badly as she thought.