Well a little while back in September of 2015. I had feeling for alittle bit something was up in my marriage my wife and I had been through a lot together. The year before she had a mental break down and I had to switch shifts so I could be home with the kids. We have been married 5 years and have been together 7 years we have a daughter together our boy has never met his real dad I have been with her since he was little his real dad left her a month after she was pregnant. He calls me dad and knows no different. My wife and I have been through marriage consucling all that stuff. She's always been pissed at me for being such a neat freak. I don't look at it like that I hate coming home from work with a huge pile of laundry and dishes to do. I also paid the bills handled all the flow of the money but she didn't like doing it and called me a control freak. I also helped with the kids as much I could when I could I love my kids they are my pride and joy. While I was doing all this she said I never paid enough attention to her. I wasn't trying to avoid her I worked a screwed up shift but it was only to be for a few years cause it was a real high paid job. I did it for my family and my kids so they could have what they wanted in life. I also did it for my wife new car big ring nice house all those wonderful things. Our sex life was kinda bad once a week usually but she had a badder problem and said sex would hurt so I managed through that with her. So a year after the mental break down she was distant from me I knew something was up. When I tried to talk to her she would say I think we are growing apart. That we needed to give it time and see how it went I said ok I asked her many times is there someone else she was quick to respond no noting like that. Well I got into the cell phone records and found that not to be true. She was talking texting with some guy half way around the country. Sextexting as its called today. I confronted him first and then confronted her I was immediately thrown out of my house told when I could see my kids and hours of the day I was not allowed over. I pretty much destroyed what ever it was between her and this other guy. When the dust settled from all this she wanted me back. I went cause I missed my kids so much I couldn't stand it and I still loved her. About a month a later I  got into her phone and found out what they been texting about during the time they were talking. She broke down and started crying I guess she could barely hold it together at work but I was pissed the things that she told him was the things that were exactly wrong in our marriage that we tried to fix and struggled with. I was pissed that she had video and voice sex chat with him when she would never do that with me. She never would text me and tell me how happy she was with me. While I was at work on third shift. Also doing that to someone who has raised your child as his own and be a good father figure to him I felt betrayed. Then the icing on the cake the week before she threw me out I got laid off. Any advice guys and gals?