Well her reason for doing it was messed up. Talk about a kick to the nuts. If my wife told me that I would have to leave because now I will never feel like a man with her. She would never be able to make me feel good about myself ever again. Can we get an update? Just make sure you focus on the kids

you did the right thing, everyone deserves to know what type of woman this is. Unfortunatly though I must say that you need to get your kids dna tested. my own past dictates I tell you to do so. 

lol dumb ass you ruined your family because you couldnt satisfy her and then when she admits to her wrong doing and tries to tell you about it you just get mad and dont listen to anything listen man i get that your pissed and your wife did a really bad thing but she also tried to own up to it people make mistakes and besides this all was because you couldnt satisfy her lol so i sure hope ruining your family was worth it over sex. marriage isnt based off of sex and you let that ruin your life nice job moron

the wifes confession and asking for forgiveness was okay and I probabily live with that and work on reconcilliation. Depending on why and how long. But she really ending this marriage by saying he was inadicate in bed. No man Could live with that. She ended this marriage. Stupid, sad, whatever. Why confess .

The comment above is wise. It's never the fault of women, they will always tell you that it's YOUR FAULT if she wants to get fucked by another man (always a collegue). Don't blame her for being a bitch, blame her for being disprectful to you and let her down. The worst is not being a cuckold, the worst is to be weak.

Im sorry to hear that. So...according to this the emotional state of your marriage was great, but according to her the physical sex wasn't good. You made the right decision leaving her. If a women thinks that sex is bad, she is not suposed to cheat, she is supposed to talk it out with you to make it better. If that is what she thinks then she doesn't deserve you, find someone who will love you for everything. A lot of women say that they prefer a good guy who likes to communicate over a guy who just wants sex. You just need to find one of those women. Good luck :)

almost same thing happen to me . I stayed and trying to work it out.. I wish I left ..but I for the kid I should at least try .Well this is what I did take a look at your marriage. and look at the problems. For me I was drinking a lot and just got out of shape and other things ..her she's was being to controlling putting her job first and being a slut.. Read online thers help on how to make a marriage work and happy  .. It's been 360  I don't really drink and I'm in better shape and she quit her job and we both are pulling our weight.. But it's still hard it still hurts 

I just found out today that my wife cheated on me. I caught her in a lie and forced it out of her. She told me I wasn't making her feel wanted or beautiful but I always told her that she was the perfect woman for me and that I loved her just the way she was. I do love her but this is the second time she's betrayed my trust (the first was within our first  week together as acouple, and she told me straight out. She was going threw some serious stress at the time and I forgave her instantly) I don't want to lose her at all because no matter how much she hurt me I still love her so much, but there's no way she could ever get me to trust her again. We've been married 4 years now and I just don't want to believe it's over. It's hard to move past the great memories we've had together and just leave them behind me. In reality it's what I have to do if I have any self respect but it's just so damn hard. But you can't be with someone you can't trust.

Truth teller your full of shit. You will never know what pain is until it happens to you. You have yet to hit your rock bottom which is why your talking shit. It's easy to think when you don't have a million of negative images going thru your head. He obviously knows what he did was wrong which is why he's asking was it right. He's not an idiot. You are. At then end of the day a relationship is a 2 way street. Either get on or get off

I have been cheated on. Did it hurt? Fuck yes it did. Did I run to Mommy and Daddy, all our friends and family and cry about it? No. That's as much a betrayal of trust as cheating is (to me at least). Images going through your head is a controlable event. You don't have to keep "playing" it over and over. Such hypocrisy in marriage. Most people don't fuck around for no reason. Shit happens and it should be worked out in the marriage. Such fucking babies. 

she tell u the truth

3 years married down the drain plus the one that we had as a couple, i found some messages on her phone asking some dude at work that if he wanted to stay in a hotel with her on the weekend. When i confronted her she spill the beans and said that it was just recent that nothing happened (yeah right) after that she left the house saying that she needs time to think things through and if she really wants to continue with me. At this point am so emotionally attached to my wife that all my life revolves around her, we agreed to go to marriage counseling but i don't know what to do... If i should hate her, give her a chance or if she really wants to be with me. What do you guys think? 

He did the right thing. There is no called second chance when you wife was sleeping with other guy, I know you have kids but lives go on. Why is the purpose of marriage if you keeping thnking if she is ever going to cheat again. There are many single women out there. Live your cheating ex behind. 

If it were me I hope I would have kept the details private. As bad as what she did is its going to hurt your kids, if not now when they are older. At some point you need to take the high road and explain to your children that your wife was not fully at fault. There is no way that you don't have some skin in the situation. How could you not know your wife was not being fulfilled in the bedroom. I find that hard to believe. In between the lines I'm hearing that you feel your wife is a good person that made a horrible error in judgement. 

Children need both parents and need to respect both parents in order to become well balanced adults. Consider ways to build her up to them. I cannot say I would have reacted any differently than you did but its easier to look at what happened from the outside, like you are doing now. Good luck.

You've already divorced your wife, so your option is to find another woman and be happy again.  A lot of feelings and emotions in play here.  A lot of opinions too.  Consider this:  your ex needed to be present in the bedroom (with you) and in your relationship in order for any improvements to be made, if any.  Her choice to deal with the "problem" was to introduce a bigger problem into your relationship.  So not only is she unfaithful, she has a serious deficiency in rational thinking.  Such a combination will lead to further occurrences on her part.  You can "fix" the current problem, but rest assured she'll find another one to justify her actions down the road.  You needed to do what was best for your well being.  Just make sure your kids know that you love them and that you'll always be there for them.